We been involved for 18 years off and on, I want to be with him but he says he's not ready for a relationship. I'm ready to move on, but how?
2007-09-27 09:39:16 · 17 answers · asked by lashanda n 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A lot of men seem to think that if they get tied down someone better will come along so they play the waiting game.
2007-09-27 09:43:57 · answer #1 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are not exactly afraid of committment. We do't want to be trapped in a bad one. When some girls get too clingy and emotional too fast that is what scares us. We need time to get to know the "real" you. We know all you ladies are putting up a front to catch a man.
Of course there are some of us who are just players and want to sleep around. The girls we have fun, get drunk and get naked with real quick . . . are not the type we respect and love and are not longer term.
Off and On . . . doesn't sound good to me. Just leave him. We guys know when we find the one and want her so much we do ask you to marry. Getting pregnant doesn't work. That's why there are a lot of single moms who've never been married.
2007-09-27 16:48:37 · answer #2 · answered by Jdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason men are afraid of commitment is because they always think someone better is gonna come along. I would just move on because if you've been together that long and he's not trying to commit then either one he has someone on the side or two he thinks someone else better is gonna come and he's gonna get rid of you.
2007-09-27 16:44:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are not afraid of commitment. Certain people are afraid of commitment. But, if you have been together for 18 years, then you have been committed to each other.
2007-09-27 16:41:49 · answer #4 · answered by Your Best Fiend 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!!! Thats ridiculous.. why waste more time on him? He's not worth anymore of your time... seriously you should move on... hang out w/ your friends, and keep yourself and mind occupied so you can get him off your mind... it will take some time, and it won't be easy but you deserve so much better... after all that time, it's a shame that he's not ready for a relationship... he's showing how immature and selfish he is... sorry you're going through this...
2007-09-27 16:43:10 · answer #5 · answered by N3N@ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should move on, if you two been involved with each other for that long, I'm sure hes out seeing other women, and not serious about you, another words, hes playing you.
2007-09-27 16:42:12 · answer #6 · answered by ARTY 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not afraid of commitment... but then I'm madly and deeply in love with my other half and would love to spend the rest of my life with her, maybe one day we can make that commitment. I'm thinking he's not the one for you, you need the one who's gonna worship the ground you walk on and vice versa :)
2007-09-27 16:42:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just go out and meet new ppl. There are plenty moremenout there who are willing to be committed and that is what you deserve. Not just some irresponsible boy.
2007-09-27 16:42:15 · answer #8 · answered by M@caroni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well girl...there is fear of commitment cause the guy is too young, or not had enough expirience...but after 18 years if he cant be completely commited and into you...you got to cut that 'ol boys line.
2007-09-27 16:42:06 · answer #9 · answered by lil gaper 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
lashanda n, My love some women are the same way ! If he is in tune to your feelings then maybe it is time to find a man who is more like minded as you !
2007-09-27 16:49:19 · answer #10 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋