B**ch at work?

Question

I've only work here for two months and a women (in her 40's) has done everything and everything from telling the bosses wife I don't answer the phone correctly to with holding information I need about customers. It is savatoge. Well, my boss noticed it and agree that she is setting me up to fail. This women has been here for years, so they must have know for a long time because this is not the first time she has done this to someone. Now, my boss wants me to come up with a tangible list of things he can present her with. All of the things she has done are so petty and childish, I'm not sure I feel comfortable discussing them. Not to mention once they persent them to her it will just make things worse. How should I handle this situation?

I DID NOT bring this to my boss. My boss noticed because it is so bad and she tries to get me in trouble with the boss. My office is right next to the boss, so it is hard to do anything without him noticing and that is how he knows she is lieing.

Answer 1

Your boss has asked you to come up with the list because you're the one experiencing the problem firsthand. He needs a list so that he has something concrete to address with her - without documentation, the actions he can take to rectify the situation are limited, and it becomes a big "he-said, she-said" issue. Bottom line is that, if you fire (or even write up) someone without having documentation of their wrongdoing, you risk lots of trouble. Managers often get ticked off at HR for saying, "we can't fire so-and-so, there's no documentation of it," but it's the truth.

If the boss's wife doesn't work for the company, you coworker should not be discussing your performance with her, period. Put it on the list.

Even if the wife does work for the company, your coworker should really bring her issues to you first - you may want to ask her, "Mary, I've heard that you may have a problem with the way I answer phones - since you've been here longer, I'd be happy to hear any advice you have." -- but you have to be sincere. If she declines to offer advice, but still talks about how you're doing it wrong, put it on the list.

When she withholds info you need, it affects you, people relying on you, the customer, and the company - that definitely needs to go on the list.

If your boss is a good manager, he will present these items to her in a way that is constructive - she *may* not even realize that what she's doing has such an impact on everyone else. If things get worse after their discussion, keep up your list - it just makes it easier to get rid of her.

Answer 2

The Lord tells us to pray for those who spitefully use us. Ask the Lord to change her heart toward you and in the mean time
kill her with kindness. She is insecure and afraid that she might lose her job to you. Take her a sweet roll for breakfast or break and just tell her that you want to be her friend and that you need her help to learn your job. Tell her that you are sorry that she doesn't like you, but if she would tell you what she thinks that you are doing wrong it would help you be a better coworker.

The best way to handle any situation is to talk to the problem. She is the problem. When you put a person on the spot, that you want to do better and that you want to be a good coworker, that puts the responsibility on them instead of you worrying about changing them. This could save your job and hers, because so far it seems the boss has been listening to two women bickering.

Answer 3

You need to know in your own mind that this job is one you are going to stay at for awhile, otherwise why mess with the other women's job! That being said, you have the best of both worlds; someone at work you don't like and a superior that wants you to put in writing what you don't like about her and how she affects the work place, and the boss knows what is going on! I would present issues as simple as possible, with time or at least dates. Don't hold back, if your boss is going to use your information for training or termination it needs to be complete to the best of your knowledge. And, your information should be to the best of your recollection... Don't paint yourself into a corner.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

stop giving her the attention she desires. everytime you get angry and mention it to the boss, the boss turns it on you (hint: your boss wants YOU to come up with a stupid list of tangible things he can present her with). Don't do it. He's going to turn on you for complaining on this woman. I've been where you are and complaining to the boss doesn't work.

You have to deal with that Bat on your own, woman to beast. Give her hell whenever you can, but don't get outrageous with it. It has to be a silent operation. Until she backs down, don't you back down. I feel for you because I have been in that situation quite a few times. I can tell you from experience that if you switch jobs, there will only be another B**** just like her miserable butt there too. Good luck honey.

Answer 5

I know somewhat of how ya feel.I used to work with someone sort of like this.It can be annoying espeially when they seem to get their way or get away with things.The best thing that I could say is talk to the boss.If that boss dosen't seem to do anything then go to the next person in charge.Good Luck with this I hope that things work out for ya.

Answer 6

I had the same situation recently. It got worse over time because nothing was done to correct it. Finally he called us both into his office (I had caught her looking at my paycheck, lying to him about things I did or didn't do, list goes on). He basically said we needed to work it out, or else.
She ended up quitting maybe 1.5 month after that.
Good luck. But you MUST bring it to his attention. Becaus ethat can seriously affect your work and hers.

Answer 7

it is his job to reprimand and observe, it is called office
bullying and a form of Harassment.

Answer 8

ignore her, ask to move to another part of the office,

or just

kick her in the nuts

Answer 9

Sabotage her =] haha.