Parents, what did you do when your patience was running low and there's no one there to help with your baby?

Question

Like when you've had no sleep for 2 days straight, and the house is a mess because there's no one to help with the cleaning and the baby won't allow you to take a shower or do basically anything and you're all alone?

Answer 1

Okay I was a single mom once. What I did was put the baby in the little bouncy thing and set it on vibrator mode. She loved it and left me alone to sleep.
You are in control of the baby not the other way around.
You must make sure the baby is comfortable and safe and take a nap. Its okay! Just place her in her crib. If she cries- whoop dee do- that's what babies do.(as long as she safe and not hungry or wet its okay to let her cry a little).
Put her in the bouncy thing on the floor of the bathroom while you shower or bathe.
You have to learn to adapt to this new lifestyle. It aint easy but it is possible.

Answer 2

If you feel like you're at a breaking point, there is nothing wrong with putting the baby in the playpen and taking a few minutes to take a shower or just a break.
You could also try putting the baby in a sling to give you use of both of your arms to get some things taken care of, they usually really like that.
As far as housework - let it go until you get into the swing of being a parent, it will wait.

Answer 3

First of all - it's okay if you get so stressed - I did - most of us do. Put your baby in the crib. If he/she cries - well - tell yourself it's good for his/her lungs. (it is btw) Go take a shower. The baby may have cried him/herself to sleep (and this is OK too) if so - take a nap with your baby. If not, check, make sure he/she is OK. Pick up your baby and rock for a while. You love your baby, but sometimes you have to love you. I don't know your complete situation but believe me, babies don't have to be held 24/7. It's OK to let them cry for a while (obviously within moderation)

I wish you the best - if you have a friend or relative don't feel bad about asking for help. I will pray for you and your baby. Most of all - remember this - if it ever crosses your mind that you are not a good mother because you lose patience - don't buy into it. As long as you take care of your baby, make sure he/she is clean, fed and looked after, don't hurt him/her and love that baby with all your heart - you are a good mother.

God bless
fishergirl

Answer 4

Sometimes you need you time! Put the baby in his or her crib and go do what you need to. Turn the moniter on so you can hear. Letting a baby cry isn't a bad thing even though we as moms have a hard time doing that and not comforting the baby. You need to be able to do certain things though like shower and breathe. Take a little break mama.. Its ok.

Answer 5

Put the baby somewhere that's safe like his crib or his swing or playpen and go outside.

Just close the door behind you, screaming baby or no screaming baby and IGNORE him for ten FULL minutes... think happy thoughts..

If you need to clean, or shower, put the baby in his crib and let him cry. Crying isn't a bad thing, unless there's a reason for it (pain or hunger), so it isn't going to hurt the baby to be left to cry for a bit...

That was my approach.. I figured that if Mommy was about to have a nervous breakdown the baby would be a lot worse off then if I put him in his crib for a short time....

Answer 6

I get through it by reminding myself everyday that one day they are going to grow up. Im alone most of the day with my nearly 3 month old baby and let me tell you, he is a handful. There has been times that hes screaming and I just have to put him in his crib and cry myself. Its rough being a new parent, especially when you are isolated. I feel for you, I really do. Just take it one day at a time. Sleep when your baby sleeps. Put him in a sling or a front carrier and get the housework done. Invest in a little radio with some headphones to give yourself a moment of peace. Its okay to put your baby down and let him/her cry when you need a break. The baby will be okay and you will get through this. Trust me, Im right there with you!

Answer 7

Just put the baby down in their crib and leave the room. it's OK if they have to lie there crying for a little while. It's better that you take a break and have some sanity than to be low on patience and near the point of losing your mind.

Answer 8

There were times when my daughter was a baby that she would cry and cry (colic) and I just couldn't take it anymore. If I thought I was getting so frazzled that I might yell at her, I'd lay her down in her crib, shut the nursery door, and take five minutes to calm down.
Another option is to try to find another mama who is in the same situation as you. Trade an hour here and there where one of you watches both babies while the other one shops, cleans, takes a nap, whatever. Be sure it goes both ways.

Answer 9

Take the time for your self ,put child in rocker or any thing that u have put in bathroom with you so they can see u.
Another thing start using music set the room up for day sleep. Go away have a break let them cry a little they will get used it it.
Clean up in bits room by room. It might take all day but who cares
Found ways to help your child. feeding properly. good luck the first few months are so hard. it gets better

Answer 10

Ok, how old of a baby are we talking??
Cause if he/she is a few months old, put them in a bouncy seat, or if they are able to sit up and hold their head up, put them in a walker, put them in the bathroom with you. I have done that several times when my daughter was younger.
Or while they are napping, take a shower. You should utilize their sleeping/napping as your free time.
That or look into a sitter, even if its for an hour or 2 a day, it would be beneficial.