Why even bother to confront them? Don't waste your time if they are avoiding them.
If you want to reconcile a relationship, then just bluntly go up to him or her and ask them why they have been avoiding you. That's all.
2007-09-27 06:31:57
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answered by Edith 4
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Hello .My name is Don and my age and experience give me a little insight into how you ought to try to meet someone that is avoiding you. You word avoiding leads me to think that this person is in your debt,but I could be well wide of the mark,and perhaps this person is someone that you have feelings for,but does not return them . tricky .but you could, with reference to my first assumption , make a huge effort to know the movements of the person ,get yourself into an area that he,she ,may be ,and open conversation with ," I`m sure you will tell me that I am mistaken ,but I have felt that you have been avoiding me "and go on to say " I can only apologize if I have imagined so and can you please forgive me. On the second count you could say " you know we were friends and I must have ,in some way or another, given you reason to shy away from me ". and continue ," I am truly sorry should I have inadvertently done such a thing,and will kick myself very hard if I have hurt you in any way ,and still continue with," better still YOU can kick me very hard ,because I have missed you so very much. " Then shut up and await the response. All very best .Don
2007-09-27 13:47:57
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answered by Donald M 2
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I would just be nice and pretend like nothing was wrong if I did run into them but otherwise ignore the situation. I have found that I don't have the time or the energy to deal with people who deal with issues by avoidance - I find them, in general, to be immature and childish and I'd rather be friends with people who act like adults instead of sulking teenagers.
If you caused the situation then perhaps you need to give a heart felt apology and beg for forgiveness but only if you still want to be friends - otherwise, ignore the whole situation.
2007-09-27 14:08:00
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answered by Susan G 6
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I've been through this many times. The best advice I can give is: if the person is avoiding you, it's for a reason. It's best to leave them be until they're ready to talk to you again. If you bump into them sometime in the future, don't immediately bring up the subject, just say:" Hello, how are you? How have you been"? This might lead into the reason for the avoidance. Therefore, don't worry yourself sick about it and move on with your life. You must have better friends or things right?
2007-09-27 13:33:51
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answered by Mr. Len 5
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The word confront has a very aggressive sound, so I'm not certain that's a good word to use. I might "approach" someone who has avoided me- if it upsets me, to find out if something is bothering them, and if there is anything I can do to help them. I wouldn't assume the problem had anything to do with me- could be a problem at home/school/work- but that's what you approach them to find out. But ask in a soothing way what's wrong- don't be in attack mode.
2007-09-27 14:19:52
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answered by GEEGEE 7
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Just ask her. You may have to send an email, or even a regular letter, if she doesn't answer her phone. Ask her if she had something going on, and maybe just felt she couldn't tell you "no" when u asked for help. Explain that you are not mad, or disappointed, but are saddened that you feel you are losing a great friend. But, you do have to remember, ppl do move on, and not everyone stays friends forever.
2007-10-01 01:31:07
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answered by kiki72404 4
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Unless there's a compelling reason to confront them, don't confront them. Just leave them alone, let them avoid you. It's not your business. If they owe you money, send a return-receipt email or postal mail reminding them. If they are slandering or trashing you, let them know in no uncertain terms that you won't tolerate that.
Otherwise, if you think/thought that the avoider was your "friend" then you may have been wrong. They are either upset or simply do not like you. If they are upset, it's up to them to get over it. It's not up to you to make them get over it. If they don't like you, that's nothing to worry about either. You have no control over them, either way. I am sure that enough other people in the world are not avoiding you. Surround yourself with them.
2007-09-27 14:43:53
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answered by Barrabas_6025 4
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You go alone the first few times, say Hello and mean it.
Then take a mutual friend, have said friend visit with him or her first and walk up behind the one who is avoiding you and politely and loving invite yourself into the conversation.
Body language and tone of voice say more than words, so make sure you have positive thoughts about the one who is avoiding you when you go up to converse.
2007-09-27 13:36:33
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answered by Please, send me 2
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If you continue to be upo their butt by calling thyem and coming over, they will eventually confront you over the matter themselves.
Honestly, people that talk about me does not make me angry at all. Its the people that say they are your friends then one day, through do fault or action of you own accord, decide they want to stop talking to you. That makes me upset more then anything. And they are cowards and never come forward with why, they just avoid you.
So I just stay up their butt and hover over them until they can give me an answer. I did a lot for them and I deserve that. Plus, if they want to stop being my friend because someone else who does not like me wants to say something about me and my friend wants to believe them over me, without even asking me abou the matter, that friend is no longer worth my time. To be brutally honest, they also deserve a sock in the face.
2007-09-27 14:35:27
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answered by CuriousMaude 1
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Why is this person avoiding you? Once you know this, then you are halfway there. Perhaps it is best for you to let this one go, but only you can be the judge of that.
2007-09-27 14:05:49
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answered by Anonymous
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