I work at a daycare/preschool and we have different classes for ages 2-4 but we also have school age kids who come in before and after school. I've been having a problem with 3 of the kids. 2 of them are brothers one is 4 and the other is in 2nd grade, The 2nd grader seems to always be the one causing trouble. He refuses to share with his brother and does inappropriate things such as punch him and say rude things to him, he's old enough to know better, and of course this behavior leads to the 4 year old getting upset and refusing to calm down and listen. The older of the two always says he doesn't have to do what we tell him, he can do what he wants, and refuses to listen. It doesn't help that the mom thinks they're both perfect angels! The other child I'm having a problem with is 4 he has an older sister who is very well behaved, and a younger sister who doesn't listen or mind. But he is always climbing on tables, chairs, playing with electrical cords of our game tables...
2007-09-27 13:41:33 · 8 answers · asked by Elizabeth H 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
throwing things, running, spitting at or on teachers, refuses to share with other children, and has even got physical with the other kids, it's very frustrating and I'm concerned with about the safety of other students, and also with the thoughts other parents will have when they drop off their kids and see the commotion of the other kids. There's been two days where the two brothers weren't there and the day was a breeze! What can I do!?
2007-09-27 13:46:31 · update #1
wirte it down and the mom that when this go to school the school will put the kids and a behavior with other kids who dont listen or this can also can be a problem with other parents at the day and she might have to found somewhere to send her kids
2007-09-27 16:02:07 · answer #1 · answered by lbel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the potential problem child at daycare, so this is a view from the other side. Although I am aware of it and it tears me apart.
It would help me out a lot if the daycare provider would write a daily journal about the activities that go on and give it to me each day. Instead I'm stuck calling twice a day to see how it's going.
So my advice is to get some of those composition books they sell for $1-$2 at a Target or something and write one on each child and their activities for the day. Don't put just bad stuff in there. It just makes the parent's feel like dirt (I have this problem as well, there is never a good day... it's always "she was tolerable"... makes me feel horrible even when it has been a good day). Write the good and the bad.
2007-09-27 14:01:27 · answer #2 · answered by Rosebud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, if you have a director at your daycare center, she needs to be aware of the problems you are having. I would suggest that you talk to the children's parents about the behavior and let them know what you intend to do about preventing the them from doing the things they are doing again. I would sit down with the problem children and tell them what you are expect of them and what is and isn't acceptable in the environment they are in. They are certainly old enough to understand the consequences for their actions. Letting the parents know beforehand what your intentions are will help you in the long run. You can talk to them if the they continue to act out. Also, the parents will know your policy. It's best the director knows what your intentions are as well.
2007-09-27 13:56:08 · answer #3 · answered by Hannah's Mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i think i used to have those kids at my daycare! lol. daily reports are your best friend! wait a minute, why is the 4 yr. old in with the 2nd grader? these are two different age groups. the pre-schoolers are separate from the school-agers at my daycare. check your state's statutes. unless it's the first 45 minutes or the last 45 minutes of the day, these two age groups shouldn't be together. at least not where i am in business.
texas daycare owner
2007-09-28 13:13:20 · answer #4 · answered by trace 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Daily Behavior Reports" work great. each child receives a folder with a Calendar glued or stapled inside. Daycare provider puts a happy-face stamp or sticker when the child has a good day... or comments when the child has a bad day. On "bad days" the parents must sign to acknowledge their child's behavior. Never be afraid to express your concerns to the parent. Explain that it is for THEIR childs safety.
2007-09-27 13:50:41 · answer #5 · answered by mighty_mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on what your center and/or state laws are regarding what you can do. Can you kick the kids out? Parents who think their kids are angels are part of the problem and if the parents don't care enough, then there isn't much you can do. I assume punishments are not working??? I'd see what I could do about kicking them out. If they won't behave and the parents don't care, then it's really not your problem! Let these parents find another place for their "angels."
2007-09-27 13:52:13 · answer #6 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell their parents about the behavior they are doing and ask them if it is okay if you discipline them by giving time outs and if its not okay or it doesn't work tell them that their kids are acting bad and they are going to be kicked out if this doesn't stop. Even though they are not your kids sometimes they need that discipline from other people other parents when someone else is watching them
2007-09-27 14:16:03 · answer #7 · answered by Heather S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank you for yet another reminder of why daycare is bad for our children.
2007-09-27 15:24:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋