My boyfriends mother's funeral is this saturday. He wants me to go but I didnt know her well. He and I have had our ups and downs and we are working through things. Should I go and support him?
2007-09-27 05:59:07 · 49 answers · asked by MiaDiva28 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, wouldn't you want his support if the situation were reversed?
2007-09-27 06:01:40 · answer #1 · answered by Abby O'Normal 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He asked you to go? Then go! He wants your support. His mother was.. well his mother. You are his girlfriend. Both of you mean a lot to him. You attending the funeral with him will help him remember that he still has someone who cares for him even with his mother gone. He needs your support now more than ever. My advice is to go with him, allow him space at the funeral but be right there if he needs a hand to hold or someone to give him a smile. This is not a good time to be very talkative or get clingy to him with his family around and such but he obviously wants you there. ^_^ Go.
p.s. I was not suggesting that you were the talkative or clingy type...
2007-09-27 06:10:05 · answer #2 · answered by Amandolin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go, he needs all the support he can get right now.I went to my ex boyfriends mothers funeral and the family was very greatful for that. If you dont go, he may feel hurt and think that you dont care about his feelings,although you didnt know his mother that well you should be there for him, if you dont go you might feel guilty for the rest of your life and you cant go back and change that kind of situation. Please go.
2007-09-27 06:05:42 · answer #3 · answered by LILAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, go to the funeral especially if you 2 are having problems by you being their you will show him support, it might make you 2 closer.
Good Luck
2007-09-27 06:03:10 · answer #4 · answered by TSL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately! You should go to support him through this hard time. I have been to many funerals where I didnt really "know" the person who died, but you go to show that you care for the family who is heartbroken. Sorry for his loss =[
2007-09-27 06:06:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is a man that you truly want to be with and work through your problems with then you should go. Its his mother and you are supposed to be his signifigant other and his shoulder to cry on. I went to my husbands (then boyfriend) grandfathers funeral... I never met the man and I had to drive 10 hours to get there but my man needed me so I went. Go... this could ruin your relationship if you dont.
2007-09-27 06:05:30 · answer #6 · answered by shadowsthathunt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course you should go! your boyfriend needs you this time...ups and downs are part of a healthy relationship..go and support your man, if he didn't want you to be at the funeral he wouldn't have asked you in the first place, but he did which means he wants you to be there with him.
2007-09-27 06:05:10 · answer #7 · answered by Alessandra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, funerals are for the living and he needs someone at his side. After all it was his mother. He really needs you right now inspite of your ups and downs.
2007-09-27 06:02:48 · answer #8 · answered by Just Bein' Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously! What are u waiting for? An Invitation card or something? haaa. Dont consider her as ur mother in law, she is just like ur mother. For God sake grow up now, these are small things which matters most in ur life. Ur bf certainly needs u there with him. Thats so Tragic :( Dont think about nething else, just go !!
2007-09-27 06:12:55 · answer #9 · answered by ¶-ÑØ FÈÅR ÑØ §URRÈÑÐÈR-¶™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Death and grieving is such a personal thing. It can vary from individual to individual. If you care for this person and his comfort, you should go and support him. Take your cues from him about how involved you should be in the process. Don't get your feelings hurt if he interacts with the family and not with you. Be a good friend like you would expect him to be with you.
2007-09-27 06:03:46 · answer #10 · answered by strictlysouthern 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would mean so much for your boyfriend if you went to the funeral. If he asked you to be there, go and support him. Believe me, he will always be grateful to you for this.
2007-09-27 06:02:43 · answer #11 · answered by lpogue2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋