He has offered few details except that it has nothing to do with me. He said he is unhappy and wants to fix things in his own life. The only thing I know is he is unhappy at his job. But, he is in the process of getting a new one. I tried not to ask questions. But, twice I have asked! What exactly do you need to fix? How long is this going to take? I never get a straight answer, he just basically says he is not sure why he was so unhappy. That something is wrong with him, not me. The 2 times that I asked questions, he ended up saying forget this You need to move on. Only later with my convincing he would change his mind. Since he has been gone he confuses me because he calls, texts, and visits. It is so hard on me. I cry all the time (not in front of him) I did go on a few dates, but he said it hurts him. I just agreed to not date, but that we needed to have no contact. This is killing me, should I be patient and give him time? He treated me really good, and I miss him!
2007-09-27 09:43:57 · 10 answers · asked by Kimberly H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do yourself a favor and give him the space he asked for. It's good you told him you need to have no contact - that's what you should be doing- cut off all ties (no texts, calls, etc.,) and if you absolutely have to respond to any of his calls/texts be real short. Whatever it is that's going on with him the bottom line keeps coming back to him wanting space so give it to him and if he comes back you'll know it's b/c he wants to be with you and loves you, not for the wrong reasons. Best of luck - I know it's hard, but you can live without him.
2007-09-27 09:51:00 · answer #1 · answered by needstoknow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kimberly if you believe that he is being 100% with you then it is more than worthwhile giving you both some time to sort things out. Absence they say does make the heart grow fonder and I personally believe it. Perhaps your man should go and speak with his doctor and let him know how he has been feeling and what has been going on his life. There may be something wrong either phyically or emotionally with this poor fella. Allow him time to get his head together if you want this relationship to be able to work out. But also let him know that you are there as an ear if he needs it. If you think or feel that he has moved out because he wants to play house with others then close this chapter of your life. But from what you have explained it sounds like he is going through some rather emotional and confusing events in his life and he needs time to sort things out and doesn't want to bother you with these conflicts. Best of luck to you both.
2007-09-27 09:52:45 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww, honey, I'm sorry. I know how you feel, but this is the omega of you guys. The beginning of the end. He's dissatisfied, so much so that he can't even pinpoint why, or he's just not saying. He's still controlling you emotional because he still cares and is confused or wants to make he can come back whenever he'd like. You need to realize that you have a lot of healing to do and a lot of work ahead of you. Start now, and don't stop dating just because he said it hurts him, you can't base your life decisions off some guy who is hurting you and doesn't want to be with you anymore.
2007-09-27 09:49:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he really needs time off. To a guy, to have a job is a very big thing! It is a boost to his ego & he identifies with it.
To lose his job is also a big thing. It is a big cut into his ego. So maybe he feels that he is not good enough for you now.
Just tell him that you are there for him if he needs you. Then you can decide how much time you want to give him to recover. After the decided time, move on with your life & you are free then to look for another boyfriend if you want
2007-09-27 09:49:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same has just happened to me.. but I just got married 1 month ago.. .. I cry all the time its just awful not knowing wats going on.. my husband wont even speak to me he just left saying he is not sure if he loves me any more and he needs time to think..dont know wat advice to give u but i know how u must be feeling. Try and keep yourself busy if he loves you he will come back to you but just look after yourself.
2007-09-27 10:26:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's fooling around with someone else and wants to keep you on hold in case it doesn't work out. Dump the loser now and get on with your life. "Need space" "Need time" "Need time to think" all mean the same thing.
2007-09-27 09:48:45 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My experience with this (it has happened to me twice) they aren't coming back. I wouldn't wait around. He is getting everything he wants and needs from you and you get nothing. I would move on
2007-09-27 09:48:49 · answer #7 · answered by Scout729 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
there is something seriously going on, he's probably not happy w/himself not you. he wants to let you go so you don't need to see his pain.give him some space but be there for him. talk to him and tell him that you love him and will stand by him whatever it takes. he really need some convincing.but don't nag him about how long its gonna take.
2007-09-27 09:51:25 · answer #8 · answered by Adrienne L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
..WOW!!....one of you two is suffering from anxiety and depression here darling....guess which one of you two it is seriously? It might be both of you two if neither of you two wants to communicate properly here with one another anyways....you both sound as if you two need some counseling otherwise.
2007-09-27 09:53:16 · answer #9 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't wait for him. If he says it hurts him, tell him he's welcome to come back and try again.
2007-09-27 09:51:46 · answer #10 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋