This is really happened to me.Im in love with a girl she loves me alot.Unfortunately she got married(arranged) to another guy.She still loves me.Im very depressed by this.Our past n sweet memories are dwelling in my mind.Im unable to bare this pain.But when i ask her about pain,she says not having like me,she is normal.Im weeping like anything,im unable to control my emotions.How she is doing sex with him, how she feels when he does with her. Then wat is the difference between she n me.How to change my mind from her how to control my thoughts.But if our past comes into my mind i cant stop crying.Is im wrong by loving her too muchhh. Need serious answers plzzzz......
2007-09-26 19:18:24 · 16 answers · asked by Believe in yourself 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you are just going to have to try to forget about her. She's married, and though by arrangement, sounds like she's dealing with it. She probably could have just run away if she was that against doing it, but she did do it, so you gotta' deal with it...move on with your life.
2007-09-26 19:24:21 · answer #1 · answered by Connie B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some times life gives us all bad blows of unhappyness, and many good times too!
Where on the other hand, when it comes to relationships, Risks can but a Big factor! If the woman you love so much, and it seems she loved you in return. The part I don't understand is, if she comes from a country where her parents arrange a Marriage as a family tradition or family culture!
Why was the relationship between you and her ever started in the first place then! When you both knew she was to be marriad Only by arrangements her parents Made for her!
Now don't get me wrong! I really feel for you and know what your going through as far as losing someone you love so much, But now that she is infact marriad, You must move on with your life!
Start the dating scene as soon as you can to get your mind off the other woman! Try new things that you and the woman you loved, Hadn't done! You can do this! before you know it, You'll find a new woman to love and care about even more!
Your relationship with a woman that had family values and traditions of arranged marriages, Was a relationship doomed from the start! Sure the two of you had fallen in love! But it was no doubt a short and not life long relationship and wasn't going to be, as long as her parents had any say about it!
About all you can do is to go on with your life and remember the next time you get involved into a relationship! Is to ask the woman if she has to get marriad by arranged marriage Only, so you will never have to face heart break again!
I feel what the woman done to you was very wrong, knowing her parents were going to sooner or later arrange a marriage for her! She knew someday they would, But yet went ahead and had a very deep loving relationship with you! And knowing it wasn't for ever, It was just temporary and that was very unfair to you and down right very dishonest on her part!
2007-09-26 19:56:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy, you need to get yourself together before you loose your mind for good. If she did love you she would have gotten married in the first place arranged or not. Seems to me that you are killing yourself. She is married now, and is with another man and it won't be any good for you to try to imagine their sex life and how they do it. Not to mention that she doesn't feel the same pain as you right now . It is sure going to take some time for you to forget her but if you try hard, you will be able to forget and move on one day.Good luck, go out go visit friends, family find something that you like to do and do.
2007-09-26 19:27:44 · answer #3 · answered by Missy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone knows it hurts to grow up. Pain comes and goes, you aren't the first and you won't be the last. Everyone copes with pain and loss in different ways. You can't control your thoughts, you can only adjust where they're directed. If it's something inevitable between them, then just focus on the good times in the sense that she was someone who really changed your life. Another way, and I DON'T recommend this, is you can think of all the things you dislike about her. It'll help you get over the situation, and if you really do love her eventually those feelings of dislike will fade away and the past will stay in the past. More than anything, rely on your friends. People with strong social networks cope with pain and loss much better than those without them. Instead of asking us, ask them. :)
2007-09-26 19:25:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it is wrong by loving her too much, but it is wrong by not letting her go. You just hurting yourself more and more emotionally. It is entirely up to you, to make a change... I should say move on and try to forget about her. If you love her so much, you should let her go.
Past is past and it never come again. Concentrate on the future and am sure you'll find someone....
2007-09-26 19:29:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesnt seem like her marriage is painful for her and you said she's not having any pain so the truth is ..that you need to move on. I KNOW its going to be sooooooooooo hard and it may take a while but the sooner you start the healing process the faster you can move forward with your life. Just cut off all dealing with this girl because if you dont things will just get worser for you.
2007-09-26 19:26:18 · answer #6 · answered by So Confused 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She probable feels she had no way out this was her parents wishes and she must obey! It is very sad I am so sorry!! She probable feels all alone right now But with her being married you need to be her friend!! she needs you Just be her friend. I know It is hard but if you truly love her you will want her to be happy and being her friend is the next best thing!! And it is alright to cry but when she gets back from her honeymoon call her and see if her and her husband want to just hang out and remember just be there for her!!!
2007-09-26 19:25:12 · answer #7 · answered by wendi t 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have rephrased this same question so many times. You need to move on. She is accepting what she needs to do, and you will just have to do the same and move on. I know it hurts, but that is just a fact of life!!
2007-09-26 19:22:39 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sex is not important, what counts is what she has inside her heart.
If she really loves you that much, she'll find the way to get to you again.
2007-09-26 19:29:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DEAR BROKEN HEART, SO SORRY FOR YOUR PAIN, SADLY ONLY TIME CAN HEAL, BUT THERE IS HELP OUT THERE, I SUGGEST YOU SEE A COUNCELOR. GOOD LUCK WITH YOUR FUTURE, AND KNOW THIS!!!! THERE IS LIFE AFTER A BROKEN HEART.
2007-09-26 19:30:07 · answer #10 · answered by mother of 4! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋