My fiance is 27 and im 23, im all about doing anything and everything, and when i met him i thought he had experience, but he didnt, he tried oral and he had no clue what he was doing, i tried teaching him but he got upset. Also now he enver wants to do it, i mean im very clean, and iconsider my self sexy, and i know he does too, but he keeps telling me he doesnt like it, well i do, and i feel like he doesnt care much for what my desires are, what should i do?? i mean i think i could leave w it if at least sex was more often and very good,. but is not, i really need to seat w him and give him an ultimatum?? i mean we are gtting marie in 5 months, soo what do i do?
2007-09-27 03:50:00 · 13 answers · asked by mel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People like what they like, and you can't change it. Some guys don't like oral or anal. Some women don't like oral or anal. If they don't like it you can try convince them, but sexuality is so deeply rooted in our personality that it is impossible to change. You can have them try it once, but if it doesn't work for them, that's it. Don't make any judgments on how much he wants you or finds you attractive, it is just not his cup of tea...
I think it is important to be with somebody sexually compatible, so in my opinion this is a big problem for you. You have to decide that you can live without it, or call it quits. The problem with 'deciding' that it is not important is tough since deep down it probably still is, and it might be one of the things that will could make you stray later.
2007-09-27 04:22:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If u are in a staedy relationship with the guy, he will understand if u tell him. Have a chat with him and discuss ur sexual prefrences u mite find that u share a common interest. Most guys don't want to push for sex becos they don't want to offend the chick, they feel oral sex is a better alternative.
2016-04-06 03:42:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone likes seafood, if you know what i mean! It's just a matter of preference really. Some people find it disgusting, and that isn't too uncommon. You need to be more understanding and put your selfish feelings aside if you really love this guy. There are many ways of getting off, and it's not like you're getting robbed of an orgasm or anything. He can pleasure you there with his fingers and have the same end result!
2007-09-27 04:22:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your relationship is going downhill and will continue to move in that direction.Something as important as your desires are not be cared for by your mate.I feel your resentment and I don!t blame you a bit.You deserve what you need and are not going to be a happy camper, only a frustrated wife..Why be frustrated?I don!t see a solition to your problem.He is not goung to just get down on you and love it,this will be a problem until you leave.Move on girl.
2007-09-27 04:10:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No disrespect but have you checked out your smell lately.. You migth be a bit stinky down south and your baby just dont want to hurt your feelings. But moreover.. you need to change dudes cause he should be willing to take one for the team.
Than you mention that he is not even layin the pipe down.. This relationship is going into the toilet.. I would jump ship.
2007-09-27 04:07:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its kinda like the women is in control maybe? Or some might say it because they dont wanna seem soft. Personally I like to do it. I enjoy the reaction :) But yeah I would talk about it. That could be a problem.
2007-09-27 03:55:15 · answer #6 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's not into your cares as much as you are into his, its basically an early sign. We women have to pick up on those early signs of hey this isnt going to be good in the long run. When it comes down to it, its not even about the oral sex, its about the fact that he's not even willing to continue working at it. :-( I wish you the best hun, good luck
2007-09-27 03:57:58 · answer #7 · answered by teri is ambience 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
uhh ... that might cause problems down the road for your marriage. i would say to him that if you teach him stuff about sex then he can teach you some stuff. even if he has nothing new to you to teach.. just go along with it. he might let you teach him but then again it might hurt his 'man ego'.
2007-09-27 03:55:55 · answer #8 · answered by baggy22pants 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you buy yourself a vibrator and say that you don't need sex from him anymore..Then, shrug it off and say 'well, I need to be satisfied.' I bet he'll soon change his mind then! Gauranteed!!
2007-09-27 03:53:45 · answer #9 · answered by fruitytuttytutty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Handcuff him to the bed and sit on his face.
2007-09-27 03:53:59 · answer #10 · answered by Billy Bob Barker 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋