2007-09-27 02:11:49 · 13 answers · asked by ♥♡Dreamer♥♡ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If you can plan it, I truly believe that 2.5 years is perfect! Your children will be close enough to play together, but not so close that they're competitive. Of course, there are always exceptions, depending on the personality and temperament of your children, but 2.5 years has worked beautifully for us.
{My sincere and heartfelt sympathy on the loss of your daughter, Texas Angel}
2007-09-27 02:45:23 · answer #1 · answered by Spoiled 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My children were born 13yrs 1 month and 15 days apart
I had my daughter just before I turned 22 and my son just prior to my 35th birthday.
My daughter was 14ys 6 months 3 days (she passed away on labor day)
My son is 16 months
I wouldnt have had them at any different time which is why I didnt. Some people have their kids close together so they have "play mates" but my two were the best of friends. In fact they were always laughing and playing with one another. My daughter was NEVER forced or made to play with her brother, she was NEVER once asked to watch him or take care of him or even change a diaper (and she didnt). And when he's old enough to understand I'll tell him about their bond and show him all the photos of the two of them together and I hope he grows up to be just as amazing as she was.
My sister was 11 months older then me my brother 3 yrs younger and none of us got along until we all grew up and moved out on our own 1000 miles apart!
2007-09-27 09:29:47 · answer #2 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We had our 3 sons 2 years apart, which turned out to be ideal. Growing up, they were close enough in age to have similar interests and go to the same school a lot of the time (so they had a built-in friend there), and now that they are grown they still like doing things together from time to time. Of course, if I had had a girl in there somewhere, that may have changed the dynamic, but I still think they would have been close.
2007-09-27 09:23:07 · answer #3 · answered by younggrandma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is such a tough thing!! i have three cousins who are 17,16, and 15. they get along so well and they have grown up together, however from the parental standpoint that is three children going to college at the same time, three kids needing a car and car insurance.
however i am 6 years older than my sister. we were never close until i turned 18 and moved out of the house. by the time she was born i was an only child... i had been for 6 years and i didn't want or think i needed a sister. now she is my best friend but it was probably very tough on her growing up with a mean older sister and it was definitely annoying to have a tagalong tattletale sister.
2007-09-27 09:22:46 · answer #4 · answered by somebody's a mom!! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I'm happy with just one child, but i think if i had another, i would like to have a large age gap between the kids (maybe 7-8 years) so that I could spend time individually with each child. Not to mention paying for college would be easier because you'd have more time between the kids!
2007-09-28 13:27:56 · answer #5 · answered by sweetjadedtears 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mother nature tries to space them 2 years apart.
But in terms of what is the best age, that is going to vary from person to person and family size.
The plus side of having them close together (or having twins) is that they will be closer in age to be able to play together. The down side of having them close together is that it's a lot more work trying to take care of multiple little ones.
The plus side of having them farther apart is that the older one will be able to better take care of himself (dressing, feeding, etc) so that you only have to concentrate on the physical needs of one at a time. The down side to having them farther apart is that they are less likely to be able to play together.
I guess as a comment, I would say the "best" age differences are either 0 (twins), 2, or 4 years apart. Twins because you have that built-in playmate, 2 years because that's the average, or 4 so that you only have one at a time in high school and collage.
2007-09-27 10:07:18 · answer #6 · answered by HooKooDooKu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a daughter who is 9 and a son who is 4. I had always wanted them closer about two years apart. It just didn't work out that way. Whatever you decide will work for you. Having them farther apart is nice because you get individual time with each one. Having them close together would be nice as well. They could play together more and you wouldn't have to go back and forth between having to use diapers and not having to use them.
2007-09-27 09:22:52 · answer #7 · answered by gater 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I only have one kid so far, but I hope I have another one soon so they'll be close together. Me and my sister were a year and 9 months apart and I'm glad we grew up so close. Of course we fought as kids but I still wouldn't have it any other way. Do what's best for your family, however it works out will be fine.
2007-09-27 09:15:56 · answer #8 · answered by misty_dawn1100 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 years & 14 hours.
They may have been too close together & are VERY competitive.
But I also know mums with kids the same ages who've said that the kids are closer because of the small gap
2007-09-27 09:21:18 · answer #9 · answered by flossiedots 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have any children but my sister and I are 8 years apart. She had two children who are 3 years apart. I think 3 years is just nice, although they can be quite a handful when they are younger like they are now!
2007-09-27 09:19:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋