Are they always as busy as they say or is this person just avoiding me? They always say sorry for not being in touch as they have been busy training for Afghanistan but feel deep down they might be avoiding me. Am I being unfair? Not sure what someone in the military really does.
2007-09-27 10:14:01 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Military life (especially right before a deployment) is VERY busy - and even that is an understatment. The unit my hubby is with mobilized on a monday, the following monday they were on a plane to CA to do tons of training before going overseas. Being active duty in the military is more than a 40hr/week job.
So, since i don't know your friend, you have to make the final judgement. From past experience, when the guys (and gals) in the military say they are busy with training, they aren' lying.
Good Luck! :o)
2007-09-27 10:19:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
UK
I'm afraid your friend is probably telling the truth. Especially if part of a front line unit.
The days of deploying and then returning to the UK for a spot well earned leave are long gone after 10 years of New Labour & the 8 cutbacks they have forced on our armed forces.
Nowadays they return and are informed immediately when and where their next deployment will be.
Some of theses men are owed leave which is on a ridiculous scale. The biggest insult is - they are refused leave requests due to "training and operational commitments" but the MOD will not give pay in lieu. They can only carry over 21 days to the following year even though their entitlement is for a great deal more.
There is also, supposedly, meant to be a minimum gap of 12 months between deployments. That has long since been thrown in the bin.
I can only give you my sons unit as an example of the situation.
Returned from Afghanistan October 2006. Deployed to Afghanistan August 2007.
My son was entitled to 73 days leave at the end of 2006. He had 2 weeks at Christmas, carried over 21 days and lost the rest. This year he has had 14 days leave due to training commitments. He will lose all his entitlement for this year as deployed till March 2008 as will only be able to carry over 21 days again.
Most units in the armed forces are undermanned with many being deployed in that state. General Dannatt has stated many times to those willing to listen that our forces are "overstretched, over tired and under funded". One day the British people may take heed of his words.
2007-09-27 20:16:34 · answer #2 · answered by one shot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the military. As a junior officer in a combat helo squadron, I averaged between 80-100 hours a week on the job. Infantry Marines, a little more.
Mon, 5 am-6pm.
Tues, 4 am go to the field for training.
Fri, get back in the late morning or early afternoon. Spend rest of day cleaning gear and barracks.
Sat -Inspection
Sat noon-liberty
Sat noon plus 5 mins. sleep for a couple of hours
Sat eve- go to town, see a movie, eat out
Sun do more laundry, relax, back by certain time.
Mon-do it again.
This was during peace time.
2007-09-27 10:29:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are probably real busy. Training for a long deployment is not fun and you have to do alot of work way in advance before even leaving.
I would just try and be supportive and not pressure them. I'm sure when they get a few minutes they will be more than happy to hook up with you.
2007-09-27 10:20:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-28 23:24:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi kdee, i dont think they are avoiding you, i also have a friend, doing the same sort of thing, and they too are very busy, they dont get much of a social life, and time to them some times is none existant, catch you soon blue
2007-09-27 12:39:42 · answer #6 · answered by bluebrancall 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even when they're not training for deployment they're forever busy. My husband's been home for like 3 days max this week. You've just gotta get used to it.
2007-09-27 10:20:24 · answer #7 · answered by manders 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
alot of times they are in the field training at weeks at time sometimes...dont feel like people are avoiding you b/c that may not be the case....if they are busy more than likely they are....
2007-09-27 10:27:38 · answer #8 · answered by infantry_wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They could be avoiding you. But pre-deployment times are crazy and people don't have a whole lot of time on their hands. And it's a stressful time.
2007-09-27 10:19:57 · answer #9 · answered by beanie_babymama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are training, they keep you on your toes and keep you guessing. Being busy would be a break, it's much worse than being busy.
2007-09-27 10:18:03 · answer #10 · answered by Yo it's Me 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋