She's stubborn and will not seek the help she needs. It's driving me crazy and I can't use physical force, obviously, but she needs something akin to it. Alchoholism is terrible. We are paying the mortgage on a beautiful home together, and I just can't leave her. She's 43, I'm 57. I 've got my own psychlogicalm problems that I am dealing with--anxiety, temper and depression. Can I have her commited to rehab?
2007-09-27 14:27:22 · 15 answers · asked by phil.hurmouth 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I don't think you can commit her because she is your girlfriend.If she is not willing to get help then you need to let her go. She is an alcoholic and evidently wants to stay that way. Maybe he should try AA.
2007-09-27 14:31:50 · answer #1 · answered by Fran 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Want some advice?? Stop being an ABLER. By meekly standing by thats exactly what you are doing. The next time she drink's a few beers before getting in her vehicle and DRIVING (does anybody else want to know what city this woman is in so we can stay away??) PHONE THE POLICE. Do this EVERY TIME she gets in her car after having a few drinks. What she obviously needs is a BIG shock, and wouldn't you rather it be her getting picked up by the police rather then possibly killing someone?? Where would that leave you and your "beautiful" home then hm??
2007-09-27 14:36:03 · answer #2 · answered by Allie K 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG that must be terrible. My mom is an alcoholic. Thats an issue that she always had. Denying EVERYTHING!!!Because denial is frequently a characteristic of alcoholism, it's unlikely that people who are dependent on or who abuse alcohol will seek medical treatment on their own. Often it takes family members, friends or co-workers to persuade them to undergo screening for alcoholism or to seek treatment.Have you tried going to any meetings?? It might help. Eventually family members of people recovering from alcoholism formed a complementary self-help group called Al-Anon. Al-Anon is designed for people who are affected by someone else's alcoholism. In sharing their stories, they gain a greater understanding of how the disease affects the entire family. Al-Anon accepts the 12 steps of AA as the principles by which participants are to conduct their lives. It also emphasizes the need to learn detachment and forgiveness. In many communities, Alateen groups also are available for teenage children of those with alcoholism.
Your doctor or counselor can refer you to an AA group or other local support group. These groups are also commonly listed in the phone book, in the local newspaper and on the Web.
Left untreated, alcoholism can be fatal!!!!!
I am really sorry!! See if you can get into talk to a therapist! They might help you help her from there. I am not sure what to do. I am only 15!
2007-09-27 14:53:04 · answer #3 · answered by 777 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can call your local PD and give them her information type of vehicle her route to work and still remain anonmyous. Advise them she does this on a regular basis and your in fear for her safety as well as the safety of others. Now if the PD fails to do their job it lies in their hands and your not responsible because you did the right thing. Now keep in mind the fines are very expensive but a lot cheaper than innocent lives.
2007-09-27 14:46:35 · answer #4 · answered by fc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello, I don't know what state you're in, but here in wv, you can have a person commited to treatment if they are a danger to themself or others. Certainly she and others are in danger whenever she drinks and drives a vehicle. The place for you to check into this is with the mental health commisioner for your area. Hope this helps it's hard to go thru my family has had to deal with something much the same. God bless you and best of luck.
2007-09-27 14:33:43 · answer #5 · answered by msmamacatt77 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No you can't commit her but what you can do it lay down an ultimatum and stick to it. No matter what.
She needs to realize that the drinking is having negative consequences on her life...before she realizes that she will never stop.
Whatever the ultimatum is you MUST follow through with it if she doesn't agree to get help.
http://www.whatwinnersdo.com
2007-09-28 03:06:01 · answer #6 · answered by erin.savage 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. she needs to go on her own accord. it's dangerous if she is going to work having beers beforehand. even worse if she's driving. she's putting herself and others at risk. doesn't sound like she' s hit rock bottom yet unfortunately. sometimes that's what it takes for someone to quit or admit they have a problem. hang in there. get counseling for yourself if needed, too. there are support groups out there for families/friends of alcoholics. good luck.
2007-09-28 01:53:32 · answer #7 · answered by Shan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot commit someone to rehab, but they can commit themselves. The drinking is a way of dulling pain. Find the pain source and there is your problem...or hers. Its a diffucult situation you are in. My heart goes out to you.
2007-09-27 14:38:43 · answer #8 · answered by BudLt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get yourself help for YOUR dependancy and psychological problems before you can be of any help to her. YOU go to a therapist and a self help group for codependancy (excuse spelling). they are experts and can tell you how to appropriately deal with the situation. (they will tell you to give her an ultimatum-but you have to be ready for that).
2007-09-27 15:43:26 · answer #9 · answered by pandora078 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
call the cops when she leaves for work , maybe they'll pull her over and give her DUI. You have to stop here before she kills some mom taking here kids to school
2007-09-27 14:34:35 · answer #10 · answered by xjoizey 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋