My Mother is getting remarried in December and she asked me to be her Matron of Honor. The thing is, I live across the country from her and I'm pregnant. I won't be able to make it home for her wedding until about 3 days before (which will be Christmas).
Ok- my questions are...
1) Am I suppose to throw a bridal shower for someone being married for the 2nd time?
2) Do I get them a gift- and if so what in the world could I buy a couple who has everything already?
3) And what else am I missing?
2007-09-27 13:24:34 · 10 answers · asked by Blonde Bombshell 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Whitney, congratulations on the baby. Be sure and see your doctor to make sure it's ok to fly in December. If they say it's fine, then that would be the ultimate gift to your Mother, that you travel across the country to be with her on her happy day.
A wedding shower would be nice, but it's not necessary. What I would do is have a lunch somewhere with a room that you could use for a private gathering of her closest friends. It could be a "honeymoon" shower. Nightgowns, sexy underwear, slippers, things for the honeymoon. Contact some of her friends where she is, and ask for help. I am more than sure that they will be more than willing to help and give you some names of others that could be invited.
You won't feel right unless you bring a gift, but with traveling it's got to be something light and unbreakable. How about a photograph album? A Christmas ornament with their names and wedding date engraved on it. They have special ones for first Christmas together. Give your Mother a blue garter at the shower. It is really the thought that matters, and I know your presence is the most wonderful thing you are giving her.
Are you missing anything? Just be there for your Mother, and be happy for her. Make sure you take some shoes that you can change into if you are wearing heels for the cermoney. You feet will be needing something flat and comfy afterwards.
Sweetie, a healthy daughter and grandbaby will be the most important thing to your Mom. So, take care of yourself, and just being there is the main thing.
Give your Mom our best wishes for the most special and wonderful wedding possible. Congratulations again on the baby.
God bless us all..............
2007-09-27 17:46:01 · answer #1 · answered by totallylost 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
will you be able to fly at that stage of pregnancy?
1)ask her about the shower - she probably won't want one or if she does see if someone else can throw it.
2) I found this site...
http://www.cakepansplus.com/
it has all sized cake pans and lids that you get engraved with "from the kitchen of _________ __________" Its a great gift because it's usually the 1st item with her married name on it and everyone takes a cake to church/school/potluck functions and then has to figure out which pan is theirs at the end of the day based on color of food residue. Its been a HUGE hit at every shower I've taken it too. I get the 9x13 for a friend. A close friend gets a 9x13 and a cake mix & frosting. Family members get a 9x13, cake mix & frosting, and something like a hand mixer or a cake decorating set. Sometimes I include a cake or a potluck dinner cookbook if I find one I like at the supermarket (near the check out lines). Hope this helps!!
2007-09-27 16:53:17 · answer #2 · answered by mender_bender2001 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have lots going on so I would suggest that you talk to one of your moms friends and see if they can head up the shower committie. Nothing big but a small brunch kinda thing would be nice.
I think your presence will be gift enough, but if not then get them something from the heart welcoming your new stepfather into the picture
You mother knows all that's on your plate so if your not fawing over her like a traditional moh then that's ok, she asked you becuase she loves you not becuase you'r best buds and she wants you to be the one who picks out the strippers for the wild bachellorette party :)
2007-09-28 02:36:12 · answer #3 · answered by L H 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask your mum if she wants a shower? She might just prefer a brunch or somethig casual with friends instead, rather than the whole gifts and games thing.
As for presents, why not shout then some accommodation for a weekend away ro something they can do together like a wine tasting, or hot air balloon ride?
2007-09-27 14:19:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about a bridal shower, maybe a luncheon when you get there with her closest friends.As far as a gift give them a gift card to a favorite restaurant. What an honor to be in your Mom's wedding.
2007-09-27 14:06:32 · answer #5 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1) you are across the country from her and pregnant, so IMO if she has other bridesmaids they could plan it, or you could give ideas and advice from afar.
2) if you WANT to give them a gift go ahead, but I'm SURE your mother would understand, you being across the country and pregnant, that you need to spend it on you and the baby's needs.
3) Not sure.
does she have any others standing with her? are they in her area?
I'm sure if you talk to her and the other bridesmaids something can be worked out.
2007-09-27 13:56:46 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-20 04:32:56 · answer #7 · answered by reardigan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First talk to your mom about her expectations for a shower. She may not want one. I would suggest to get them a gift. Since you are flying out for her wedding it would not have to be expensive. since they have everything go for something creative that thwy would normally not get for themselves. Do they enjoy wine? Find a local place that does wine tasting and get a gift certificate. Do they like movies? movie tickets. Do they like to travel? Books with travel information on locations they'd like to visit. Etc. etc.
I would just suggest to be in touch with your mom and help her anyway you can! I'm sure it will all work out fine! Good luck!
2007-09-27 13:31:37 · answer #8 · answered by Reba 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
1) no you don't need to throw her a bridal shower
2) if you were my daughter, just having you there would be present enough!
3) nothing....relax (congrats on the baby)
2007-09-27 14:04:45 · answer #9 · answered by abc 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
beg off not appropriate since you are pg
2007-09-27 16:16:35 · answer #10 · answered by Nora 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋