My mom is the black sheep of her family b/c she did not get pregnant when she was in high school, She did not have sex until she married my dad. Every time some thing bad happens with my ****** up family. My sister and her sisters and my granny make it seem like its her fault. I love my mom so much she is my best friend, Y does her mom have to always blame her 4 everything that goes wrong? I'm so sick of cing her cry at night b/c of her "family" My mom has been hurt alot, My Granny even told my mom its her fault her dad got drunk all the time. I want my mom to not even talk to her family anymore. I hate them so much 4 doing this to her,
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do u think I'm wrong 4 not wanting her to talk to them anymore
2007-09-27 06:20:51 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
It's called codependency.
Your mother has been affected by her father's drinking, her mother has been affected by his drinking, also. Families who live with an alcoholic suffer guilt, remorse, blame everyone around them, except the alcoholic.
Your mother doesn't have to feel guilty or cry. It's NOT HER FAULT her father drank -- it was his choice. I'm sure you mother didn't tie him down and pour liquor down his throat. And if HE had problems, well apparently he drowned them in alcohol, instead of finding a way to cope and make life better for himself.
The people in your mother's family have failed to take responsibility for their own problems and issues... again, NOT your mother's fault.
Your mother could try Alanon for starters -- a support group for those whose lives have been affected by an alcoholic. Most communities offer Alanon meetings.. check out their website for more information.
Your mother might consider therapy to come to terms with her family's actions. To learn how to cope and how to take care of herself, and to come to terms with her life.
At some point we all need to realize we can't control others... and that it is very unhealthy to allow others to control our emotions... Your mother's emotional upset has been caused because she allows her mother and sisters to affect her mood and attitude.
Going around feeling upset and doing nothing to get help isn't the answer. There are many resources for HELP out there... a person just has to make the effort to find that help. And i surely hope your mother can do that soon.
Sending hugs.
2007-09-27 07:05:41 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they are jealous of your mom because she seems better off than some of them. Maybe your mom should take a brake from the family members that hurt her. It maybe hard because I am sure she loves them but it may help.
2007-09-27 06:35:21 · answer #2 · answered by MDMA NO WAY 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"cing". That's new. Here's the truth. Your mother is the smartest person in the family. It's time for her to start acting like it. She needs to stop being the family punching bag by hitting back by standing up for herself. Bully the bullies.
2016-05-20 00:01:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. It sounds like she needs to let them all go. And fast!
2007-09-27 06:52:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋