i have a 3 yr old and a 10 month old and im expecting again, im worried about not coping as im only 21.?

Answer 1

Oh wow! That will be difficult for you, but I guess that is why women are granted the privilige to have children, we are tough cookies! Please don't worry too much, the third child is usually the easiest to handle, after the first 2. You are young but so was I, I had my first at 16, and I am now 24 with 3. Trust me honey you will do just fine, and don't listen to the jerks that say too late, or you should have thought about that before.

My best advice is to take one day at a time, and never push yourself to more than you can. As long as the babies are happy and you are rested and feel good who cares if the house is a wreck or you have not done dishes in two days? If you ever want someone to talk to or relate to feel free to email me.

Besides that I hope you have some sort of support system, a good loving bf/hubby and lots of family to help you. Good luck to you, I know you will be just fine.

Answer 2

I've seen a great many parents become neglectful and abusive because of too many kids too soon. And I've seen some dedicated parents who make it all come together.

How helpful is Dad around the house, aside from knocking you up? If he willingly takes the kids while you have some time to yourself, does his share of the chores, encourages you to become more than a mom and housekeeper, you'll probably be fine.

But if the two of you start squabbling and finger-pointing and complaining about being tired all the time, then you'll need outside help, starting with family counseling, followed by family planning.

Answer 3

You'll do fine mom! You have the entire pregnancy to prepare. I had 2 sets of my 5 children, very close together (15 and 18 months apart ) As with every child it changes the dynamic of the family but all will adjust, including you. I was frightened as well and understand your conserns.. All you can do is take one day at a time and enjoy them while they are young. It dosen't last very long. Good luck.

I'm sure you've heard this saying but I live by it in my home.

Cleaning and Scrubing can wait till tomorrow,
For children grow up, we've learned to our sorrow.
So go away cobwebs, dust go to sleep.
I'm rocking my baby, for babies do keep.

Answer 4

Wow..10 months? This is going to be difficult. I take care of my 14 month old sister and my 12 month old daughter and I have my hands full all the time and diapers everywhere all the time..lol. But if you think you can do it, then you can. Just get on birth control or something...

Answer 5

you will need to hire some help at least with the housework. It will be psychologically uplifting if your laundry is done, kitchen clean, etc. Is there a nearby neighbor teen who would want a job doing that? Until they are in school, thats what you need.

Answer 6

Honestly you will the times I've heard friends say this and they all have you will too! I've got three and I did it please don't worry you'll be fine and anyway it's gonna happen whether you worry or not so why bother enjoy your pregnancy instead!! good luck

Answer 7

Hi! This is going to be hard work but you can do it. What support do you have around? Family/responsible friends? If not try home-start - ask your health visitor to refer you. If you are prepared to give everything you have to do this, you can do it!

Answer 8

hey honey, many women have done this for years...be cool, you'll be allright, and the kids will love you and you should have a great relationship with all. sorry for spelling. and punc. , ... so what if there all close in age, they'll love it and so will you

Answer 9

You'll manage, but may I suggest sterilization after this one?

Answer 10

You'll be fine. Congrats!