Is there anyone here who has had an abortion and is glad that they had that option?

Question

I am. I don't know what all these Christian groups are talking about when they refer to the HUGE GUILT women have afterwards... I had one when I was 19..birth control failed, I was not in a position to care for a child at that point, financially or otherwise, and now I have two wonderful children. I've never looked back, and have never felt sad or guilty about it. Not many people talk about this kind of thing, but I know there are people like me out there, arent' there?

Answer 1

That is your choice. I personally believe abortion is murder to a child after 12 weeks there is a heartbeat.

Answer 2

I cant have one myself, but a previous partner of mine had three when we were together (over the course of 5 years and we used two kinds of BC every time). I dont regret it one bit. Last I heard (about a year ago) she was still working for Planned Parenthood.

I can also think of 4 close friends right off the bat (including my current wife) who've had them and dont regret it. All 4 of these people petition and do letter writing and such for Planned Parenthood.

If you go into it with proper education and knowing what youre doing then it is not likely you'll regret it. If you panic and make a split second decision its a totally different case. That is why it should not have the stigma it has, that is what causes the guilt, not being able to talk it out before hand and really make the decision. The problem comes in when you feel forced into it.
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Also the belief that all children will be taken if only carried full term instead of aborted has to stop. That is obviously not the case or there would not be so many children up for adoption in the world right now. Unfortuantely children are not a scarce thing that there is a shortage of. They are everywhere, they are constantly cared for poorly, and they are frequently unwanted.

Answer 3

I didn't, but I would have. I was married, in my 20's, had one child. My husband lost his job. I didn't have a good one. We had bill collectors calling & knocking on the door. I missed a period. (due to stress) I went to get a blood test, which was quicker at the time. I wasn't pregnant & my gynecologist tied my tubes, even though I was in my 20's & only had one child. He is the same one who delivered my daughter. If I had been pregnant at that time in my life, I would have had an abortion. I never regretted my decision. (my birth control failed with my daughter.....copper 7 IUD).
If the Christian groups would promote birth control, there wouldn't be so many pregnancies.

Answer 4

I agree that a woman should have a baby when she is ready. There are many cases where a woman is forced to have the baby, but she cant provide for them and in sometimes doesnt even love the baby. And there are cases like some people here who decided to wait til they were ready and they were able to provide and love for their kids.

So which one is the bigger sin?

Sparing a child from a miserable life by getting an abortion? Or getting one and then when ready to be a mother, providing and caring for their child?

I think we know which one it is.

Answer 5

I never had one, but I feared I might be pregnant once. It was a very unpleasant feeling.
Before you scream about irresponability - we used a condom, but i had slipped off partially. In no way did I want a child. I took the morning after pill and hoped for the best. I started looking for abortion clinics just in case. I still had a year of college to go. My boyfriend and I live far apart. In no way was I planning on mothering a child. I'm glad the option exists, and I'm glad my family would have accepted it.
That being said, I'm glad I did not have to have one.

Ps: I have a friend who fell unexpectedly pregnant and is younger than me. She is glad to have it however, and I support that a 100 percent too. It's about having the option.

Answer 6

I know that there are women out there who are glad they had the option rather than carry an unwanted pregnancy and possibly unwanted child.

When I was twelve, one of the girls in my class (a friend) was raped by an instructor at our Catholic school. If she had become pregnant, she might have been forced to have a child she did not want, when she was still a child herself. Fortunately she never became pregnant, but it is still an important option to have.

Answer 7

Good for you. Although I do not support teaching young girls about Abortion as a first resort birth control method. But I think that it should be an option. I wish more "Christian" mothers would talk to their daughters about the reality of sex instead of just telling them It is a sin unless you are married. That wont stop most teenagers.

Answer 8

I had one when I was 22. I was using a condom at the time so don't think I was being lax on contraceptives. I was just unlucky. I don't regret my decision because it was the best one to make at the time. I wasn't ready to have a child.

I'm glad I had the CHOICE!

I know some people are voicing adoption as the way to go but I honestly don't think I could carry a pregnancy to term just to give my baby away.

My best friend also had an unwanted pregnancy much younger than I was and she also chose to abort. She doesn't regret it because it would've hindered her schooling and career.

Answer 9

Funny thing about the groups that talk about the guilt trips....theyre usually made of men
There was this one antichoice site....had pics of their rallies....98% were men...all foamin at the mouth over something that doesnt concern them.
I mocked the *president* of that org about the pics..he took 'em down a week later LOL

Answer 10

Personally I never had one but my friends have, and they don't regret their decision and if I was ever in that situation I would be glad to have a choice!!