We met in about 2 months ago, Firstly he lied about his age, and said he was 29, but really he's 32. I am 19, but I am not a typical 19 year old, I already know what I want out of life. Well things got really serious, really fast I ended up moving in with him, and living there for about a month, then I moved out due to the fact I just got scared, I really dont want to get hurt. So now he works nights and we really dont see eachother till the weekend along with his son who's 12 yrs old, and very disrespectful, to me and to his dad, because he never disaplines him, I completley stay out of all that. This past couple of weeks he makes only 1 time out of his day for a simple phone call, which we end up talking for 2 mins and then it's "i got to go!" , so I said the other day, this isn't working and he pops off with lets be friends. Just like that showed absoultley no compassion toward me at all, so we talked a little yesturday and he wants to have lunch. what do you think about all this?
2007-09-27 03:43:50 · 9 answers · asked by ♥JENN♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just to add, He dose tell me he loves me, and we were making plans on moving in to a new house, and possible within the next month try to concieve a baby, and we were talking about marriage! So yes we were both completley serious about each other.
2007-09-27 03:54:21 · update #1
Another thing I have a really good career, I am a hair dresser, in fact i was helping with bills, so i am not after his money! just to clear that up! I really feel for this guy!
2007-09-27 04:27:04 · update #2
Sorry hun, sounds like he is a bit imature to be in a serious relationship. It doens't sound like a good situation, first of all in the first month, he lied about his age and how did you find out he was really 32, did he tell you or did you just find out? If he lied about something so insignifcant as age, don't you wonder what else he has lied about? Go find your self a man that is respectful and shows you that he cares.
2007-09-27 03:50:38 · answer #1 · answered by littleone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
32 year olds have a more settled look on life than 19 year olds. And the fact he has a son 12 yrs old only weighs on his mind. If he has trouble disciplining him now, think how he'll be in 3 or 4 years. He may want to be friends with you just for the sexual benefits he derives from being with such a younger woman and you thinking you know what you want. Sounds like all you really want is an easy way to an established life and are fighting yourself to convince yourself you'd be better off settling with him no matter if there's love in the relationship or not.
2007-09-27 11:23:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from this man before he destroys your life!
You need to be with people closer to your age!
You say you are not a typical 19 yr old but it sounds like you are!
You moved in with a guy you don't know. Was that a wise move?
Then moved out because you were scared! Do you always run when you are scared?
You are asking question about a relationship that started with a lie!
You do not know how to manage this relationship. You do not know how to handle the disrespectful child. This man is playing with you and your emotions. He is manipulation you and you do not even realize it.
You say you know what you want. When did you want a dishonest man with a disrespectful child who doesn't treat you well and is playing with your emotions? You have a future ahead of you. If you do not mess it up and don't let anyone mess it up for you. Get away from this man before he destroys your life!
Good Luck!
2007-09-27 11:06:36 · answer #3 · answered by Bill C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's hard to tell, but definitely he's more mature than u in some ways because he even got married and had a son so he's know what's going on to be 19. when u are staying with someone older than u u should be more cautious espeically in a relationship because he knows more. my view is he is not that interested in u if he can even say 'let's be friends'. of course he may like u so much but he just can't admit it and don't want u to get hurt because he may think u and him have no future. so the best thing is if u really like him, then no matter he likes u or not, go up and try to be more active and asks him out and even tell him u love him but does he love u. if u don't love him that much, then just be friends.
2007-09-27 10:49:23 · answer #4 · answered by Victor N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JeNN,
Girls know what the want out of life when they reach 25.
You see, you have a problem. Yes, we all want to help but it seems that from his first lie, you should have ended the story with him. I am not in the place of blaming you. I am fond with freedom but can you tell me who in this world knows about freedom. look at yourself, you are a human, you are a woman, you are smart enough to hold your life in your hands from the positive end.
Are you studying? what are your ambitions? where do you see yourself after a decade? it is more important than throwing your body in useless relationship. Let the one who appreciates JENN be after her, be after a person who deserves to be owned like gold. You are gold Jenn.
2007-09-27 10:56:49 · answer #5 · answered by My-E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is high time you must think about yourself and leave this guy and look for some one who respects u and wants to live with u and only for u. first he lied about his age and he has an unruly son who do not respect u.
2007-09-27 10:49:20 · answer #6 · answered by viswasam c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has too much baggage and drama. Move on and find someone who does not lie and does not already have children and he is too old for you anyway . I think maybe he is looking for someone to be a mother to his son and you dont need that at your age . good luck .
2007-09-27 10:51:13 · answer #7 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on. you both know it was fun when it was new but you said you both know it's not working. it sucks when you say it and the other person agrees. part of you wants him to fight for you. but when it's over, it's over.
btw....you are quite mature for your age. it's cool that you stayed out of his whole lack of parenting deal with his son. stay cool.
2007-09-27 10:50:39 · answer #8 · answered by SpeedyGonz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont build road that reach nowhere.
2007-09-27 11:45:38 · answer #9 · answered by md82_corp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋