Who are better at communicating...Men or Women??

Question

I think that women, and I am a guy saying this are better communicators by far then us guys! It seems like we give more one sentence answers, where women are better at describiing what it is they want, commenting with much more compassion and thought>

Guys and girls are welcome to answer!

Answer 1

Musicman I have to agree with you 100%. My wife and I saw a play a few months ago called Defending The Caveman. It was exactly what you are speaking of and how men continue to be the hunters in relationships and women act as the gatherers. How we communicate is so very different and comical at times. Guys who haven't seen each other for long periods of time might very well say "you still driving that old piece of crap" meaning nice to see you or whatever. Women on the other hand will actually sit down and look at each other and share what has been going on in there lifes and talk about things. And men and women communicating together is like oil and vinegar. Both ends of the spectrum are at play and people need to really actively listen to what is being said or things can and do get confused.

Answer 2

It depends on what and why you are communicating.

There's an old truth that basically says that women communicate with their emotions while men communicate with logic.

WOMEN are much more in touch with their feelings, but
sometimes feelings are not needed to get the point across. Even sometimes in relationships, women can get so caught up in the emotion of the moment that they forget the reasoning or logic that brought them to this point in the relationship.

MEN are "Point A to Point B" reasoners and tend to view situations from a "big picture" viewpoint. This, unfortunately, leaves out a lot of necessary details. However, if what is needed is clarity, this method would be more efficient.

WOMEN are great at the details of a conversation or situation and are great at multi-layering their responses, which many times will confuse a man because he thinks the answers should be clearer. This method would be very effective for when greater details are needed.

MEN are more blunt and to-the-point in their thinking, which will many times cause women to respond to them in emotionally negative ways. Men seems to connect the dots very quickly, but then do not communicate each step from each dot.

Women tend to be more concerned about the details such as tone of voice, body language, eye contact, and more. Whereas, men want succinct clarity and to move on.

So which is better? I say it depends on what you want to hear.

Answer 3

I agree with your overall point that there are some things that women tend to do better than men, and vice versa. It's also important to remember though that the variation *within* each gender is usually more than the difference between genders. For example, while men are generally considered to have better mathematical skills than women, a man with average male maths skills (i.e. better at maths than 50% of men and worse than the other 50%) is not going to be better at maths than *all* women - just better at maths than, say, 55% of women, and worse than 45%. I'll add a few notes on some of your observations though. Regarding driving, I'm probably not one to talk. I don't have a licence and have never taken a lesson. Perhaps I'm just naturally awesome at driving; perhaps not: never know until you try. But jobs where people are likely to be driving along unfamiliar roads - taxi drivers, delivery drivers, etc - are overwhelmingly male professions. Most women drive for personal rather than professional reasons - to work, back home, to the shops, to the kids' school, to friends' houses. Driving along familiar roads, you're less likely to have an accident. Obviously, these are generalisations, but I think this is likely to be a big factor. Regarding women cooperating better, that could equally be phrased as men being better than women at working independently.

Answer 4

Men.

Quite simply, when a man chooses to communicate he is generally direct, and there is little ambiguity in what he says.

Women are less direct, and considerably more ambiguous.

How many times have you asked a woman a question only to get a response that, because it is so muddled and ambiguous, leaves you with less of an understanding than you had before you asked?

Ask a man "What color is that?" He might say "Red."

A typical womans response might be...

"Well it is a kind of red, you might say its a maroon, or perhaps more of a rust color rather than just red. Oh, that reminds me, did you know that the color red isn't as bad as you might think? I always thought red makes you mad but I saw a show on Discovery that did a study on how colors affect people, and it really isn't true. They also studied bulls, you know the bulls they use in bullfighting? Well anyway, ooh I liked the red this one matador had in his outfit. It was bright, and well just nice ya know? Anyway, the bulls didn't care whether the matadors used red, blue, green, whatever, they just went after the motion. It was pretty neat how they proved it wasn't the color. So, anyhow, I'd say the color is red, what do you think?"

Which sex is the better communicator?

Please, it isn't even close, lol.

Answer 5

Its not on whose better, we just communicate differently. I read an article on it this morning and it totally made sense!

Women communicate with more compassion and consideration of the other person not wanting to make that person uncomfortable but to make them feel equal. Men on the other hand talk to each other and try to be top dogs, never wanting to appear lower. This is why men don't ask for directions and rather find out the way on their own.

Answer 6

I wouldn't say that either is better just because of their gender.

Women will say twice as many words as men in the same amount of given time. But did they actually communicate anything?

Guys tend to be more straightforward and to the point.

Women ARE more experienced talking about feelings - but we are brought up to do so. I prefer my man to not be so touchy-feely about how he feels about things... there is much to be appreciated about the masculine way of expressing feelings...

I know lots of women who can talk for hours, but never really communicate (I guess it depends on your interpretation of communication). I also know men who can with one look communicate far more than a thousand words.

So - in closing - I don't really think either has leg up just because of their gender. And judging by my post - I'm one of those crazy females that can talk for hours and say really nothing at all. LOL!

Answer 7

Because the mens penis is more active that the creative side of their brain unless its about sex. (:

But women feel deep emotions and have a better concept on understanding things which is why we can explain things better.

If a guy feels a heart ache, he'll say his heart hurts
If a girl feels a heart ache, she'll say my heart is aching and turning and suffering like a fish out of water. Something like that.

But I have a boyfriend and before i met him i asked him what he looked for in a woman, he said, "blonde, beautiful eyes and beautiful. She would be nice."

He didn't ask me what i looked for. But I would say, " A guy who will cry and has emotions and will show them. Will open up to me like i would to him. Gorgeous grey/blue eyes. He would perfer cuddling over sex, etc."

Just we expect more. Most guys want sex with a busty girl. Or with a booty.

Guys say they dont look for much and if they get what they want they just want more. But they arent that detailed. Some are but most arent. which is really disappointing for us women.

We like details. And if you plan on going after a girl, the little things matter. Like flowers with a personalized detailed note. And when shes around or her friends, dont look at other girls. It makes her think youre really commited and she will fall in love easier.

Answer 8

In general, women are better and more open communicators. Our sex tends to be naturally expressive, nurturing, and caring so we talk about feelings and try to encourage others to do so.

Of course not all women are that way, and some guys are very open and good communicators...there are always exceptions.

Answer 9

That all depends on the topic of conversation.

For Instance when it comes to communicating with a b/f or significant other or even a guy they like.... girls suck at that.. they put out tooo many hints.. too much beating around the bush.. for example

Your taking your wife out for dinner.. you ask
Honey, where do you want to eat..
She replies.. Oh it doesnt matter to me.
now as a man im thinking ok. McDonalds, Taco Bell.

What the woman really means is
BOY YOU BETTER REMEMBER WHERE I LIKE TO EAT.. YOU BETTER REMEMBER WHAT KIND OF FOOD MAKES MY STOMACH HURT.. YOU BETTER REMEMBER IM ALLERGIC TO SEA FOOD.. YOU BETTER KNOW WHERE I WANT TO EAT...

On the other hand, when it comes to intellectual conversation.. women would definately win that because the men dont know when to stop talking.

-Will

Answer 10

I've met both men and women that are good at communicating. I think it probably has a good deal to do with how they were raised and their personality. I don't think you can generalize something like this and get a correct answer.