I am in a new relationship of 3 mths going on 4. My man is very female friendly. He has all kinds of female friends that I don't know. He thinks there is nothing wrong with talking to them, by phone or texting them back and forth even if it is in my presence. When I ask him what are they textin about he replies its none of my business and I am being nosy and he loves me and that's all that should matter.. I am jealous of the convo. that he's giving them but not me! Should I trust him and not let that bother me. He states he is grown and I cant tell him what to do b/c he will do what he wants and he said the same goes for me, and he wouldnt be bothered if I had male friends. I do, but if and when I see them its hello etc. short convo and that's that, no textin and calling them. I think that is disrespectful. Am I bein too uptight? We already live together etc. And we do love each other already..Am I being played?
2007-09-27 08:34:24 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Cut your losses and move on.
He will not change.
2007-09-27 08:38:32 · answer #1 · answered by ignoramus 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are already living together; He gets to chat to females, even in your presence and talks to you like you can take it or leave it???
What incentive does he have to make any effort?
He has everything he wants and more.
3.5 months of going out with someone is not that long a time to know them.
He should not feel that he can talk to you like that or behave like that in your presence.
He thinks that he's already sussed you and that you're a PUSHOVER.
ARE YOU??/ From where I stand it looks like it!
What's the point with being with a guy when YOU don't know that you are with him? Everything goes HIS way?
What relationship is that? How long is it going to survive anyway?
I think that unless you show some backbones, he's going to walk all over: cheat on you AND dump you.
So, you might as well react and if he DOES dump you, then he would ANYWAY!!!
2007-09-27 15:47:45 · answer #2 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He really isn't going about it the right way by telling him to mind your own business. Make it clear to him that you just want to let him know that something is bothering you, so you guys can be on the same page. On the other hand, you have to remember that friends are very important and he shouldn't have to drop them because he is in a relationship. Just find new friends for urself and enjoy life. Things will work out and if they don't then things just aren't meant to be.
2007-09-27 15:45:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to for your boyfriend to grow up. Let's talk about respect.....the he doesn't have for you! If he loves you why does he need all these other women around? Aren't you enough? I can see a man having female friends, but to a certain extent. You should also be able to be their friend. It IS your business. You need to be able to feel you can trust him. I would tell him how you feel and if he says it doesn't matter he is still going to call, text and WHATEVER he does tell him it is over. Don't be a doormat now or it will just keep getting worse. Sounds like he is still on the prowl to me.
2007-09-27 15:41:16 · answer #4 · answered by Paula D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is definitely a player....I think it's totally wrong for a guy to txt or call his friends (girls) constantly. I have a lot of girls as friends and when I found the girl that i liked, i told my girlfriends that i'm seeing someone and i kinda stop talking to them too much (I still talk to them but once in awhile like once a week) and the same goes for the girl that i'm seeing (she has a lot of guys friends too, i was jealous at first but than she started not talking to them anymore) anyways what he's doing is very DISRESPECTFUL and it showed he has no respect for you. You NEED a long talk with him. Tell him it's your business to know what he's up to with his girls as friends.
2007-09-27 15:47:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Up until you said you already live together i would of said let it be...but if you live with him, he is your business why can't he tell you about the convo's maybe they interest you to. tell him i'm not trying to be nosey. if he told you to do it, then do it and then see if its none of his business i bet you it will bother him just as it is you!!! They always say do it, it doesn't bother me but it does they don't want to admit. So have your self some fun texting & talking just like him and i bet you he'll pull the phone out of your hands just to see what your textin....men crack me up!!!! They're never right about this...
2007-09-27 15:42:42 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he is playing you. If you are his girlfriend he should show you respect and not text them while your around. I think that he is in fact more than just friends with these women. You really need to keep your guard up. But love is not enough to hold a relationship together. Your not being uptight but you do need to check your man because he doesn't respect you.
2007-09-27 15:42:13 · answer #7 · answered by PASSIONATE LOVE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry,...it is come back to you,...how far you can accept him, as he is,..he never changed his ego as a man, some of men do like that,..some they have consideration to their partner.
You need to consider for the next step. Unless you gonna hurt yourself. YES is not that easy, when you alrady fallen in love with him. Just be more logical. I do have a friend,..has a same thought as him,.and I convinced him,..when he wants to have a good relationship and a good woman , he can't do that. And he listened to me. Unfortunately when he hang around with his male friend,..it come back as a men.
I have some male friend who do not do like that.
So,..it is up to you.
We can't say is good or bad,.just can we put up with that.
Good luck,....and have a nice day
2007-09-27 15:42:49 · answer #8 · answered by maysie64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is disrespectful. Being single and no one around it´s ok, but he is into something with you, is like being married. I mean you have a commitment and he´s acting "solo"..He is by his own, doing what he wants, being free as a teenager, what is he doing with you,,,how long is he planning to go with you, is no taking things seriously to my belief. You deserve more than that!...
2007-09-27 15:45:34 · answer #9 · answered by jackielafemme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are living together after 3 months? that was a mistake in itself.
i think that your guy sounds like a scoundrel. any time a man is friend's with a girl it is for the hopes of someday getting in her pants....usually.
2007-09-27 15:38:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I wouldn't like that very much. If he can't share what hes talking with them about with you then I wouldn't trust him. and if he has to tell you hes grown (like you can't tell) then he isn't that grown up at all.
He shouldn't be disrespecting you like that.
It's a bad sign of things to come.
2007-09-27 15:43:53 · answer #11 · answered by Stefani 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋