see im a virgin and everyone makes it out to be bad and im feeling pressured should i just do it and get it over with or should i wait until the time is right?
2007-09-27 04:20:05 · 21 answers · asked by morgan p 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Please wait until you find "the one". That means a man who will appreciate the fact that you are not a skanky sl#t and haven't given it out to every jerk that has given you the slightest bit of attention.
Believe me - there is going to be someone you meet that will think you are the most wonderful woman he's ever met and will be willing to swim through shark infested waters just to bring you a lemonade. That is the man who will ask you to marry him.
If you "just do it and get it over with" you have made the act of making love nothing more than two animals rutting in the night. Do you really believe that you are nothing more than animal lust? (No matter what a woman says - deep down, we ladies want LOVE, not SEX - and you won't find real, true love by giving it away to everyone.)
And having sex for sex's sake means that when you do finally find someone you love, the probability that you won't enjoy making love to him will be very high, because it will no longer be special.
Believe me, making love with the man whom you love more than anything in this world, and he loves you and will do anything for your pleasure, will be the highest sexual pleasure you will ever know - AND emotionally rewarding as well.
Yes - this kind of love DOES exist.
2007-09-27 04:34:26 · answer #1 · answered by Mama's on the half tip 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not cave in to peer pressure. Don't randomly go out and get a guy to have sex with just to say you did it. The ones who are putting you down should be shamed publicly if they are doing sex just for the experience of not being a virgin and are bragging about it. Wait for who you think is the right guy and do it at the right time. That should be well into a relationship and not haphazardly.
2007-09-27 11:30:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
WAIT. I felt like that too when I was a virgin but I ended up making the wrong choice. I did it with someone just to get it over with and you know what? I regret it. You really should wait until you find someone who you want to do it with to actually share the experience, hopefully someone you love, instead of just getting it over with.
Trust me when I say sex with the right person is waaaaay better than just doing it to do it.
2007-09-27 11:24:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being a virgin...when it comes to sex and sex for the first time it is important that you are comfortable with what you are doing...if you are not ready you will get nothing out of it...don't ever allow someone to pressure you into having sex...i lost my virginity when i was twelve (a very long time ago) and i felt i was ready but i am not you so you do exactly what your head tells you to do...screw people who wind you up for not having sex...one last thing...when you do have sex make sure to use condoms...that is very important...take care
2007-09-27 11:27:10 · answer #4 · answered by hanz2602 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait for it, I am a guy and I also am waiting for the right one.... I am almost 20 and not worried about it. (Most gals find me cute)
There are guys out there who care...
You will find him, If I ever met you in person, The last thing I would do is pressure you into it. I'd rather cook you dinner.
I hope this helps
2007-09-27 12:08:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE!
Do not waste your virginity away just because people make you feel like it's a bad thing to have.
Most likely these people are just jealous of you because you still have the excitement of finding that special person.
Don't piss it away, it's the most wonderful thing in the world to have and the most wonderful thing in the world to lose when you meet that special person.
I was one of those girls who threw it away to the first guy who gave them attention for longer than six months. Trust me, your self-esteem will take a beating from it.
I hope everything works out and the man you lose it to is a really great person. :) Best of luck. In the future, try to keep that under wraps. Your sex life isn't anyone else's business anyway. :)
2007-09-27 11:31:18 · answer #6 · answered by Agnostic 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wait til the time is right! I fell to that pressure at 15 and thought I was pregnant at 16..... please don't make that mistake It's not a bad thing to wait-it takes a strong person to say no & stick with there beliefs.
2007-09-27 11:29:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
WAIT!!!!!!!!!!!! This is a very challenging time in your life but that's no reason to allow peer preesure make you do things you don't want to do. Your virginity is something you can NEVER get back, and being a "born again virgin" does not count. If you allow others to make this decision for you, trust me you'll regret it once you get older.
2007-09-27 11:25:42 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. Understood 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wait til your married, youll regret it if you dont. dont do things just because your pressured to do them. be proud to b a virgin.. a lot of girls out there arent because they were pressured to have sex and now it wont be a special thing on your wedding night. itll just be like every other night that you had sex, thats not special at all.
2007-09-27 11:31:31 · answer #9 · answered by baggy22pants 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your having pressure from people maybe because they're frustated that they aren't virgin anymore and they regret it . you must not do things to please people .if you said you will stay virgin till your wedding its a great thing and not much girls can do it .anyway two people having sex should be in love with each other not just to proove something.you know the actress in friends called phoebee she stayed virgin till her wedding and i heard she was 30 years .a girl being virgin till her wedding is a best gift for the one who will become her husband.
2007-09-27 11:30:29 · answer #10 · answered by emma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋