My boyfriend wanted to ride his motor bike & i said no i dont want you too cause i feel thats all your wrorried about i feel you dont show me love or attention at all, Thats what i said to him!
& then after i told him that he just got all abusiv & said ***** everything in a loud deep voice & then started throwing things around & yelling & all that stuff saying mean things to me & all that he done all that after i told him why i dont want him riding his motor bike & then he just told me to get the ***** out & then threw my keys at my knee & then i drove off & then about an hour later i came back but parked my car down the road & then walked into our front yard & then looked through the kitchen form out side through the blinds & i seen him on a girls chat site only? After i had tried to tell him how i felt lately? Do you think thats just ******* off him? He even says to me them sites dont interest him oh but they interest him when im not around! We are both 20 i bin with him for 3 yrz
2007-09-27 01:34:26 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
dump him
2007-09-27 02:33:44 · answer #1 · answered by marines_sweetie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its sounds to me that not only is it an UNHEALTHY relationship but it because you are BOTH unhealthy people...
He enjoys his 'motor bike' and you found it appropriate to tell him NO?!... Do you tell everyone what they can and can't do?! Does anyone have their own life with you?!
He abused you... I would say he was very aggressive and out of line but I count abuse in a different way (this doesn't mean I don't think his behavior could lead to that)... He was verbally agressive, but was he abusive? Abuse is long term, heat of the moment can hurt but doesn't cause the damage that 'abuse' causes... He threw things around, to scare you I'm sure, and threw the keys at your knee... Hmmm... That sounds to me that he threw them towards the ground in anger and hit you... If he really meant to hit you with them it would have been towars the face or chest... These are signs of abuse and what you are describing is short term rage... A little different...
Why I am I discrediting the abuse?! Who am I?!... I was abused for a very long time, it has hardened me, and I will be the first to call it out... Something subtle could be construed as more 'abusive' than this but not be considered 'aggressive' like this situation is... The are fine lines, and there are those black and white...
Then you leave and come back but HIDE the fact you are there and SPIED on him?! What is that... How old are you? Did you grow up in a ghetto? So he was looking at a dirty website... So what?! He told you he didn't like them and therefore he was lying... Who cares?! You don't know that he looks at them all the time or just once in a while or even just that night... And you wouldn't/shouldn't ask him cause then you rat yourself out for spying on him... He didn't have another girl there, and you were acting crazy... Personally, you both need help or maybe you are both so screwed up that you are perfect for each other... Either way... And thank g-d I'm not dating either one of you.. I would have killed ya by now... Wow!
2007-09-27 02:11:26 · answer #2 · answered by Angel_Mom of 2 Pretty Girls 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it may be time to leave. My guess is this isn't the first time you've seen this kind of anger over something that shouldn't make him so angry. It's a very bad sign and it also seems like he's not totally honest with you - that he tells you what you want to hear. That said, if you aren't going to leave him and you want a better reaction, it's always better to phrase things with "I" statements. That is instead of saying 'you only worry about your bike' or whatever say "I feel really unappreciated these days and it hurts my feelings" or something like that.
2007-09-29 08:12:05 · answer #3 · answered by prekinpdx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer already. Helllllllllllll yeah! You didnt need us to answer this for you. You just wanted someone to approve it so that you wouldnt feel so bad. Get the hell out of the relationship. You are both young. Trust me there are other reliable good men that are available on this earth. It only gets worse if he's already doing it now. Just wait til he's 30. If you stay with him you may not get to see 30 or even 21 for that matter.
2007-09-27 01:41:44 · answer #4 · answered by House W 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Think about your standards and what you really want in a future husband/ boyfriend, the people you see are going to be the people you marry. If he does not fit your description then find and make some new friends, go on more dates.
If someone is abusive I think you should get out of the situation as soon as you can, is my advice.
2007-09-27 02:06:12 · answer #5 · answered by macncheese27 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are a woman, you deserve to be loved and respected. That boyfriend is treating you like you are his slave or an animal , and it shows that he doesnt care about you and the things you love. Throwing the keys at you could have hurt you, but he doesnt think about that does he? is this the kind of man you want to be with? Someone who swears at you, lies to you, abuses you and doesnt even care about you? You deserve much much much more, and no matter how "wonderful" he is, you are better than him. Dont let yourself be a victim.. you have dignity, so walk out and humiliate him!
2007-09-27 01:40:14 · answer #6 · answered by Maryanni 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he needs to get some help b/c he has never acted like he has for the hole the years something is wrong try and talk to him ask him whats wrong b/c it sounds like all of a sudden he just started acting like that he is trying to tell u something but he is to worred on how u will react so ask him what is going on and if he keep being abusiv then u need to leave him no one should treat someone like that but try and ask him what is going on in his head
2007-09-27 02:47:57 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley Browder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love to listent to the perils of Drama Queen and Drama King...you sound about like everyone else these days..I think that seriously that if you are trying to show him concern,..and he reacts this way, he is looking for excuses to go to the female sites..and using your kindness to attack you ...dump his butt and find someone who actually gives a hoot..you are worth much more than a guy like that...you didn't do anything wrong.
2007-09-27 02:41:31 · answer #8 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know what? Eventually, he will force you to leave because you will be too miserable. He is acting like a three year old.
To stay would just enable him to keep being a child. If you leave now, you will have your heart open to a relationship that will work for you. NV
2007-09-27 01:42:19 · answer #9 · answered by NITA E 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i might have theory you have been 12. you're actually not his spouse, and its not any of your business enterprise if he rides his motor motorbike in any respect. What that has to do consisting of your insecurities, I have no thought.
2016-10-20 03:07:48 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ditch the asshole he is trying to get you to leave ,someone that loves another would not treat the person the way he treats you,if these sites did not interest him he would not visit them. give it time you can find a real man he is still a boy
2007-09-27 01:40:48 · answer #11 · answered by randall g 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋