So my now very recent ex and I agreed a week ago we'll go on a 2 day break because we need to look over our 2 1/2 year relationship to see if we're ready to go the next step because we've been talking about engagement. So I go out of town and my back stabbing best friend set him up on a date with her friend. He was also very willing to go, so the 2nd night we were on our break he goes on this date with her, now they've hung out a few times and taking her out again on Saturday, and thats why we broke up, he wanted to start dating her. But for right now we're just roommates, seperate rooms and everything cuz we both work like 2 minutes away. He's waiting for another apartment to be available.
Has he truely already wanted out of this relationship or is he trying to hurt me and make me jealous? Cuz it's hurting me bad. I didn't want to break up, and he's just being hurtful to me. He said she's beyond fine and I have nothing compaired to her. That hurt...
2007-09-27 05:20:27 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We already broke 3 days ago, no chance of dating him ever again.
2007-09-27 05:59:52 · update #1
awww poor bab! well what a dick...your "mates" seem like ***** too. he probably wanted to go out of the relationship becuase there nothing he would want to make you jelous is there? omg you have nothing compared to her? dont listen to him hes a dick just try and move on try not to think about him..dont try contact him... dont be bitchy to him this will make you seem the bigger person...show him what hes missing out..show him you will be fine without him he will wonder him self how come she dosnt miss me? even though you probs will.. try move on bab =] hope ive helped
2007-09-27 05:34:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee, life can be tough sometimes but aren't you glad you found out what he is truely like before you took the relationship any further? There is no way I would even consider taking him back if I were you. As a matter of fact, I
wouldn't even allow him to continue staying there at all. As for your friend dump her too, I wouldn't even discuss it with her, just tell her to stay away from you altogether because she is definitely not your friend. Makes me wonder though, what you were up to? Did your friend know you were with another guy and figured that left your boyfriend fair game or what?
I think he definitely has been playing you all along. It is obvious that he doesn't give a hoot about you or your feelings and I think it is obvious that he has already gone on to another relationship. Give up the room-mate idea..it won't work.
2007-09-27 05:41:47 · answer #2 · answered by CINDY J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's so horrible. I know you are feeling very depressed right now but I think the news is not good on this one. If you've been together for more than two years, that should mean something but this guy is treating you like dirt. There is no way he should be doing that whilst on a break, especially a 2 day one! I don't think his reasons matter. He should not do that FULL STOP and I don't think you should get back with him cos u don't want someone like that. You want someone who wants to be with you and you only and who would never hurt you.
2007-09-27 05:41:09 · answer #3 · answered by Beilinda M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't even finish reading this question because from what I have read I can tell you now this relationship needs to END! I am going to tell you just like I do anyone else LOVE YOU!!!!!! I say that all the time because I have walked in your same shoes and I didn't love me. You have to love yourself and do what is best for you. It may hurt but you are hurting worse and you are sacrificing your self esteem. That's not healthy there are so many good people in the world why would you want to be w/ someone who is intentionally hurting you?????? It's not worth it. And if he loved you and cared for you he wouldn't hurt you. No matter what you may try to believe that's the truth get your head on think about what is best for you. If you had a daughter would you want her to go through what you're going through? I doubt it; just learn from this bad experience everyday gets easier. I wish you the best.
2007-09-27 05:30:31 · answer #4 · answered by aspen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Pink. If he's that willing to hurt you, he's not someone you want to be with long-term. This incident would be a pall cast over any future relationship you have.
I wouldn't say that he doesn't care that he's hurting you. His emotions about it are probably extremely complex. On one hand, he probably doesn't want to hurt you. On the other hand, he probably feels a need to drive you off, convince you that you don't want to pursue a relationship that he's already well out of.
When I had my divorce, I found out that my best friend had started sleeping with her a few days before the papers were signed. He was upset and embarrassed about it, but in reality, he did me a favor. By giving her something good to fixate on, he kept her from spending all of her time obsessing about how horrible a person I was.
Regardless of why he is doing it, you need to dissociate yourself from the relationship. Find someone else to spend your time with to help you get past it if you like, but the most important part is that you need to find a way to start letting go.
Addendum: Don't be too hard on the friend that set him up. If he really is that anxious to get out, then she did you a better favor than most friends would.
2007-09-27 05:32:12 · answer #5 · answered by Mythological Beast 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is amazing that you were in a two and a half year relationship with this guy. He sounds like a real jerk. Whatever his motives are it is wrong no matter what. If you think about it this break was a great idea because it gave you the answer to your question. Should I marry this guy? Deep down I think you know the answer to this question. You deserve better. He sounds like he is very immature and childish. Find someone else that will treat you right. Don't waste the pretty. Good luck!
2007-09-27 05:29:45 · answer #6 · answered by Missy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has all the control in this relationship. You have given that to him. You can't let him see you hurting any longer. You need to move on...from him and that so called friend. Thank god that you didn't marry someone like that. A decent guy wouldn't say those things to someone. You need to take the ball out of his court...even if you have to fake it! As long as he feels like you are waiting around for him, he will keep treating you this way. If you start acting like you are happy and don't care he will change his tune. But I still think you should find someone better. There are so many great guys out there, trust me nothing compares to being with a guy who adores you. This one obviously doesn't and you are worth more than that. Don't settle for it.
2007-09-27 05:31:23 · answer #7 · answered by lifeisgood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i guess maybe it was a good thing you did when you told him you needed a break. because you never know he might have cheated on you if you were still together, and that would have hurt more.. even if you have been together for such a long time its does not mean you know that person very well. people do change and if they don't really care for you then they will move on..otherwise he would have said no to going out with the other girl and said i have someone waiting for me. good luck
2007-09-27 05:27:13 · answer #8 · answered by R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of his motive, you need to be done with this guy. He's mean. Just plain mean. Something tells me the 2-day break was his idea, right? That was his clever way of having his cake and eating it too - date another girl during the "break" so it isn't technically cheating, then come home to you.
Please. Show some self-respect and kick him out. He can stay with a friend till he finds his own place.
2007-09-27 05:27:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants out - that's why he agreed to the break.
It's sad to end a relationship - but more sad to continue in a relationship where you are not wanted. Don't lose too much sleep over the guy - move on - if he really wanted to get engaged - he would have asked you to marry him instead of going on a break to decide.
2007-09-27 05:24:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey
I know it hurts a lot. From what I learned in my life when your partner goes with somebody else (any kind of affair) then there is no way that you could make things right. There are people who say, yes you can fix it even after affair but the truth is you never could possibly fix a broken glass. Therefore go, forget him, enjoy your life and be sure that there are millions of opportunity out there.
2007-09-27 05:29:24 · answer #11 · answered by andy-mac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋