i have to break up with my boyfriend. why because i am christian and he i athiest. the bible says we should not be un equally yolked. i talked to my youth leader last night and he said the right thing to do is to break up with him but still talk to him and try to share the word with him. i know i should break up with him but i don't know if he will still want to be friends. we were friends fo r a long time be for we started going out. we started going out last thursday. i also dont want to known as some one who dumps every boy i go out with b/c my boyfriend last year i dumped b/c he was making fun of my friends. any way what should i tell him and what if he hates me and thinks the reason is dumb. and can you pray for me and what are your veiws on this?
2007-09-27 00:44:22 · 23 answers · asked by im on the bleechers 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
no i didn't know he was athiest he never talked about it. and im not breaking up with him because my youth leader said. i am because the bible says. and sorry yoked
2007-09-27 00:52:19 · update #1
He's lucky to be rid of an illiterate fool.
2007-09-27 00:47:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 4⤋
Let me put this into perspective, to see if I have all the facts right. You and this boy know each other. You like each other. He knows you are a Christian, and you know he is an athiest. You decide that you will date. Then, a week later, you decide to break it off because he is an athiest.
If this is the situation, and I was the boy in question, I would think that you are:
A) Psycotic. You knew he was athiest. By going out with him, you sent the message that you had accepted this fact. Now, you are changing your mind.
B) Hypocritical. Christians are taught not to judge. You are supposed to 'bear witness to Christ's love'. In other words, your job is to teach people that don't believe in religion about Christ. It's easy to turn your back on non-believers and hang out with other Christians. However, this is NOT what your religion teaches.
C) Selfish. It seems that you are only thinking of your feelings, not his.
D) Close minded. How can you be sure that YOU are right and HE is wrong.
In short, I have NO sympathy for you. You made a bad decision, and as a result, you are going to hurt another person.
2007-09-27 00:53:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Princess,
I'm sorry. Things like this are not easy.
They hurt.
But how much do you want to do this?
Is it only because your youth leader told you to?
You need to make this decision yourself.
Take time to pray about it. I am also praying for you.
Then when you see him the next time, be up front with him right away.
Don't flirt around and try to act like everything's okay first.
Tell him there's something very important you need to tell him.
Explain that you are a Christian and you now understand it isn't right to date an unbeliever because you could not marry him. Dating isn't just a game. It's serious.
Explain that you still appreciate him as a person and are willing to be his friend, just not in a special way.
If he gets mad, don't be afraid. Doing what's right is worth that.
Make sure you share your faith with him, but don't just jump right back in with both feet if he says a prayer. Make sure he's for real and not just doing it for you.
God be with you as you go through this and help you to be strong enough to do what is right.
2007-09-27 00:59:36 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should just tell him straight forward that you are breaking up with him and why. Show him in the bible where that scripture is an let him know that God is important to you and that you are not dumping him because you don't like her per se but that God and your relationship with him in more important than being his girlfriend. Also, I would suggest that next time you find out stuff about a person before you start calling yourself their "girlfriend" stuff like this can be avoided. If it is possible for him to respect your decision and for ya'll to still be friends then that is cool, if not, oh well.
2007-10-03 17:11:54 · answer #4 · answered by babygemini261 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were friends before you went out then didn't you already know he was an atheist? Don't break up with him just because your youth leader tells you, only do it if you want to. If he's really a friend he'll understand your religious views and not hate you, if he doesn't understand then he isn't worth your time.
2007-09-27 00:49:01 · answer #5 · answered by misty_dawn1100 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
So there is a decent guy you like,and the only reason you are breaking up with him is he doesn't believe an invisible man in the sky "inspired" people 1000's of years ago to write a completely silly contradictory story,edit it,censor it,and manipulate it for power?How very sad and telling of that abomination called Christianity.I agree,I wouldn't want to be unequally yoked in 2007 with a person who makes their decisions based on what power hungry goat herders decided to keep in a 2000 yaer old book.He deserves someone with a wee bit of intelligence at least.How truly sad
2007-09-27 01:13:56 · answer #6 · answered by nobodinoze 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Sweety, you need to put God first and foremost in your life! Don't worry about this boy thinking you are the one who is dumb. You have Jesus! Maybe one day a good Christian boy will come along. Someone who will not make fun of your friends or God. Good luck!
2007-10-04 04:28:24 · answer #7 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should break up with him because you want to and know its the right thing to do rather than because you have been told its correct, whether from the Bible or the youth leader.
I would say discuss your concerns with him. Why break up with him if you dont know where he stands on things?
2007-09-27 01:12:01 · answer #8 · answered by Avatar_defender_of_the_light 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
here it is people.......here is the typical Christian.....has a church, a youth leader, teacher and a pastor but still got in a jam with a one verse charlie. what would your youth leader say about the verse that teaches us to not to leave the other because of belief but to stay and GOD shall deliver them?
don't mean to come down hard on you, but don't the bible teach us to always pray about things before we start them?
does your church leaders teach you about GOD'S will?
if you have known this guy for a long time why haven't you testified about what GOD have done for you? why did you not witness to him about your salvation? this is a part of the ministry isn't it? talk to him about JESUS and the reason for HIS death. tell him what you have experience and give him a reason to believe. most important is not to be a dictator but a doer of GOD'S word that he may see and believe. best wishes to you.
2007-10-04 20:48:39 · answer #9 · answered by LITTLE_JOHN 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wow, you shouldn't break up with him. Actually, wait, no, please break up with him! He's clearly smarter than you.
I would just tell him that you're a crazy Christian nut, and that you only follow what your invisible God tells you to do through the words of an ancient book written 1000 years ago, which you translate too literally, therefore disconnecting you with all logic necessary to relate to normal people.
2007-10-04 16:25:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
my bf friend is atheist and has a christian gf, and they dont let religion come on between them. why should you? its just religion, its not life. you youth worker is stupid. If you really like him and want to be with him follow your heart not your head.
If you break up, no you wont be still friends, cos when two friends get together and become a couple you ruin your friendship. and he will think the reason is dumb cos it is.
2007-09-27 01:08:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋