I was a stay at home mom from birth to daughters age 5 pre school then I started working when she started preschool.
now i want to know how much as she gets older what to expect
as she matures how much time she may need of me?
2007-09-27 02:25:08 · 15 answers · asked by toenail 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
A mom of an 18-23 year old girl needs her mom to be there when she asks, but that's about it.
Remember when your daughter was a toddler and exploring her new world, you were there as a home base. She would explore and toddle back to you for reassurance, then toddle off again to explore. You were her security in an unfamiliar world.
Age 18-24 is rather like that but with a massively expanded world and situations to toddle into. Be there for when she needs a home base, but that may simply be a phone call or email, not a physical return. And as you did when she was little, when she does come back for that reassurance, let her go again.
2007-09-27 11:02:58 · answer #1 · answered by Arwen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as they are getting older the less time you should be needing to put in with the kids as if you did the job right then they have all they need by the age 18 to 23, so just let the child(ren) know your there if they wont you but let them fly on there own.
if your talking about teens then you will just be needing to feed them and you will see them most times for that and when they wont money from you, other then that keep there computers with spy where so that they are keep safe and make shore that they are heading for the right place and then go from there, if they need you often they will actually come up and say so but then other time by there normal habits will change and then you will be able to tell if there is something that you need to look into other then that there is no set times and all can be right from 0 to 24/7 go by what you feel
2007-09-27 02:40:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your relationship.
The fact that you are "there" for her will be more important to her than spending every single minute with her.
If she's heading out the door at 18, sit her down and have a serious chat about the perils of living on your own at that age for a woman, let her know that you're just a phone call away, etc...
At that age, the parent usually wants the child's company more than the child does the parent's.
2007-09-27 03:43:35 · answer #3 · answered by jcurrieii 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know when I was 18 I didnt want time with my mom and when I was 23 w my first child and working I still didnt want time with my mom. I was and am an adult was my view we went our own ways did our own things and we'd talk on occassion and on holiday's or if we'd just call to say "hi"
Infact when my mom passed away in 03 when I was 32 it was still like that. I loved her but I had my own life and she understood. Would I change things? Maybe I'd have spent more time with her but again I had a life that no longer revolved around my mom
2007-09-27 02:34:05 · answer #4 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This seriously has to be a joke! You spend as much time with your children as you can. When they get older, they move on to things other than being Mommy's little one. Your relationship changes along with the time spent with them as they grow! Why worry about how much time you have to "invest" in your daughter when she gets older and start worrying about enjoying her now...every second of life is a blessing. If you look to the future to much you will miss the blessing that are meant for today!
2007-09-27 10:52:39 · answer #5 · answered by Amber B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it up to your daughter. Be open when she needs you yet don't press her to be around you all the time. It sounds like your daughter is a grown woman now and can most likely care for herself. But she will always need family she can rely on and a mother to get advice from. Also communicate with her, what does she want? Ask and talk it out.
2007-09-27 02:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by grimstress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She really only needs you, if she wants to you.
Meaning, if she doesn't want to talk to you.....then she doesn't.
I'm 23 and live with my mother. But, I don NEED her for anything. I have a job and go to school. She is nice enough to let me live here, rent free while I get finished with school and on my feet financially. I don't need for her to do anything for me.
Although, she does do my laundry without asking. Which is just her way of being nice...........but tonight I'm cooking the dinner.
If you daughter still lives with you....it's needs to be like roommates more then parent/child. I mean, you'll still have that emotional attachment......but not physical needs and such.
2007-09-27 04:54:43 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Answers 2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean 18-23yr old GIRL? You should mean 18-23yr old woman. Unless you accept the fact she is an adult and grown woman and show her that respect she may decide she does not need you at all. Besides that it depends on the woman, if she is highly independent expect to hear from her less vs the clingy type.
2007-09-27 03:01:35 · answer #8 · answered by MadMike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really varies on how well your daughter copes with the realities of life. I talk to my mom daily because I want to, but in my late teens and early twenties I was far to independent and I "knew everything". Then I grew up and realized how wise my mother is!
2007-09-27 05:17:14 · answer #9 · answered by ElioraImmanuel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Younger the children, more attention they need from mum. When they are teenagers, they need friends and mum, when they are adults from 18 onwards, they will need friends and mum too. But the topics of discussion and time spent will be different. When children are older, you need to be more a friend to them than a mum especially during teenager. More importantly, always give them priorities because they are your children.
from parentingblessings.com
2007-09-27 03:25:28 · answer #10 · answered by shangpam07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋