iv been with my partner 4 2 years she has 2 boys to previous relationships yet im desperate 4 a child of my own,i love her 2 boys to death but dont have the bond between flesh and blood that she has,id love to have that feeling with them,the only problem is that my partner doesnt want another child even though wen we agreed a date to get married she told me we could have 1 togther,am i wrong for feeling like im making a big mistake,please help me!
2007-09-27 04:45:24 · 12 answers · asked by GAZZA P 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I don't think you're wrong for wanting a child at all!!Talk to her about it, tell her exactly how you feel and that you can't live your life without feeling the bond between a blood father and son.Tell her and explain to her how much it means to you to have a child of your own,I'm sure she'll understand!Well she should anyway!!
Tell her that she knows what it feels like to be a mum, and although you love her kids, you want to have your own child and know what it feels like!!
Sit her down and have a calm convo about why you can't live your life without knowing what it feels like to have your own child, tell her you love her and tell her you want to have the child with her........You need to tell show and explain to her how much this really means to you!!
My bet is, is that she doesn't know just how much it means to you to have your own child!!I really hope that she says yes!!Good luck!!
2007-09-27 04:48:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This should defiantly be sorted out before you get married, as you will resent her and her children if you don't. Is there a reason why she has now said she doesn't want another child? Maybe due to previous relationships, she is scared once she is carrying your child, you might not want her anymore? Maybe she feels you Will treat her 2 children differently to your own? I know their not you flesh and blood, but there really is no reason for you to love them less? or even feel you don't have a bond with them? This bond is built up over years of giving to them, and receiving off them.
good luck
2007-09-29 11:11:04 · answer #2 · answered by jacquishields 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not wrong i think a good father would want a child of your own and it's not wrong to feel like you are making a big mistake if you really love her you will give her some time having two children is really hard I have two children and i know how it is overwhelming to be pregnant again. Give her some time and i'm sure she will understand that you really want to conceive your own child good luck hope all goes well
2007-09-27 11:50:31 · answer #3 · answered by moringurl20 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your wrong for feeling the way you do. I think it's wrong the way she told you she would have a child with you then decided not to. I don't think you should get married because if you do and don't have a child together I think it will a regret you will always have. You need to sit down and talk to her about this. If she is adamant about not having another child then you may have to consider finding someone else.
2007-09-30 10:20:00 · answer #4 · answered by Angela C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all! I'm in the same boat. My BF has two kids and my bio son past away a few yrs ago. I love my step kids like my own but would really like one more bio child of my own. Have you talked to her about your feelings? My BF doesn't want anymore right now nor does he want to adopt or foster like i do. Other than that we love each other and are great together.
2007-09-27 11:55:20 · answer #5 · answered by Dani ~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are wrong to want a child of your own. I think you two need to have a serious talk before you get married. Personally, I think that if having a child of your own is important to you, you need to rethink marriage to this woman. It seems to me that she doesn't want to have more children and if you feel like you are making a big mistake, you should listen to your instincts.
2007-09-27 11:51:46 · answer #6 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's not fair of her. She might think you would start treating the boys differently when you have your own child. Talk to her and make sure she understands you will treat them the same the three of them
2007-09-27 11:52:21 · answer #7 · answered by Lorena A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your wife has misled you by saying that...I would explain to her that you really want a child of your own preferably with her, but you dont want to resign yourself to never being a father....any woman would understand that...surely ?? Good luck
2007-09-27 11:51:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children require love and attention weather you give birth to them or not. I can't tell you what to do, but if you are going to resent the children or your girlfriend for this decision, then don't get married. Move on.
2007-09-27 11:50:02 · answer #9 · answered by wife2denizmoi 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
talk to your girl and let her know your feelings. you are not wrong to want this. also be proud of yourself for taking on the huge responsiblity of being there and having so much love for someone else's children
2007-09-27 11:52:42 · answer #10 · answered by A***n G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋