i know, i know. it's not proper to include gift details or gift preference anywhere in the invitation as guests aren't expected to bring gifts in the first place. But we all know for a fact that guests DO bring gifts and since I'm getting married in a place halfway around the planet, I'm not planning on boxing and shipping back home all the boxed gifts we will receive. We would love to receive cash as gifts but we don't want to sound as if we're asking for it.
Any suggestions on how to deal with this? Thanks!
2007-09-27 11:55:56 · 12 answers · asked by tangerine 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'm getting married in my home land, halfway around the planet and majority of my guests are locals of that country. So I have a good feeling we'll receive boxed gifts! I don't want to leave them behind but i won't have room for them. what to do????!!! oh well...
2007-09-27 12:15:27 · update #1
maigen_obx, i admire your intellectual capacity but no one said my guests are stupid. it's just called being proactive! thanks for your opinion though but there's no need to be sour...
2007-09-27 12:48:57 · update #2
NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i really like the idea of giving out the maid of honor's phone number (with her permission of course) for details. this could mean letting her tell them where to buy gifts or how to get somewhere - or you might make a website (if you know how to do that) that has maps, times, locations, hotel info/links, and registry links but make it so its not right out in the open. you can have pics of you two throughout your engagement/planning/shower etc.
make sure all registries say (and whoever you want to be your spokesperson) that you wish you're gifts to be sent to your house. you'll probably still end up with some at the wedding but not as many.
good luck and congrats!!!
2007-09-27 12:11:59 · answer #1 · answered by mender_bender2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I personally think it's tacky, sorry:-( I do understand how you feel, though! One of my children's birthdays is Dec. 18th and the other is Dec. 31st! It's overwhelming to have it all come at once. Anyway, most people going to a birthday party for a child will either ask what the child wants/likes/needs and many times will give a gift receipt along with the present. If neither of those two things happen, most children's gifts are bought at Walmart, Toys R Us, and other big chains anyway. It's easy to go just exchange the gift.
2016-05-20 02:17:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's tacky to put gift details on the invitation no matter what the circumstance. You'll just have to count on your guests to have the common sense not to bring boxed gifts to a destination wedding. Generally guests will send gifts to your home anyway.
2007-09-27 12:21:16 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should not include gift info on your invites. it's plain tacky.
Make sure your maid of honor knows that you are saving for whatever and she is the one who should pass that info on if people ask.
If you have a website dedicated to your wedding (and so many people do now), indicate that you and your beloved are working hard to save for a whatever and keep your gift registry short. If most of your guests are also traveling 1/2 way around the world they will not want to haul a gift with them either.
Keep in mind, this is not a fundraiser. Don't just want cash becasue you want cash. Let people know that you are saving for a new house or larger apartment or car or whatever.
2007-09-27 12:04:28 · answer #4 · answered by Edith Anne 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
A friend of mine included a little card with their wedding registry information on it. I know many people don't approve of that and think it's ill mannered but I happen to think it's brilliant. If you having a large wedding, you can't possibly get your registry information out to all the guests. And no, not all guests are familiar with registries or will ask about them. Go for it! Just don't have the registry put on the invitation itself. Put it on a separate card. Best of luck :)
2007-09-28 08:38:17 · answer #5 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi and congratulations!
I do understand your frustration....but in the end, there IS NO polite way to say this. I see in your second post you say that most of the guests will be from that part of the world.
I think most of your guests will figure it out for themselves. "Gee, honey, let's not get her that dish set....she will have to haul it back to the U.S......why not give her some cash in a card?" You will just have to hope that your guests are smart enough to figure out your logistics problem. If not.....Fed Ex and UPS is all you can do!! Good luck!
2007-09-27 12:45:41 · answer #6 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your wedding party spread the word that you'd prefer they send gifts the your residence and bring a card?
2007-09-27 12:56:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the high road, and do not ask for cash. People will not want to drag things through airports, so most likely they will give you cash. Just smile, and accept whatever you get, then
deal with it. And write those thank you's promptly!
2007-09-27 11:59:52 · answer #8 · answered by M S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
On the invitation simply explain: Enjoying your company on our special day, is the best gift we could receive. Please do not bring gifts, for shipping them home may result in a minor disaster. Thank~You ! Nobody wants their money to be wasted on something that could break or be lost. I would not feel offended if this came in my invitation!! It does not look as though you are begging for money at all.
2007-09-27 12:08:38 · answer #9 · answered by Peng-you 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Could say something along the lines of while you appreciate the thought that goes into selecting a special gift, shipping costs are expensive, so please don't feel obligated to buy a gift.... It doesn't flat out say you don't want gifts (because people will give them anyway I am sure) but says you don't want big heavy gifts????
IDK
2007-09-27 12:55:10 · answer #10 · answered by Asked and Answered 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋