I don't remember anything happening, but others say that it did. Plus I tested positive for a minor sexually transmitted infection shortly afterwards, which only could have came from him. My boyfriend also got it, because for 2 weeks I didn't know I was carrying it. I have all the evidence I need and am sure he'll come up positive for the STI. What should I do? I don't want him to get away with this, or pass this infection on to any other innocent girls. I'm also underage though so that factor will more than likely incorporate itself into the case, I wouldn't want the "suppliers" to get into any trouble. Would this be a problem, too?
2007-09-27 04:01:30 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
Okay, I don't have anything aginst you personally, but...you are/were underage, & drunk, & having sex with your boyfriend, & were raped while drunk by someone else, & got a dose. If you take this public, EVERYONE will get in trouble, including you & your boyfriend, the suppliers, & they may get to him, but in most people's mind, underage drinking & sex is worse than most anything else. Can't you start a smear campaign against him, spread it around that he is carrying, & will give girls an infection if they go with him? I would believe what I hear about a guy if I hear it enough. It will keep your suppliers out of trouble, & your boyfriend if he is legal age.
You really need to get your act together. Your behavior is unnacceptable for an underage child. Yes, child. Until you are 21 you are a child. 18 just makes you barely legal.
If you go public, there will be much more than your so called rape in question. If you don't remember it, he could also claim it was consensual, & knock the charge away from rape. Gad, you have a mess. I hope you learn from this!
2007-09-27 04:25:16 · answer #1 · answered by fairly smart 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well first off rape is rape. It may or may not be raped but no matter what if it is was believe that the " suppliers" will get charged so depends on how much you really do want to make sure this jerk pays at the very least he took advantage of you and I do believe that is a charge. But if you are against the " Suppliers" getting in trouble you might want to think about it. And even though you got the sti and other people say stuff happen you do not remeber anything which is not good. I am in no way trying to get you not to press charges I say go for it but the da might have issues with pressing charges cuz you do not remeber anything and you being drunk will not hold up in court
2007-09-27 04:18:57 · answer #2 · answered by MEMYMOM 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first...if you are underage and he is of age (and not you are 17 and he is 18 sort of stuff...I'm talking if you are 14 and he is like 23) then you should be charging him with more than just rape, but also sexual assault charges of a minor. That is never okay and is always wrong.
Second, if you are underage, what are you doing drinking with people you barely know to the point of intoxication???!!! You DO know that's illegal, right? Those "suppliers" you are so quick to care about are breaking the law and enabling you to get yourself into these situations in the first place. Give your head a shake girl.
Thirdly, if you are getting drunk to the point of intoxication...how do you know what you said or did?! Maybe you were acting slutty and putting the moves on everyone. Or maybe you initiated it and he said no at first. That's the problem with getting drunk...you don't know what you are doing! If you are putting yourself in situations where you can't control your behavior, then you need to reassess putting yourself in those situations in the first place!
I don't personally think women should be able to use being "drunk" as an excuse. I mean...who determines how drunk is TOO drunk to consent? And how does someone else KNOW you are drunk? Is it when you start to stumble...when you SAY you are drunk...what are the definitive factors for determining it???
Far too many women cry rape these days when it was really consensual. The fact that you got an STD and that is why you are now debating pressing charges makes me question whether it is really rape or just plain revenge.
When women take consensual intercourse and veil it as rape, they do an disservice to all the women in the world who are ACTUALLY victims of rape.
2007-09-27 06:14:32 · answer #3 · answered by A R 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Glad to see the cry for resposible actions is on the rise.
Do you have any proof that he was sober?
Could he have put something in your drink?
Could you be crying rape because you gave an STD to the boyfriend?(I know it is harsh but it does happen. alot)
What do you mean by "suppliers"? Alch or drugs?
WTF are your mom and dad?
Tiz a very hard question but you should know that if the guy get convicted or even pleads to a lesser charge he will have to register as a sex offender for the rest of his life.
Add a bit ----
So sorry to play devils advocate. It is a disease.
She can remember nothing of what happened so how can anyone say that she was raped? All she has to go on was her drunken friends. Her and him could have both been lit and then would we still call that rape. Remember that unless this is a statutory rape case you have to show that the guy had intentionally taken advantage of her. Also what if she cheated on the boyfriend before this night, and not only gave the boyfriend an STD but the new guy also.
2007-09-27 04:17:56 · answer #4 · answered by poepoesdawg 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's actually the government that brings criminal charges, not private citizens, but yes, a woman could theoretically be charged with rape of a man. In most jurisdicitons, rape is simply defined as forcing another person to have sex with them against their will; the law does not specify a gender. Exactly how one would actually prove such a case is another matter, of course, and chances are something like this would only ever realistically occur in a case of an older woman sexually assaulting a child.
2016-05-19 23:18:39 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The suppliers, assuming they were not directly working with the rapist, should get into trouble. They allowed a rapist to attack an underaged person without protest. They provided you with alcohol, and sat back when a predator took advantage. That is called aiding and abetting. These are not your friends. They set you up for what happened.
You need to press charges. You also need new friends, and need to think about your own judgement. What did you think would happen if you got drunk with other people around? There is a reason our society protects the young from alcohol. You just learned it. Stay sober and find new friends who do not drink.
Please, bear in mind that most men would not take advantage like that, nor would they stand back and watch another do so. This person is a disgrace to the rest of us and needs to be corrected as a matter of public safety.
2007-09-27 04:19:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sadly, whether is is rape or not, the time that has passed leaves no physical evidence and even the STI is circumstancial, how do you know your boyfriend didn't have it, give it you you and you gave it to the other man? I am not accusing but all I am offering just a bit of what the defense may say if you do press charges.
Your main argument now is known as hersay, or better known as "he said she said". I wish you the best of luck on whatever you do but if you want a conviction your probably not going to get it. Thats just the reality of what I am able to acertain from your description.
Your witnesses say you slept with him, his witnesses will probably say you were throwing yourself at him. Again, "he said, she said".
Now, if you want him to get into some trouble that is not rape related, tell him about the STI, if he continues to have sex before getting treatment and passes it on to other women without their knowledge of the STI it is a punishable offense. If he knows he has a STD and passes it on to an unknowing woman of his condition it is neglect, or a variant of it.
Best of Luck, whatever you do, do whats right
2007-09-28 10:24:19 · answer #7 · answered by ANSAG 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
please..you forgot totally about it, until your boyfriend found out he had an std, then you want to scream rape? The truth is, you cheated on him and wanted to keep a lid on it. Now that you can't hide it anymore, you want to try to destroy someone elses life. First of all, if you were extremely drunk, and forgot everything, how could you possibly remember the fact that he was completely sober?
Bull-(Cough)-hit!
Oh yeah, not to mention another fact...Why were you getting rediculously drunk without your boyfriend around, and putting yourself in that position? I know if my girl was getting absolutely trashed to the point of forgetting things and hanging out with a bunch of horney drunken guys, she would be cut loose VERY quickly.
So, I already caught you in one lie. Why don't you just admit the truth...you cheated on your boyfriend. Now that he knows for sure, you need to come up with an excuse. This seems like the perfect one. Just keep in mind, if you can't prove rape, he could always sew you for slander. Which is what I hope happens.
2007-09-27 18:21:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
well sounds like you might have a case for date rape.
but be prepared for the defense to make you look like a whore in front of everyone, and really stick it to you for being so drunk/drugged and put yourself in this kind of position. if you are the kind of person that does this kind of thing frequently (party, drink underage, etc) you won't make many friends on the jury. theres a good chance your credibility and your character will be destroyed and that you will lose anyway.
good luck. it may be time to start making take a hard look at the people you call friends, and the way you enjoy your weekends. and yes, if you take legal action, your friends (or "suppliers") will definitely be identified and possibly be prosecuted for contributing to the delinquency for all those that they bought alcohol for.
2007-09-27 04:11:38 · answer #9 · answered by Free Radical 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That is completely and utterly rape... it's not rape only when both of u r drunk.... he had sex with u without ur consent! My God!
P.S. Jon B is prejudice and sick, dont listen to him. He thinks there's some sort of conspiracy sh*t when all along you should have been protected from people like that guy who raped you. And i cant believe that Jon B blames you for being drunk, even though everyone else gets drunk too. the problem is that there are some people who takes the oppportunity to rape someone so helpless, and so people like him should be stopped.
Contact RAINN the nation's anti rape, assault organization, you shouldnt let him get away with this or you'd spend ur whole life thinking about it.... please think about it.
2007-09-27 18:50:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋