tomarrow is the 4 year aniversary of my mothers death. and my sister refers to it as dooms day. i just got accepted into college and i want to be happy for that on this day so that i can have a good memory for this day. I also want to encourage my sister to do the same and do something nice for herself. is this wrong?
2007-09-27 15:54:27 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Instead of calling it Dooms Day make a day of Celebrating your mother's precious memory and life. I am sure that your mother would want this and not to remember her passing as dooms day....
And your mother would also be very proud of you enrolling into college too ! So celebrate your mom and the gift that you have to be able to attend college and the awesome opportunity to prosper !! Best Wishes to you !
2007-09-27 16:02:40 · answer #1 · answered by Lunny2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider starting a diary of sorts... and see what sort of positive things happen on the anniversary of the day your mother passed. Tell your sister that your mother loved you guys and on that day she would want you to remember the good times... not just her death. Sit and talk about your good memories of your mother together. Write them down in the book. Make a note that on this anniversary, these are the things you would celebrate together (like your college admission) and tell her that because you miss your mom and mourn her every single day, you'd like for this ONE day each year to be a celebration of her life.
I'm sorry you lost your mom and I hope your sister soon learns to cope the way you have. It's hard. Give her time...
2007-09-27 23:05:43 · answer #2 · answered by thegirlwholovedbrains 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it's bad to make your sister feel the same as you feel. It should be a good thing that you got in to college on the day your mother past away. Because she would of wanted that for you. And your doing something good with your life now. So if your sister don't feel the same them maybe she will come around one day.
2007-09-27 23:03:57 · answer #3 · answered by kingkong 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not wrong. Your sister, will in time like you did hopefully get on with her life. She may take a little longer, than you did. You should be happy, that you were accepted in college. Just remind, her that your Mother would want the two of you to go on with your lives and know that she is alright where she is in God's care. That she will always, love you both. But, that she needs to go on and live her life. Your Mother would you too.
2007-09-27 23:01:27 · answer #4 · answered by That one 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not wrong and is a very good idea. You will always remember your mother and think of her on this day but she would want you to be happy. You cannot make your sister do this if she is not ready but if you try to do things together that are fun and you enjoy it may help her to be able to this with you in time.
2007-09-27 23:03:19 · answer #5 · answered by icemunchies 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely not! What would your mother want you to do? Would she want you to be sad all the time? Everyone grieves in a different way. I have lost a child, my dad, a sister and several good friends and most of it this year. I am also going through a divorce but you can't let grief carry you all the time. If she wants to have that day for her day to remember and grieve then that's alright just as you will have your day.
My son's death is on halloween. I usually try to hide that day as that's my day to remember and grieve and he died in 1984. You never forget but at some point in time the grief is able to be put aside most of the time. On the days it isn't then just use that day for your grief day. Just remember it's different for everyone.
Congratulations on getting admitted into college.
2007-09-28 06:47:26 · answer #6 · answered by grandmabonnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good luck and lots of prayers too you and i think you are doing the right thing by looking at the positive side of you life on a day like that good luck with you sister and soon im shue she will be the same.... her must be having a harder time with evrything
2007-09-27 23:05:42 · answer #7 · answered by sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your mother and miss her so much. You will be sorry on that day always thinking about the loss of your dear mother.
2007-09-27 22:58:19 · answer #8 · answered by live and let live 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO IT IS NOT.YOUR MOM IS ALWAYS WITH YOU IN SPIRIT ,JUST REMEMBER TO ALWAYS REMEMBER HER ON HER ANNIVERSARY.IM SURE SHE WOULD WANT YOU TO DO THAT IN MEMORY OF HER BUT SHE WOULD WANT YOU TO MOVE ON IN YOUR LIFE.HONOR HER IN HER DEATH AND DO SOMETHING GOOD FOR HER IN HER MEMORY IN YOUR LIFE.
2007-09-27 23:01:36 · answer #9 · answered by CHER 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋