My girlfriend and I have been together for two months, and yes, we are both girls. We're both fifteen years old. Her mother found out just last sunday that the two of us were together.. she didn't even know either of us was gay. Since, she's called the school and asked that I be kept away from my gf as much as possible, and has gotten teachers to request that I not help with homecoming this weekend. She now wants to move my gf to a new school, and has said she is going to get a restraining order put against me.. Can she do that if I've done nothing harassing to her? She wants to only because she thinks I turned her daughter gay.. would that be enough to have the order set?
2007-09-27 12:37:44 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
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2007-09-27 13:09:59 · answer #1 · answered by Charlie Fingers 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In the state of Ohio the parent sets the rules for their children. The rules of the parents are to be adhered to by their children. If mom says that you can't be with your girlfriend and you do it anyway that is considered being an unruly juvenile. The parents can request you be charged with being an unruly juvenile with the probable cause being the parent said that you were not allowed to be with said person and you were. Now that you were charged there are grounds that a restraining order can be issued. I have seen it done time and time again. It sounds like you have an arguable defense but the parent does not have to say why they dont want you to be around a certain individual. As long as the parent is not neglecting or putting the child in harm the law will side with the parent. Once you turn 18 you are deemed an adult and your parent no longer can impose their rules on you. However, if you still are living under their roof you need to use good judgement. It is not as easy as you think to live on your own the first couple of years. Good luck in your future.
2007-09-28 05:17:19 · answer #2 · answered by RedMan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to approach this in a rational manner. If you were a boy and mom did not want you to see her daughter, then could she get a restraining order if the mother wants to keep you, a boy, from her kid? Her daughter is not of age to make a decision. If you come around her house, do anything to upset the mother, she will get you restrained. Fifteen year olds have little in the way of rights.
Check with legal aid, also check with a gay or lesbian group, they will know the law in your state. Sorry the world is the way it is. It is not fair.
2007-09-27 20:22:24 · answer #3 · answered by Songbyrd JPA ✡ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your gf is 15 years old. As long as she lives in her parents home -she follows her parents rules. And now the rule is she not see you. I suggest you respect her mothers wishes and move on. If her mom just found out her daughter is gay - that's a heck of a shock to adjust too and something that needs to be worked out between them.
2007-09-27 20:38:31 · answer #4 · answered by Boots 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A restraining order for that reason probably wouldn't hold up if it were appealed.
But, if you are both minors; your girlfriend's parents can say that you are not around their daughter. They could charge her as an unruly juvenile for defying their rule by being around you. They could also have you charged with contributing to the unruliness of a child (at least in Ohio).
Homesexual or heterosexual, you are not the first person a parent has forbid to date their child. It may not be what you want to hear, but you both are really somewhat at the mercy of your parents. 18 is not as far away as it seems.
2007-09-27 19:55:20 · answer #5 · answered by Kevin 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
She can forbid her daughter from seeing anybody she wants. As for the restraining order, it doesn't take a whole lot to get one. It will not be based on you being gay but on the fact that the mom believes you are a bad influence on her daughter and continue to see the daughter after being told not to by mom.
2007-09-27 19:43:37 · answer #6 · answered by LEO53 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. A restraining order is reserved from protecting a person or persons from harm. You are completely within your rights to continue visiting your girlfriend whenever you want. However, try to stay away from her house, her mother is within her rights to tell you to stay away from her home and if she asks you to leave, do so, don't fight her or threaten violence. Hopefully your girlfriend is understanding and truly cares about you as I imagine you both have difficult times ahead.
2007-09-27 20:11:26 · answer #7 · answered by Frenchghost 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She can put a restraining order on you no matter how stupid the situation is. And if you do not obey the order, you can and will be arrested. All she has to do is call the cops and tell them that she has a restraining order on you and they will take you in. if I were in your situation, I would just move on and leave that chick alone. Your in what.. Highschool? there will be many other people to date. Promise.
2007-09-27 19:48:47 · answer #8 · answered by social conflict 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, that is not possible She can just choose not to be around you if that is what she wants. She has no control over what her daughter does, and should not be forcing her to move to a new school.
2007-10-05 19:18:31 · answer #9 · answered by Girlygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her mom is being homophobic towards you. Don't worry, you didn't do anything wrong against the law. She can't put a restraining order on you.
2007-09-27 19:46:36 · answer #10 · answered by *smile* 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No restraining order can be put against you.
2007-09-27 19:41:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋