So I had this girlfriend. She was the best thing that ever happened to me. We've been going out for 3 years and then all of the sudden she decided that I was too muscular and should just be skinny, I have too much hair and should shave it off, that she doesn't like football and I should quit being 1st string quarterback, and that I shouldn't be so smart and start failing classes. Are these reasons why a girl would dump a guy? I mean we were fine for 4 years. Should I change myself?
2007-09-27 09:33:57 · 51 answers · asked by Max 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She dumped you because she's stupid. I 'll luv u.
2007-09-28 09:22:33 · answer #1 · answered by Janey ♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Max don't change yourself.
Telling you that your too smart and to fail your classes?? What was that woman thinking?
She dumped you for reasons that she is not telling.
Don't try to persue her to find out the real answers...cause she won't be straight forward with you anyways.
It will take time to get over this.
So don't kick yourself over it.
Ya know Max, the best revenge is to live better than how they left you.
And I can tell by what you said, I'm sure you will improve in every area of your life. Your fine the way you are. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other. Keep playing football and doing the stuff you do. Your going in the right direction, and don't need the likes of her telling you whats wrong with you. (Man, she was poison. You dodged a bullet.)
And who knows...that special girl could be around the corner.
Take care Max.
2007-09-27 10:11:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She cared for you for 3 years - just the way you were. Now, she wants to change you or dump you. Don't let anyone try to change who you are. This is the beginning of a controlling and possibly abusive relationship. You are better off without her. Continue to be athletic and intelligent, and the right girl will come along.
2007-09-27 09:39:37 · answer #3 · answered by Deb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend is CRAZY. You sound like the perfect guy and she will one day regret dumping you because you are who you choose to be. Do not change..not a bit. She is a terrible person for trying to change you. Tell her if she ever wants a chance with you she'll have to get skinnier, dye her hair, and get a boob job.
You are way better than she should have ever had.
If you want to talk about it..my email address is ashummz05@yahoo.com
2007-09-27 09:49:31 · answer #4 · answered by Oops, did I say that? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should never change yourself for anyone but yourself. i know a girl that dumped a guy after three years-she was stupid, she just said that she got bored and within a week of the break-up, she was going out with two other guys! i think this means that they never had the intention of a serious relationship. they were just looking for fun and a couple years went by because they let it get that far without thinking about the other person. frankly, it's very selfish-the guy that got dumped is a great catch and he felt devastated. good luck with that.
2007-09-27 09:39:26 · answer #5 · answered by ANT-a-gonistic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't change. Honestly honey I think she was just looking for a out. Notice how some of the stuff she wanted you to do was self- destructive? I'm a girl (duh?) and I can tell you that some times we just up and change for no reason. (Well, to others it seems like we don't have a reason.) I'm sorry she broke up with you but maybe it was for the best. It seems that she herself was on a downward spiral and it's best not to get in the way when people do that. They'll just bring you down. Sorry sweetie but she's the only one who really knows why. Good luck, hun.
2007-09-27 09:43:30 · answer #6 · answered by Annie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should NOT change yourself and NO that's not why she dumped you..she just was looking for an excuse. She sure could have done better. I suppose the old classic "This is just not working out" was too complex for her?
Seriously, don't EVER even attempt to change who you are for anyone, EVER! People should accept you for you, if not, you're better off without them..
2007-09-27 09:38:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, do not change yourself for a girl! Your personality is what makes you, you. And she probably just found some other weirdo guy that she thinks she more "into" than you...but i bet she's wrong...most girls are wrong when they dump a guy for those "reasons". By the way, those are not good enough reasons to dump a guy...trust me...she's just probably into "bad boys", because they might be a "turn on" to her...
you'll find the right one out there hun!...sorry for the breakup...
~bethany~
2007-09-27 09:41:02 · answer #8 · answered by alli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOOOOO don't it's bad to change. Sometimes. If she doesn't like you for who you are, then she's not right for you. No offense, but she sounds like the person that does drugs or smokes. I hope she doesn't, and you're just fine the way you are. Athletics and Intelligence are hard to find hand-in-hand with most people. Keep up the good work, don't quit football, and keep being smart.
2007-09-27 09:39:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she told you that, she was either being sarcastic or has developed a drug problem.
I don't know why she dumped you, but I'm sure you can do better than a girl like that.
2007-09-27 09:41:11 · answer #10 · answered by kittiesandsparklelythings 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never change who you are completly. Sounds to me like this girl was just looking for any reason to end the relationship. You need to tell her that you aren't taking those as vaild excuses for why it is suddenly over after 4 years. Tell her to express the true reasons she wants out... it may hurt more, but at least it would be better reasoning then what she has given you. That is very childish on her part!
2007-09-27 09:38:44 · answer #11 · answered by Squeakers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋