We are on a budget, so I can't afford a lot of bridesmaids. I have asked my best friend and my goddaughter, but my sister and my fiance's sister thinks it's their 'right' to be my bridesmaids. My other sister doesn't mind.
Also, we are only have one usher and best man, so one bridesmaid and one flowergirl will balance it well.
2007-09-27 04:23:32 · 29 answers · asked by alib69 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
This is your wedding, as the bride you have who you want to be a bridesmaids. No one should presume its their right to be one. You have a very valid reason why you don't want them so it's their problem not yours.
2007-09-27 04:37:19 · answer #1 · answered by Dory 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You can have whoever you want, your sisters have probably always imagined being your bridesmaid but thats not really your problem. If you only want the 2, stick to your guns. If you would have more if you could afford it then tell them they are welcome to be bridesmaids but you can't afford dresses etc and they will have to pay for their own. Or you could have them help out in some other way so they don't feel left out - maybe they are brilliant at doing hair and make-up, or they could make favours for the guests, or do a reading...If they feel involved they are less likely to be bothered if about being bridesmaids.
2007-09-29 09:19:42 · answer #2 · answered by magenta 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one has the "right" to be a bridesmaid of yours. It doesn't matter who they are or what relation they are to you. Don't allow yourself to be manipulated into thinking that. However, since they are family, explain your situation about the finances. Your intention isn't to hurt them. Perhaps they can help out in another way -- for example your sisters can do a reading during the ceremony. Some may suggest for you to suck it up and include them in your wedding party -- but if your financial situation doesn't allot for them don't do it. Even if they get their own dresses and accessories, you still have to pay for their flowers and gifts. It would still be an added expense.
2007-09-27 12:17:56 · answer #3 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding you can do whatever you choose. My finance and I are having a very small wedding. No bridesmaids, or is it one bridesmaid? I can't remember but I'm having 1 best man, it's going to be simple.
No point in going in debt, we'd rather spend our money in other ways (like an awesome honeymoon) and revamping our newly purchased home.
You can do what YOU want on YOUR day. Don't allow people to tell you how things SHOULD be done, or how it was done when they were younger etc etc. It's about you not them. No one cares what they think.
2007-09-27 11:32:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you don't have to... but there may be bad feelings for a long time if you dont.
Why don't you explain the money situation and say they can be bridesmaids if they'll pay for their own dresses?
Or is it not just the money?
Getting married takes a lot of getting clear about what you want and don't want... don't worry tho, cos it all comes in handy when you actually are married!
2007-09-27 11:30:49 · answer #5 · answered by dakinijones 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea what your budget has to do with the number of bridesmaids. There is no expense other than a gift for each of them at the rehearsal dinner. They buy their own dresses, shoes etc. They are your sisters. They should be in it.
2007-09-27 13:31:02 · answer #6 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If they really want to be bridesmaids suggest they buy their own dresses. Tell them that the other bridesmaids are because of how tight your budget is :)
Congratulations and good luck for your special dayâ¥
2007-09-27 11:59:35 · answer #7 · answered by ¸.•*¨) Inked Barbie ¸.•*¨) 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OH girl, I know how you feel! I went rounds with my mom about this same thing. I have two sisters and my fiance has 3 sisters - WAY TO MANY people for us! We want simple and 12 wedding attendants - YIKES. My sisters were actually the ones who put it all into perspective for me . . and I hope this helps you too! They do not need to be standing up for 20 min during the ceremony (traditionally in an ugly dress they wll never wear again) to still be a part of YOUR day! Note that this is YOUR day not theirs!!! It is just our best friends that will be stand with us during the ceremony . . . my sisters are now going to be my offical Hair and Make-up guru's! Do what YOU want for YOUR day with YOUR money!!!!!
2007-09-27 11:45:22 · answer #8 · answered by imabadassbetty 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
CONGRATS! The only ones with *RIGHTS* about this event is you and your man. Your wedding, your choice. Your best friend is the right choice for you....sisters are sisters and you share things with them that you do not share with even your best friend, simply by virtue of living in the same house, you share things you dont even KNOW you do. Your finace's sister is his sister...not yours and not your best friend. However, if you plan a special dinner or event for *family girls*, include your soon to be sister in law, and let your sister plan it for you or with you before the wedding and before the shower. In a perfect world you could tell your soon to be sister in law that she is the something new you will be getting! Just dont tell you sister she is the something OLD....lol or you might be the something blue.
Enjoy your day my dear. No matter the weather, the sun will shine on you and yours that day!
2007-09-27 11:31:19 · answer #9 · answered by twapped2000 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
tell them you would love to have them there but your working on a tight budget and if they want to be your bridesmaids they would have to buy there on dress;s and accessories i have heard this done a few times and it gives you away out. if they say they cant afford it hope this helps stressed out dad still paying for his daughters wedding 3 years ago good luck hope you have a super day (only joking about the stressed out bit )
2007-09-30 11:40:01 · answer #10 · answered by bojomarriott 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋