Give me hints and ways to find out so that I know for sure, because a female called me and told me that she had phone sex with him 3 weeks ago. I want to end this once and for all. He denied it up and down, back and forth, although he looked very scared and guilty. lol! I was upset but now Im calming down. I cannot invest any of my emotion and time into a rat bastard who is going to be rubbing one out, everytime Im not there (we don't live together). He has a bird, I wish it was a parrot, maybe the parrot would tell me.. damn!
Any spy programs ANYTHING so that I can track him? I want to collect evidence and when he lies to me again, I will show him the evidence and he can stfu and stop denying it.
He's just got one more chance, and then he's history!!!
Please help with ideas, Im serious, no jokes, I need to know the best way to catch him at his own BS!
2007-09-27 01:10:59 · 25 answers · asked by Jen 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
Theres a chance he might be telling the truth, so I want to be sure before I break up with him. He swears up and down he's never done phone sex while he's been dating me even though that woman called on Sunday. She might have called to break us up by lying that they had phone sex, even though she knew so much about me.. she might just be a friend of his, but she might be the real thing and be telling me the truth. He's been phone harrassed for weeks and suddenly, after she called me, noone is getting any hangups, which I find.. VERY ODD..
I've put my judgment on hold for now. Soooo.. If I find from this moment onwards he has had phone sex, I can present my evidence to him, because all he'll do is lie because he'll think I have no evidence! --- the good news is, I can finally leave and have the peace of mind to know I really did have the evidence and I can leave with no regrets. Other than to say "if you don't trust him now... leave" I need to know how to check up on him JUST 4 NOW.
2007-09-27 01:22:37 · update #1
Funny you say "It must not be policed" yet its in the police section LOL... I figured cops would know more than anyone how to catch someone who might be just a sex addict. I definitely don't want that in my life, Id rather be alone than be with someone like that.
2007-09-27 01:24:00 · update #2
I already point blank confronted him after that woman called me to tell me he was "Heavily into phone sex". I don't know if she's lying or not. He denied it completely. If he did it, whenever it was he did it, theres no way in HELL he is going to tell the truth because he knows I WILL DUMP HIM.
2007-09-27 01:25:49 · update #3
p.s. this is a relatively new relationship. I just got back together with him in june. Its not an old relationship and we don't live together. I don't want to have to police him, thats just it, but I DO want to know if he's still doing it. I don't want to have a dishonest association with anyone. BTW I was constantly being accused of having phone sex before this for months and it was a bold faced lie. Then this woman calls and I hear he is heavily into phone sex, and suddenly he stops accusing me.
2007-09-27 01:27:38 · update #4
It will not make me "feel worse" to KNOW if he is lying, it will give me the fury to leave him. lol
I don't want to be lied to, played a fool, etc. I once asked him why don't we have phone sex and he really never gave an adequate answer to that one. He is obsessed with me though, but maybe its the madonna-whore complex with him, who the heck knows. Sigh.
2007-09-27 01:29:21 · update #5
Im not the untrusting one. he's accused me of this for months, he hasnt trusted me and there was no reason for that. Then a phone sex operator or someone he knows called and told me he's 'Heavily" into phone sex. I can't trust someone after I get a call like that. Its not about me being a prude, its about not wanting to be LIED TO. Do you get off on being lied to? I don't.
2007-09-27 01:31:19 · update #6
Im not paranoid at all, I got the call from the woman stating he's heavily into phone sex and that she had phone sex with him 3 weeks ago. He was paranoid with me accusing me for weeks that I was having phone sex, when thats a bold faced lie. So.. paranoia most undoubtedly does not exist with ME.
2007-09-27 03:30:45 · update #7
buy a lie detector.. its 90+% accurate
2007-09-27 01:15:53 · answer #1 · answered by johnjesto 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly I hate to say it but unfortunately he's a man, and masturbation is just a natural occurrence. Also most people who masturbate need some kind of stimuli, such as porn or chatlines. Please here me out I am not making excuse for your man. Now trying to eliminate porn out of his life may be a lost cause, but those chatlines have got to go. You really shouldn't pry into personal things without first talking about it. Tell him how you feel. Tell him the embarrassment you feel when some women calls you saying she had phone sex with your man. Then from there observe his actions, After a week or two if you still suspect that he is doing it look for excessive tissues in his trash cans, especially if he isn't sick, balled up socks in odd places, tissues or towels in between his mattress, lotion on the night stand those kind of things. For the phone sex lines, try to get a look at his phone bill or see if you can get an itemized list from his service provider, and scan it for reoccurring numbers or strange numbers you don't recognize, or out of state numbers. If worse comes to worse you could always get a spy cam.
2016-05-19 22:35:22 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stress over a guy there are too many out there. If you have your doubts, its probably your intuition telling you something. I can advise you first hand that there are guys out there who do NOT cheat. You sound like a smart girl, so unless your just a paranoid freak, if you really believe he is cheating on you... MOVE ON. Life is too short to waste on someone who can't reassure you and who gives you doubts. As you mentioned, its a new relationship. Much easier to get out now than two years down the line with 2 kids and herpes.
Never run after a guy!!! EVER!! If he's not trying day and night to show you he loves you, find someone who will.
2007-09-27 01:59:24 · answer #3 · answered by jennifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he has a problem, not that porn or anything like masturbation is a problem but when you do that and its causing problems in your relationship then it becomes a problem, he is obviously embarressed as he should be that you found out such details from someone else. I dont know anyway of searching or tracking, but I do know this it wont last until he gets help, because if he hides it he obviously knows that you will get mad, so in a sense its almost as bad as emotional cheating. I would talk to him about it, if you guys are having sex on a regular basis I wouldnt worry so much... although the phone is unacceptable, magazines tv whatever, but why cant he call you up, and maybe you should look into what his real fetishes are maybe you need to open up to him a little.
2007-09-27 01:17:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I have an advice for you and its not a joke, you should give him some good loving, dress up a little bit, if you know what i mean ;) and then, check how hard he get and how much of that protein he gives you, that's if you wanna see if hes been working out earlier without your presence, good luck, one more thing, the easier way out is to just dump him if he had phone sex with someone you know because that means that hes been fantasizing about her and not you. Good Luck
2007-09-27 01:27:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Short of catching him in the act or being there all the time, there is very little you can do.
Can you put a spy program on his computer? Sure.
But why bother?
You already don't trust him now and if you do find something out, all it will make you do is feel worse.
You need to either trust him and stay or don't and leave.
My vote? I think you've already made up your mind, but are too afraid to act on it.
2007-09-27 01:17:45 · answer #6 · answered by Mark A 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DUMP him, its only a matter of time before he cheats on you, obviously something is lacking in your relationship that he has to call people and listen to a voice over a phone to get off. Eventually he will get sick of this and go for the real thing, get out of this relationship asap.
2007-09-27 01:13:11 · answer #7 · answered by Heaven L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the only thing you can do is spy on him at night to see what he's up to,or hire a private investigater,personally though,if some chick rang me & told me she had phone sex with him,i would hound him til he told me what was going on or i would call the relationship quits,it's not worth it if you have to be filled with suspicion,not to mention the tension your body is filling up with,let him have his porn and phone sex and find someone who is worthy of you,as this creep is just another jerk who gives men a bad name.
2007-09-27 01:32:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to check up on him!
Get real sweetheart. You clearly don't trust him, so you are in a relationship which is going nowhere!
It doesn't matter whether he has given up or not, because you don't believe him!
Dump him now or it will end in tears.
Trust me!!
2007-09-27 01:16:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You probably know if he is or isn't. Just admit to yourself. There are tons of guys out there that aren't talking dirty to some girl on the phone while your at work. Go find one.
2007-09-27 01:24:03 · answer #10 · answered by El Scott 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you'd be doing him a favor by dumping him. The last thing he needs is some untrusting prude breaking his balls.
2007-09-27 01:19:26 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋