I really don't want to go. [ I don't have any good reasons] but still my friend constantly tries to throw parties and no one goes to them. EVER. I just don't want to go, and yet I don't want to be a ***** about the whole situation I can't keep avoiding her calls forever so what should I do?
2007-09-27 09:35:14 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Since this is a last minute declination, the words are as follows:
"I'm SO sorry, but something urgent has just come up and I cannot attend." If she is boorish enough to ask for details, you answer, "I really can't discuss that with you right now, I have to go." And then hang up.
There is NO NEED for reasons, excuses, lies, etc. They do not need to know that the "something urgent" is that you just decided you do not wish to attend.
In the future, when the invitation is extended, you simply tell them, "Oh, I'm SO sorry, but I have plans that night." Again, you do not need to explain what those plans are, even if they are to be soaking in the hottub all night, or that your plans are to not attend that party! You are not lying to them! You are not being RUDE to them. Again, if they are nosey/boorish enough to ask what the plans are, repeat, "I'm sorry, but I don't wish to discuss it with you."
These days, the assumption that ALL questions MUST be answered is hogwash. Unless the people questioning you are the police, FBI, CIA, or your lawyer, the people have NO need or right to get an answer from you.
Enough declinations of this nature will sooner or later give them the idea, "Oh, she always has other plans, so we won't invite her."
Have a polite day!
2007-09-27 11:16:17 · answer #1 · answered by wyomugs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-20 04:10:32 · answer #2 · answered by ammon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for the one part if you dont have a good reason you should go...your friend will appreciate that because no one ever goes to her parties....you can go at least for a few hours and well later on you may need her and she will gladly help you out in your time of need
2007-09-27 09:38:15 · answer #3 · answered by Heavenly 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know it's the hardest choice, but tell the truth. Maybe ask her why she keeps throwing get togethers when no one comes....it's a fair question and makes you more of a friend than lying to her and avoiding her calls.
2007-09-27 09:50:41 · answer #4 · answered by chicabonita 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just Tell her that you can't go because something in the family had just came up.
Or you could just say you are feeling really sick and you need to rest.
2007-09-27 09:40:38 · answer #5 · answered by Love 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If its in a few hours, she shouldn't be surprised if people can't go. Just tell her you have plans.
2007-09-27 09:40:15 · answer #6 · answered by Katie G 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you have other plans - after all - she didn't give you very much notice and should not be surprised if people can't show up.
2007-09-27 09:38:31 · answer #7 · answered by makeloans2 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't lie too her just be honest & say thank-you for inviting me but i just don't want to go this time.
2007-09-27 09:44:31 · answer #8 · answered by EM 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you don't feel up to a party tonight. You tired maybe?
2007-09-27 09:37:58 · answer #9 · answered by your_gurl_leah 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Avoid her calls. Pretend you are not in!
2007-09-27 21:24:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋