I am interested in joining the army and have been for some time now. My girlfriend who i have been dating for over a year said that if i join than she is leaving me. It is kinda a loose loose situation. I really want to join but i dont want to loose her. How can i fix this I dont know how to tell her without her breaking down. please i really need help
2007-09-27 04:06:51 · 9 answers · asked by Jay B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well how important to you is she? My husband joined the military after we had been married 3 years, and that definately took a toll. We have a very good relationship and if it was anything less we would not have made it. The divorce rate for military is higher than for civilians, so keep that in mind. Are you sure you would want to join the army over the navy or airforce? I am so thankful my hubby isn't in the army. Good luck!
2007-09-27 04:15:08 · answer #1 · answered by ld123 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's "lose" (not loose) and you need to do what's best for you in the long run. This is your life/career path and could lead to some great things. Girlfriends come and go a lot easier than good jobs.
If she cannot accept your career choice that's unfortunate (she has a right to feel as she does) but bottom line you've got to make the choice that you think will benefit you most in the long run.
2007-09-27 04:10:44 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first off never let a girl stop you from what you want to do..it's your life..ya you may love her..but at the same time..there are plenty of other fish in the sea..if she can't be happy for you and accept the fact that this is what you want to do..maybe you should reconsider her as a gf..someone who truely loves you will be by your side no matter the circumstances..some girls just aren't meant for that kind of distance..take it from me..if they aren't used to the military life style and question the fact of you joining..chances are it won't last..they will get bored and start sleeping around..not saying this to be mean..i just know sooo many guys who've gotten screwed over because of it..so sit down and talk to her and try to be reasonable..if that doesn't work..do what your heart tells you to do..it's your life..
2007-09-27 04:36:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should support you not tell u that kind of stuff.go ahead and do it because you dont know if she is going to be there forever with you and if you join the army that is something that u will have for ever. she is not a good girl friend.you should think about the air force of marines better. my boyfriend is a marine.and no matte what i am the for him. good luck
2007-09-27 04:12:57 · answer #4 · answered by evita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say JOIN!! There are plenty of chicks that love army guys, and Plus your helping out your country... Its a WIN WIN Situation
Good Luck
2007-09-27 04:17:16 · answer #5 · answered by Mindi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend is manipulating you to do what she wants which is not leave. If she really loves you, she would want you to achieve your career goals and she'd be there when you return.
If you want to join the Army, then do so. If she doesn't wait then she's probably not the one for you.
2007-09-27 04:14:01 · answer #6 · answered by Snickerdoodle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my girl didnt say she would leave me when i joined (but she left anyway) Sadly it happens. Remember this is your future. The army can be good for your fututre. And dont worry, you will meet other girls.
2007-09-27 04:16:09 · answer #7 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your army career and then if she leaves she wasn't meant to be
2007-09-27 04:09:47 · answer #8 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she loves u and she dont want u 2get killed in the hell of Iraq
2007-09-27 04:26:36 · answer #9 · answered by ♫ Bright Side ♫ 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋