Muslim boyfriend wants me to convert?

Question

Im an christian ortodox, im not that religios.. i dont go to church . i dont red the bible. but i belive there is a God..
I dont really know what to do.

Answer 1

you don't need to convert unless YOU want to...
he has no right to tell you that...and he probably only wants you to convert so he feels less guilty about dating...in Islam we aren't even supposed to date...so yea...don't listen to him...

and i want you to know SirWilliam has no idea what he is talking about...the women in my family and others Muslim families I know
No one walks behind the man...
Not all the women wear hijab...
A lot of the women have jobs.
they drive and i can go on and on and on....
and about the multiple wives...
it was only allowed b/c many women lost their husbands when they were fighting...and it was unsafe then for women to be alone so it was permitted that men take care of these women and treat them all respectfully...
some people are really ignorant on this site...the people that answer half the questions know NOTHING about the religion but answer anyway just b/c they think they know...some of you need to educate yourselves a little more...

Answer 2

Hi. I am a Muslim woman and I am Only answering this Question because I am very Insulted by some of the answers given here.Islam is a beautiful way of life. I would never suggest that someone convert unless they really educate themselves on it.And I believe that it is the right path for me.There are many Muslims in the world.If we were really terrorist there would Only be us.The truth is that there are alot of lies and untruths being told about Islam.While there are human rights issues in some places in the world,It is most definitely a result of culture and not Islam.Unfortunately in some so called Islamic societies They are still practicing some of their pre islamic Behaviors even though it was banned by Islam. They have found a way to manipulate the religion to back up their own beliefs. For Instance ;My husband does not hit me,My husband does not make me walk behind him.I am educated and free to speak my mind as I please .And I do. I have decided to wear the scarf ,not because of my husband ,But because I am trying to Be a better Muslim.Many good muslim women do not wear the scarf, thats their choice. So please do not think that a woman covers up because she is being forced.We do it because we want to be more spiritual and less of an object of beauty.Any way I would only advise that you study hard and find yourself some good Muslim women to talk to.Men cannot answer correctly many of the questions concerning Muslim women.Peace and Good Luck.

Answer 3

Most likely he is not so much of a practicing muslim either. Islamically you dont have to convert for him to marry you. muslim men can marry women from the 3 abrahamic faiths, christians, jews, or muslims. Most likely it is his family that is pressuring him or something along those lines.

You should never convert without studying it. Maybe you should study the religion and study yours and then make a decision.

It is so sad how most people have such a narrow view on islam. Maybe you people should look into the religion and do a little research before you give your opinions about something you dont even know anything about... I cant blame you this is what the media is showing you, and you cant imagine how bias it is.

Answer 4

It wouldn't hurt you to learn about Islam. I was brought up Christian, but when I read about Islam, it made a lot of sense to me.

However, your boyfriend is not a reliable source of information. Believing practicing Muslim men don't have girlfriends; part of their charm is that they don't chase women.

My advice is to look into Islam, but lose the guy.

There are email groups especially for Chrisiians in relationships with Muslim men. If you write to me, I can direct you to one or two.

Answer 5

what if you split and u get a Hindu or a jewish boyfriend, would u convert to his religion too, are u gonna try all the religions?!!....what I mean is, it's only your choice, do it for yourself if u believe in it, don't hurry....I agree with the guy said that "your boyfriend is not a good muslim since he has a girlfriend and it's not allowed in Islam", but i don't agree with the guy who said that it's scary, life is a risk, u can marry an American guy and have alot of troubles in your life. My mum is western and got married to a muslim man who is my father, and they live happily, and he respects her, not all muslims are the same, and she became muslim after 10 years of their marriage, and he never forced her to do so, she wanted it.....
Don't hurry, Do it for yourself if u believe in it, Not for anyone else....

Answer 6

Dear muslims :

Over the years, we tried to create humanitarian face from Islam
op #keepislampure
Hope for change and a better future
unfortunately all efforts led to the failure
islam ideology is inherently hospitalized for brutality
as we know, freedom is an undeniable logic and an unavoidable destination for the humanity so..

one day somebody's gonna have to make a stand. one day somebody's gonna have to say "enough"...

enough barbarism ..
enough slavery..
enough Child abuse.

shall we play A game?
verses from the quran

إِنَّمَا جَزَاء الَّذِينَ يُحَارِبُونَ اللّهَ وَرَسُولَهُ وَيَسْعَوْنَ فِي الأَرْضِ فَسَادًا أَن يُقَتَّلُواْ أَوْ يُصَلَّبُواْ أَوْ تُقَطَّعَ أَيْدِيهِمْ وَأَرْجُلُهُم مِّنْ خِلافٍ أَوْ يُنفَوْاْ مِنَ الأَرْضِ ذَلِكَ لَهُمْ خِزْيٌ فِي الدُّنْيَا وَلَهُمْ فِي الآخِرَةِ عَذَابٌ عَظِيمٌ .. مائده/33

The reward of those who wage war against Allah and His Messenger and strive to create disorder in the land is only this that they be slain or crucified or their hands and their feet be cut off on alternate sides, or they be expelled from the land. That shall be a disgrace for them in this world, and in the Hereafter they shall have a great punishment

فَإِذا لَقِيتُمُ الَّذِينَ كَفَرُوا فَضَرْبَ الرِّقَابِ حَتَّى إِذَا أَثْخَنتُمُوهُمْ فَشُدُّوا الْوَثَاقَ فَإِمَّا مَنًّا بَعْدُ وَإِمَّا فِدَاء حَتَّى تَضَعَ الْحَرْبُ أَوْزَارَهَا ذَلِكَ وَلَوْ يَشَاءُ اللَّهُ لَانتَصَرَ مِنْهُمْ وَلَكِن لِّيَبْلُوَ بَعْضَكُم بِبَعْضٍ وَالَّذِينَ قُتِلُوا فِي سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ فَلَن يُضِلَّ أَعْمَالَهُمْ ..محمد/4

And when you meet e those who disbelieve, smite their necks; and, when you have overcome them, bind fast the fetters — then afterwards either release them as a favour or by taking ransom — until the war lays down its burdens. That is the ordinance. And if Allah had so pleased, He could have punished them Himself, but He has willed that He may try some of you by others. And those who are killed in the way of Allah — He will never render their works vain.

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُواْ قَاتِلُواْ الَّذِينَ يَلُونَكُم مِّنَ الْكُفَّارِ وَلْيَجِدُواْ فِيكُمْ غِلْظَةً وَاعْلَمُواْ أَنَّ اللّهَ مَعَ الْمُتَّقِينَ ..توبه/123

O ye who believe! fight such of the disbelievers as are near to you and let them find savageryin you; and know that Allah is with the righteous

وَقَالَتِ الْيَهُودُ عُزَيْرٌ ابْنُ اللّهِ وَقَالَتْ النَّصَارَى الْمَسِيحُ ابْنُ اللّهِ ذَلِكَ قَوْلُهُم بِأَفْوَاهِهِمْ يُضَاهِؤُونَ قَوْلَ الَّذِينَ كَفَرُواْ مِن قَبْلُ قَاتَلَهُمُ اللّهُ أَنَّى يُؤْفَكُونَ" ..توبه/30

And the Jews say, Ezra is the son of Allah, and the Christians say, the Messiah is the son of Allah; that is what they say with their mouths. They imitate the saying of those who disbelieved before them. Allah’s curse be on them! How are they turned away!

"قَاتِلُواْ الَّذِينَ لاَ يُؤْمِنُونَ بِاللّهِ وَلاَ بِالْيَوْمِ الآخِرِ وَلاَ يُحَرِّمُونَ مَا حَرَّمَ اللّهُ وَرَسُولُهُ وَلاَ يَدِينُونَ دِينَ الْحَقِّ مِنَ الَّذِينَ أُوتُواْ الْكِتَابَ حَتَّى يُعْطُواْ الْجِزْيَةَ عَن يَدٍ وَهُمْ صَاغِرُونَ" ..توبه/29

Fight those from among the People of the Book who believe not in Allah, nor in the Last Day, nor hold as unlawful what Allah and His Messenger have declared to be unlawful, nor follow the true religion, until they pay the tax with their own hand and acknowledge their subjection.

"يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُواْ إِنَّمَا الْمُشْرِكُونَ نَجَسٌ فَلاَ يَقْرَبُواْ الْمَسْجِدَ الْحَرَامَ بَعْدَ عَامِهِمْ هَذَا وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ عَيْلَةً فَسَوْفَ يُغْنِيكُمُ اللّهُ مِن فَضْلِهِ إِن شَاء إِنَّ اللّهَ عَلِيمٌ حَكِيم "..توبه/28

O ye who believe! surely, the unbelievers are unclean. So they shall not approach the Sacred Mosque after this year of theirs. And if you fear poverty, Allah will enrich you out of His bounty, if He pleases. Surely, Allah is All-Knowing, Wise.

فَإِذَا انسَلَخَ الأَشْهُرُ الْحُرُمُ فَاقْتُلُواْ الْمُشْرِكِينَ حَيْثُ وَجَدتُّمُوهُمْ وَخُذُوهُمْ وَاحْصُرُوهُمْ وَاقْعُدُواْ لَهُمْ كُلَّ مَرْصَدٍ فَإِن تَابُواْ وَأَقَامُواْ الصَّلاَةَ وَآتَوُاْ الزَّكَاةَ فَخَلُّواْ سَبِيلَهُمْ إِنَّ اللّهَ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ ..توبه/5

And when the forbidden months have passed, kill the unbelievers wherever you find them and take them prisoners, and beleaguer them, and lie in wait for them at every place of ambush. But if they repent and observe Prayer and pay the Zakat, then leave their way free. Surely, Allah is Most Forgiving, Merciful.

وَاللاَّتِي يَأْتِينَ الْفَاحِشَةَ مِن نِّسَآئِكُمْ فَاسْتَشْهِدُواْ عَلَيْهِنَّ أَرْبَعةً مِّنكُمْ فَإِن شَهِدُواْ فَأَمْسِكُوهُنَّ فِي الْبُيُوتِ حَتَّىَ يَتَوَفَّاهُنَّ الْمَوْتُ أَوْ يَجْعَلَ اللّهُ لَهُنَّ سَبِيلًا ..نساء/15

And those of your women who are guilty of lewdness — call to witness four of you against them; and if they bear witness, then confine them to the houses until death overtake them or Allah open for them a way.

وَاللَّذَانَ يَأْتِيَانِهَا مِنكُمْ فَآذُوهُمَا فَإِن تَابَا وَأَصْلَحَا فَأَعْرِضُواْ عَنْهُمَا إِنَّ اللّهَ كَانَ تَوَّابًا رَّحِيمًا ..نساء/16..

And if two men from among you are guilty of it, punish them both. And if they repent and amend, then leave them alone; surely, Allah is Oft-Returning with compassion and is Merciful.

طلاق / 4
وَاللَّائِي يَئِسْنَ مِنَ الْمَحِيضِ مِن نِّسَائِكُمْ إِنِ ارْتَبْتُمْ فَعِدَّتُهُنَّ ثَلَاثَةُ أَشْهُرٍ وَاللَّائِي لَمْ يَحِضْنَ وَأُوْلَاتُ الْأَحْمَالِ أَجَلُهُنَّ أَن يَضَعْنَ حَمْلَهُنَّ وَمَن يَتَّقِ اللَّهَ يَجْعَل لَّهُ مِنْ أَمْرِهِ يُسْرًا

And those of your women as have passed the age of monthly courses, for them the 'Iddah (prescribed period), if you have doubts (about their periods), is three months, and for those who have no courses [(i.e. they are still immature) their 'Iddah (prescribed period) is three months likewise, except in case of death] . And for those who are pregnant (whether they are divorced or their husbands are dead), their 'Iddah (prescribed period) is until they deliver (their burdens), and whosoever fears Allah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make his matter easy for him.

بقره/ 221

وَلاَ تَنكِحُواْ الْمُشْرِكَاتِ حَتَّى يُؤْمِنَّ وَلأَمَةٌ مُّؤْمِنَةٌ خَيْرٌ مِّن مُّشْرِكَةٍ وَلَوْ أَعْجَبَتْكُمْ وَلاَ تُنكِحُواْ الْمُشِرِكِينَ حَتَّى يُؤْمِنُواْ وَلَعَبْدٌ مُّؤْمِنٌ خَيْرٌ مِّن مُّشْرِكٍ وَلَوْ أَعْجَبَكُمْ أُوْلَـئِكَ يَدْعُونَ إِلَى النَّارِ وَاللّهُ يَدْعُوَ إِلَى الْجَنَّةِ وَالْمَغْفِرَةِ بِإِذْنِهِ وَيُبَيِّنُ آيَاتِهِ لِلنَّاسِ لَعَلَّهُمْ يَتَذَكَّرُونَ .

And do not marry Al-Mushrikat (unbelievers, etc.) till they believe (worship Allah Alone). And indeed a slave woman who believes is better than a (free) Mushrikah (unbelievers, etc.), even though she pleases you. And give not (your daughters) in marriage to Al-Mushrikun till they believe (in Allah Alone) and verily, a believing slave is better than a (free) Mushrik (unbelievers, etc.), even though he pleases you. Those (Al-Mushrikun) invite you to the Fire, but Allah invites (you) to Paradise and Forgiveness by His Leave, and makes His Ayat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) clear to mankind that they may remember.

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Answer 7

As long as religion means nothing to you, it really doesn't matter which one you choose.

If you want to know God, you MUST become a Believer in Jesus Christ. Barring that, it doesn't matter to your eternal if you are a Moslem a Hindu, an atheist, or an egoist.......

Answer 8

Why would you want to practice a religion where the accepted practice is to cover up who you are? In many countries women cannot attend school, go to sports games, or otherwise participate in anything...unless their husband allows.

So...do you want to be a "sheep"..or a free thinking individual?

Answer 9

Whatever you do...DON'T!!

You need to watch the movie "Not Without My Daughter". It's based on a true story, and it's really scary for American women considering marrying Muslim men, or converting to Islam. Don't be fooled!

Answer 10

You have to do what feels right for you but...the only thing i'd say is that your boyfriend's religion is not necessarily a secure basis for your own. and he should respect that, so if there's any pressure on you to convert, don't. take as much time as you need to work it out for yourself. good luck.