I am a Christian woman who loves to sing songs of praise to God?

Question

since I married my husband i saw after marriage that he never sings outside of church, and he made me feel very uncomfortable to sing by myself, idont like singing by myself. Well recently i decided to record a few songs for an old aunt i have who is too sick to go to church and has no children of her own. i asked my husband to sing at least ONE song with me. He wont sing and gets so upset at me if i try to talk him into it. this is heartbreaking. my aunt might think we're not united but i'm not worried about that, what hurts is that he wont even sing ONE song with me and i know he has a good voice b/c he sings with the whole church sometimes. not sure how to handle this too well it is so upsetting...any advice or thoughts will help. thanks

i ask him why he starts to get irritated...he says i don't want to record myself singing and u have to understand that ok and thats it. i says at least one song hun, he says No.

and its singing WITH me not by himself. :( this is just sad to me...not even one song.

Answer 1

Please don't take this the wrong way ...

But with all the ills this world has, from war to poverty to corruption to lack of faith, it just seems to me that you aren't focusing enough on the things you are blessed with, like a loving husband who attends church with you, and are focusing on something that really shouldn't be a big issue.

What I suggest is that you back off, that you let him be himself. Who knows, when he doesn't feel pressured or believe he feels pressured to do so, you may find him one morning innocently and willingly joining you in the kitchen while you are singing. Let it happen naturally, without him feeling like he is supposed to or expected to.

Answer 2

Its very possible that he's comfortable singing in church with people surrounding him and all singing at the same time. No one is paying attention to him or listening to his voice. He may not even know he has a good voice. The thought of singing on an album for all to hear probably scares him. Its no big deal and you shouldn't push him so. Think of something that he does that he is very comfortable with but you're not. How would you feel if he was pushing you to do something that make you uncomfortable?

Answer 3

Interesting question. One day I was driving and listening to the hugh hewitt show on the radio. I came upon an intersection where many years ago God told me to do something that as it turned out would have dramatically changed my life. But I disobeyed. So on this day when I got to the corner I told him: "Look God, there's where you told me to do something and I disobeyed you. I know you don't remember this because you forgave me and have forgotten about it, but right there was where it all happened. That's the spot where I flushed my life down the toilet!" Hugh Hewitt had been on a break, but the show came back on. The producer always played obscure 70s songs to lead into the next segment of the show, and as I finished telling God this the 70s song came on. It was Don't Look Back by Boston. I, uh, got the point.

Answer 4

Don't pressure him...It is OK if he doesn't sing with you. It does not mean y'all are not united. Let him come to things his way. You bless him with your songs and pray for him and for Gods will in your lives together. Pick your battles, this is not something to get heartbroken over. After church services encourage him by telling him how much you enjoy hearing his wonderful voice....maybe down the road he will come around, but the sure fire way to put up a wall between you guys and to become a couple not united is to pressure him into something he's not comfortable with. In the meantime sing your solo praises to the Lord!!!!

Answer 5

Don't push him to much. He must have some insecurity about singing. If he doesn't want to sing praises to God outside of church, he does have a problem. Instead of pushing him, pray for him. Hope this helps. Sorry you are in that situation. I think i would just "die" (definately over exaggerant) if i got married and my husband didn't want to sing with me. Singing is my ministry in my church and i would love to serve the with him that way.

Anyway this is about you and not me. Pray that the Lord will change his heart. P.S. Don't try to play Holy Spirit. That will really turn him off.

Answer 6

It sounds like you are not communicating very well with him. Maybe he does not enjoy singing a lot. Maybe he feels he fulfills his complete singing obligation in Church, and that's it. You can't force him to do what he obviously doesn't want to do. But you have to sit him down and have a heart to heart and ask him why. None of us know him personally except you, so we can't really help you other than recommending you have a serious chat. It could be just a lack of desire.

Answer 7

perhaps he just feels uncomfortable about it - some people only like singing their praises to God in their place of worship - others, like you (and me!) will sing all the time, wherever we are - everyone is different. I think it is so gorgeous that you are doing this for your aunt - if he doesn't want to, don't push him - perhaps he can instead write some nice words in a card for her to go with the tape, or deliver it to her with some flowers instead to show he cares.

Answer 8

He is obviously an unreasonable fool and you should see about getting those divorce papers through straight away! I bet he also wouldn't play hop-scotch if you asked him to! How have you coped with such cruel insensitivity - you must be a martyr of love.

Or maybe he's on YA asking "Why wont my nagging wife stop bugging me?"
Have you never been embarrassed to do something? I couldnt do what you're asking, it would be too weird.

Answer 9

Your husband's issue may not be his singing voice or that he doesn't like to praise in song. It is possible that he views worship as a very private, intimate experience between only him and God. I think you should do what you are impressed to do, and allow him the liberty to do as he is impressed. His preference is not ungodly. There is nothing to be gained by allowing yourself to be hurt over praise and worship, of all things. You can decide to refuse to take offense. It isn't worth arguing to cause friction in your marriage over worship. How is continuing to insist on your own way pleasing to God? In marriage, we learn that we must choose our battles wisely, and this is not an issue to fight over. Worship is all about loving, serving, and pleasing God. God's love "does not seek its own way," according to I Corinthians 13. Don't allow yourself to make worship a point of contention between you; none of us can afford to let a root of bitterness spring up in our lives.

Answer 10

hye sister in christ???

whats your denomination??
i'm a lutheran my church worship vibrantly because
our praise n worship team vibrant and not so boring...
your husband might be boring with the praise song that your church sing,my church often playing a music from Planet shakers,New Creation Church and etc...
maybe your husband does not move in the spirit
and need an annointing prayer..try to sing a song that is more
high tempo at home or playing a scriptures tape so that the spirit of god will in to your home each day...Walk in His ways and May God's will be done in your lives as you take a step of faith and obedience..

Brother in Christ