my 2 1/2 year old son refuses to share toys with my 9 mo. old son and has started hitting him and getting in his face being mean , any suggestions on how to get him to quit and realize everything is not his thanks
2007-09-27 09:42:18 · 18 answers · asked by Charlee 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Set the hose on him? I'm kidding, he's only 2.5 so he's pretty young for an in-depth conversation. I think time outs removal of his favorite toy for a short period until he calms down. you can try to teach him to play nice but again, at 2.5 he;s not gonna get it and just get frustrated and angry.If you see him being nice to baby brother reward it, if you see him being mean remove him from the situation for a bit. Nature is full of sibling rivalry, it's a survival skill, and toddlers are pretty animalistic at this point! Birds to it to nest mates in competition for food and the runt of a litter or last one born usually gets less or no food. Luckily we are humans and can intervene and guide our young-ins in hopes they grow up to be just nice enough with out being wimpy. Prayer is also a wonderful tool, cuz there ain't nothin' that God can't fix ;0) Good luck! P.S. my cousin was a year older than her brother and when she was 1 she was always trying to kill him! How's that for freaky? She did remain and still is the dominant one. Sometimes there's nothing you can do to change a mean sibling. Sometimes all you can do is keep one from killing the other! LOL!
2007-09-27 09:52:53 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 1/2 is a little young to have mastered the art of sharing, but it is time to start learning. When there is a problem seperate them and put the 2 1/2 year old in time out. Also, praise or reward the toddler when he plays well with the baby. And when he asks you for something say "yes, I will share with you", when you can.
2007-09-27 16:57:28 · answer #2 · answered by bustlebase 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two and a half is not to young to institute time out.
Remember one minute per age is appropriate.
This is a normal phase. Toddlers are very egocentric and your child is also going through normal sibling rivalry.
The key is not matter how mad this makes you, don't yell. Speak calmly and go down to the child's level.
You want to say things like " We do not hit", " It hurts when you hit people"
I know this is frustrating but it works. I've worked in the education system for a long time and this is the only method that has proven effective.
I also have a large family.
2007-09-27 16:55:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age diff. Get toys that the 2 1/2 year old would like better than his sibling's. And get toys that the 9 mo. old would like.
3 yr old toys: buttons, noises, flashing lights,
1 yr old toys: rattles, moving things, and things they can chew on.
Does that help? :)
2007-09-27 17:05:14 · answer #4 · answered by Mallory Jane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one!
But you will have to talk to your 2 year old as often as you can. What you will experience is rebeliossness! But what the first born goes thru most likely is lack of attention and they refuse to share anything with their siblings. Alot of talking to him and making him understand that he is being loved at all times will help. But what you definetly have bring to a stop is that he hits his baby brother.
2007-09-27 16:49:59 · answer #5 · answered by the girl next door 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take away any toy he is not sharing. I do that with my almost 4 year old when she won't share toys with her almost 2 year old brother. He will learn quickly that way. My daughter has gotten alot better at sharing because she would rather share than have her toys taken away.
2007-09-27 16:47:35 · answer #6 · answered by blue eyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your 2 year old is abviously jealous of baby. Dont force him to share toys yet, hes not ready. Just dontlet him play wityh baby's toys. If he hits or is mean to baby then he needs a TIME OUT!
2007-09-27 18:29:27 · answer #7 · answered by agrolia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its prob. just a phase, your 2 1/2 son is prob jealous b/c he dosnet get all of the attention that he used to get, and now that your 9 mo. pld son is old enough to play w/ his stuff, he feels like his bro. is trying to take more, it may seem hard, but you just need to give more attention to him, or take him somewhere where its just you and him ,no little brother; after a while you could also take him to a day care where he will learn the importance of sharing and learn to share w/ everyone and take that lesson home and learn to share w/ his brother...
2007-09-27 16:48:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem between my 6yr old and my 4 yr old i have to make them sit down and not play or touch anything while the other one gets to play. the i ask them if the can share and not be hitting. if they say yes the can go play if not they just keep sitting there. if it happens again ido it all over again and they sit longer my kids are finally starting to get along. it take a little time. good luck with your babies.
2007-09-27 16:51:43 · answer #9 · answered by candee m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would set a time limit as to how long each can play with a certain toy. Ask your oldest what toy he wants, then let the youngest play with a toy. When the oldest tries to take it away, tell him it the youngest ones time to play with that toy and he can play with it when he is done.
2007-09-27 16:46:36 · answer #10 · answered by Jen2U 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋