My boyfriend is going to charge me $600 a month to move into his house. I am pregnant with his child and he already has 2 kids(that are from a previous relationship) living with him in his 3 bedroom home. He said we will split the cost in half for the babies needs. Does this sound reasonable?
2007-09-27 03:05:48 · 14 answers · asked by LOVELY LADY 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I am 29 having my first child
2007-09-27 03:34:57 · update #1
Sounds like I would find my own place and get child support...Hmmmm...your pregnant with his child, shouldnt you share everything including his house????
2007-09-27 03:10:46 · answer #1 · answered by lovelylady 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has a good point. It is not ok for you to being rent. It is not your problem that he has 2 other kids. You need to take a stand for what you want so you don't regret anything.
It will be easy for you to pity and feel sorry for him, b/c he has other kids to worry about. Just remember- he brought those kids into this world, just like he helped bring yours into it.
Whether or not you move in with him depends on what the situation really is. If you have NO where else to go, and this is your ONLY option, then you will need to move in with him. Now if that ends up happening- how will you pay for rent? If he plans on you being a stay at home mom, for your child plus the other two, then he needs to support you 100%.
If you are planning on working, then perhaps paying some rent is not so bad, but $600 is too much.
Don't kid yourself- you WILL end up taking care of his other kids.
This is a time when you need to decide what you are made of. Take no b.s. from him. Be strong and firm. I don't know how old you are, but you sound young. I hope you have the strenght and power to stand up for yourself.
Good luck.
2007-09-27 03:27:11 · answer #2 · answered by D G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider adoption.
Your boyfriend is in no position to make demands about how the child will be supported. The idea of charging you to live with him, and then "paying you" some pittance is ludricrous.
Why would you even consider such a backwards arrangement?
Your situation has nothing to do with his previous relationship and existing kids. His responsibiliy to your child is no less than his repsonsibility for his others. See a lawyer as soon as possible--or at least talk to your doctor about your options.
2007-09-27 03:18:03 · answer #3 · answered by chocolahoma 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lovely lady, this is my advise to you...
while everyone should be responsible for where they are going to live like rent, utilities, groceries etc. it all depends on how much money each person makes.
I think the man should pay the house note if the house is his and it is his sole responsibility. remember if the relationship doesn't work out, you helped him pay for his home. The woman should help with the grocery bill, pay one of the bills like the water, gas or light....
It looks like to me he is taking advantage of you...
I agree that you should get your own place and make him pay child support.He should take that into consideration and not even charge you rent..You could tell him that you are going to charge him for childcare and call some places and see how much they charge per child. Honey, prepare yourself because I don't think your relationship with this guy is going to last. He sounds inconsiderate and selfish and who wants someone like that... I am sorry that your are pregnant from this guy but I wish you much luck and a baby is always a blessing.....God Bless.....
2007-09-27 03:46:08 · answer #4 · answered by mysticmoonprincess01 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes it does sounds reasonable, where else are you going to find housing 600? Is this half of the monthly rent? You should find out how much it is total and pay half.
2007-09-27 03:09:42 · answer #5 · answered by A***n G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be careful with this situation. You're carrying his child. Why is he going to make you pay $600? Is it for the rent only or is it for rent, food, etc.....? If you have your own place, don't move in with him but make him pay child support.
2007-09-27 03:22:08 · answer #6 · answered by angelamc31 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok for one you are boyfriend and girlfriend, you are carrying his child and he really wants you to pay rent? like how pathetic, i would find my own place and then get him to pay support.
this child is just as much his responsibility as it is yours and for him to be charging you rent is absolutely the silliest thing i have heard.
if you two live together then everything has to be divided evenally.but he shouldnt expect so much=. youre the one gonna have to give birth to his child. id tell him to suck it up. and if he doesnt like oh well.'
good luck
2007-09-27 03:17:32 · answer #7 · answered by jams 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lose this guy. Get your own place and get the courts to get him to pay you. Make better choices in men. He sounds like a loser. Your life will be a pain if you keep getting involved with guys like that.
2007-09-27 05:58:41 · answer #8 · answered by Macca ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me it sounds like he wants a roommate and a babysitter for his kids. I would be VERY VERY CAREFUL before making this decision. Don't' get your heart broke.
2007-09-27 03:14:26 · answer #9 · answered by Leah M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reasonable? To have sex with a man you are not married to?
To have a child with a man who already has two illegitimate children? To not have a solid enough relationship that money issues can be discussed amongst the two of you instead of strangers?
Sure really reasonable and smart...
2007-09-27 04:02:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋