HElP!!! Bulemia, Boyfriend, Family and Food!!!?

Question

I'm very strict with my eating calorie wise (I have to be because I'm recovering from bulemia, any slip ups could lead to a relapse). I have no more than 2,000 a day, and no less than 1,700.

Problem is my boyfriend and his family practicly "eat for entertainment". I have to spend all day with them tomorrow to do some family stuff. His parents are also ill-mannered. The last time I was there his mom practiclly force fed me and when I turned food down, his dad had to comment on it. My boyfriend is very understanding of my situation but he has no control over is parents (they are a very ethnic slavic family). How can I make it through tomorrow? How can I turn down food without is seeming like an insult to my boyfriends mom?

I've been dreading it all week and not going is deffinatly not an option. Please help me!

Answer 1

I'm guessing eating is apart of your boyfriend's family or custom and is very important to them. This might not sound good, but you might want to go back to counseling so you can be comfortable eating.
You've made it through step one which is no more binging and purging. now you might want to go back so you can make it through step 2, eating without feeling discomfort.
as for tomorrow. I don't know what they're going to serve but maybe you shoudl stick with the fruits and vegetables and maybe have an occasional meat serving. They are low in calories. So you can eat a lot of them and still stay in your calorie restriction.

Answer 2

I am no counselor but the best thing to do is to tell his parents the situation. If they dont listen to you try and leave the situation or change the subject of the conversation (if there is one) or hav your boyfriend stick up for you. Another possibilty is to bring your own low calorie snack with you and eat that when everyone else is chowing down on their junk food.
Or you can offer to stay a little while at the family gathering and then you and your boyfriend can duck out of there if you want

i hope this helps a little

you probably went over these options in your head but maybe it helps having some else tell you

- Axel the Lizard
Anoka, MN

Answer 3

My best advice is to stick to your guns, and have a sit down with BF - he needs to be able to stand up to his parents for you, after all they are his parents not yours, and wouldn't you talk seriously with your folks if they were causing him problems? If he is unwilling to do this, then (and I know nobody wants to hear this) maybe he is not mature enough to be in a relationship with somebody else.

Btw, I do understand how ingrained peoples interactions with their family is, and how difficult this is for him (already even it is). But part of growing up is developing your own ideas of right and wrong and standing up for the truth even if very influential people in your life disagree.

If all else fails, you can try to compromise by letting yourself eat a bit more for one day and just try to hold it down. The next day you can start fresh... also talking to a friend helps a lot too when going through rough days.

best of luck :)

Answer 4

Maybe you could just try small bites of the things they offer you. If you don't them to know you are recovering you could also say that you weren't feeling well this past week and you don't want to eat too much.

Answer 5

you have a problem there. wut you CAN do, if you want to be healthy, you can eat maybe HALF an apple or sum veggies/ fruits. water with anything helps because you'll lose sum extra calories from the actual food. you can eat a good breakfast/lunch/etc. and tell them that you are too full to eat. hope that answers your question!:)