I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 and a half years. I thought we had a pretty good relationship (i.e. he trusts me with things and wouldn't go and tell other people our personal stuff)
Well anyway, my boyfriend is friends with some of my friends that I've known for about 13 years. He talks to them on MSN, which I'm fine with.
He just tells me now that he told one of my friends about what we've done sexually and she's told him things she's done sexually.
I thought I could trust him not to tell anyone, as I don't believe it's anyone elses business. She told him things that were really personal.
When I asked him what she had told him, he wouldn't tell me. He did eventually though, it wasn't anything overly special.
Do I have a right to feel hurt?
I'm not dumping my boyfriend, he's the only true friend and family I have and he's stuck with me. There is no way he's cheating on me with her, we're in a long distance relationship.
2007-09-26 22:33:20 · 13 answers · asked by ★☆✿❀ 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have all the right to feel hurt.Such stuff are confidential but because he is your best friend tell him not to share your sexual experiences with anybody else in the future.
2007-09-26 22:41:56 · answer #1 · answered by adler 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like competition - look what I've done - well, i've done better. If I were you - be careful - he has dis-respected you - why would he talk to another about something sacred? thats way off mark - he probably knows you are his true friend, that is why he can do what he does and nothing will happen - and whats more long distance relationship? be careful
make more friends if i were you - trust yourself and make new friends.
he is cheating on you by disclosing private information - thank god your not married!
stay strong
2007-09-27 05:45:23 · answer #2 · answered by electrick_dreamz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dear Sarah,
You have a right to your feelings, whatever they may be. However, please don't take this particular incident all that hard. You are all evolving adolescents. Adolescence, is a great period of learning. During this learning period, there are going to be some hurt feelings along the way; it is part of the process.
I realize, some of you may have reached your majority, or will soon, i.e., eighteen. However, regardless of what any legislature decrees, most of us, don't reach substantial maturity until about age twenty-five.
Larry
2007-09-27 07:20:01 · answer #3 · answered by Larry 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
absolutely you have all the rights in the world to get hurt, get pissed, mad, furious, and betrayed. things you and your bf have done should be personal and should be kept just between you two. intimacies and such shared by couples should be considered as something sacred and private. the moment your bf confessed some of it with your friend defeated the essence of confidence of your relationship.
2007-09-27 05:52:03 · answer #4 · answered by tom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course.
But it's not a right. A right is imaginary.
The hurt is real and is natural and common.
So far, it sounds minor.
But you have to be honest with each other and talk often. ... ideally more often than he with your other friends ... something could develop when people share very personal things.
And your friends should be honest with you if you are to remain friends.
2007-09-27 05:42:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you have a right to feel hurt. Things that you do in private should never be divulged to anyone even to your closest friends. Tell your boyfriend that you don't like what he did and ask him not to do it ever again.
2007-09-27 05:40:10 · answer #6 · answered by Reycen 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes gurl you should feel hurt cos that is persnal stuff and I wouldnt be to happy this gurl talking to him about sex ether cos that could lead to something else even though you tust him.He is a lucky man by the sounds of it
2007-09-27 06:14:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...look there's nothing ideal in this world...there's no rulebook saying as to what one should feel or shouldn't....
if you are hurt, then you just are hurt...try to find out the reason and you better tell this to your boyfriend, have a discussion with him regarding what you feel...hope everything sorts out...
all the best...
2007-09-27 05:45:54 · answer #8 · answered by mou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if was clear that you didn't want to him to talk about that stuff wit other people then yes you should bbe hurt. if not just talk to him. let him know that you don't want your sex life to be discused even with mutual friends
2007-09-27 05:39:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
"There is no way he's cheating on me with her, we're in a long distance relationship."
It's hard not to laugh at that statement.
2007-09-27 07:50:08 · answer #10 · answered by georgeishere 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋