Years ago now i split from my ex. She was very cruel to me in the end and i know she wanted to push me away but i still loved her. She suggested we be friends and tryed to get me to give her advice on her new blossoming relationship... i couldnt bear it, told her how nasty she'd been 2me, she snapped back at me callin me a bitter freak, so we stopped talking. I was broken hearted even tho she treated me horribly in the end. Its been almost 4years now and i still long for her. My friends say i should HATE her and Im being a wimp. Im not a hating type of person tho and sometimes i think about her and hope she experiences pain like she made me feel-then feel guilty. How do i know theres someone better for me out there and forget her. My mates say '**** em all(women)' i think they mean metaphorically and literally, but i have a mother and a little sister and would hate for some1 2 have that attitude towards them. She was my first love and we were friends for a year before i asked her out.
2007-09-26 19:40:02 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1st of all, when the person doing the dumping asks the dumpee to be friends, it has nothing to do with he/she valuing friendship with that person. THey only do it to make themselves feel less guilty about being the one doing the dumping; so never believe in friendship after, and never let them have relieve their guilty like that. You should never be friends with someone who you loved after breaking up; sure years after its not a terrible thing, but right away you are just asking for trouble.
Now, how do you know there's something better out there for you? just think of all the things she did to you, disrespecting you by asking you for relationship advice after? who does she think she is? calling you bitter? Now I ask you, can you do better than that? Cause to me its not exactly hard to find someone who wont do that to you. I have the same problem, I dont hate; it becomes very hard to get over someone when you cant hate. Until you believe that there are other women out there who can give you the feelings she gave you AND alsonot be cruel to you, you are not over her and should stay long long ways away from her.
2007-09-26 19:51:03 · answer #1 · answered by hockeyfreak 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont listen to your friends.... Most women are lovely people and wouldnt wish harm or heartahce on anyone. As badly as this girl treated you, she probably didnt want to hurt you, but thats unfortunally how it happened in the end. Dont let this discourage you from finding a nice girl who wont break your heart. Breaking up is like losing a loved one. You go through a greiving process like someone has died.... It may take many years to get over it, but eventually you will accept it and begin to move on. As for finding another girl, I know you wont believe it right now, but you WILL find someone who will care for you and love you completely. It may take a while but karma will come round and you will get all the love back you have given out. You seen like a nice guy, be patient and a nice girl will come you way and you will forget the pain of your ex. You'll never ever forget your first love and there will always be a place for her in your heart which is perfectly fine. Just make sures theres enough room to let someone else in! Good Luck man, i wish you the best!!!
2007-09-26 19:47:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just dump the loser. You don't love him, you depend on him. Kick him to the curb and keep the apartment. You feel miserable and you're with him, why not try it without him? You may be surprised to find you feel relieved. If he was hunting for women on Craig's list, I'd make an appointment at a women's health clinic and get every STD test they offer! Who knows what else he has done you don't know about? He is not committed to this marriage, so why let him drag you through hell until he finds one worthy of leaving you for? Have some self-respect. Put his bags on the front porch and change the locks. Believe me, I know how hard it is to end a marriage, but this one needs ending. You'll never be able to trust him again, and he isn't interested in trying to make it better. Get out before you waste any more time on this. When you eventually meet the one you're meant to be with, you'll be glad you did.
2016-05-19 22:03:28 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That first love always will be there in your mind. Just remember that you can not make someone love you no matter how much you love them. It does take years, if it was a true love. One day, if you keep trying, you will find the one for you.
2007-09-26 19:44:11 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
actions are stronger than words..you need to surround yourself with positive energy and move away and start over new life..who knows you will meet someone in near future..and fall in love all over again..I mean is never to late..and for you is long process of letting go..I was in 5 yr relationship and he cheated on me and had a kid w/his lover..I was mainly mad..and later forgave him ..So I could move on and be a mom for my kid..Thank god did not have more kids with that anit christ lol.
Listen..is not about hate you should be able to express normal anger..and she is not worth your heartache to bring you down so low..be a man and have self control and respect..maybe she will get a life of her own if you do too..I have new man in my life..Even if his other country I feel Like I can trust him..and be safe with him..I mean I plan on traveling across the world to visit him..I mean..who does that..NO ONE..?
2007-09-26 19:47:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋