ok, my boyfriend of one year is coming to the US to visit ME (he's from the UK)...
he's staying at a hotel near my town, and the plan all along was that i would stay with him. we are both consenting adults and
whatnot.
however, my mom refuses to let me "shack up" with him and called me a sl*t.
isn't it my choice? i am over 18 therefore an adult..i should think i'm capable of making that decision for myself..
just wanting to hear people's opinions on this.. i honestly don't see any problem with it.
2007-09-26 18:44:05 · 11 answers · asked by katluver005 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we did meet online--however, we talk frequently on the phone and seeing as we've known each other for over a year now without any problems, i think meeting is ok...but it's not like i'm going to meet him in a dark alley lol. we've planned to meet in a busy park in the afternoon, then go out to eat.
2007-09-26 19:32:34 · update #1
You are an adult and sure you can spend time with your boyfriend as well. But as your mom, she will always state her opinion rather you want to hear it or not. She is just seeing it as you being her child and you are doing some pretty bad behaviours in her eyes and she does not approve. Stating it in a very crude way, but still saying what she has to say. Now I'm not saying you should let her rule your decisions. But stop and think about this for a second. I mean if you were just talking to this guy over the internet and you are meeting up for the first time and all that, do YOU think it makes much logical sense to shack up as you put it with a guy you barely even know? I mean you are putting your life at risk in such a big way here by doing something like that. I'm not your mom or trying to mother you, but seriously use your head here before skipping off with some guy that might drug you and rape you, then murder you and throw away the body. Being an adult is or should be about more things than just your age. You should be using other experiences and even good common sense to not put your life in jeopardy this way. But that is just my take on it.
2007-09-26 19:15:41 · answer #1 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u r 18 and it would seem like u could do whatever u want whenever u please. but..u still live under her roof so she still makes the rules. be rebellious! let ur mom call u what she wants! shack up with the man!..that is, if u want ur mom to change the locks or have ur belongings on the front porch when u come home. u should have just said u were staying at a friends house. now anywhere u go, she's gonna think ur going to see ur UKboy
2007-09-27 01:53:25 · answer #2 · answered by russmistro 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Over 18 or not, since you say that your mom won't "let" you stay with him, it implies that you are still living with her and under her authority, which makes you not a full, complete adult, whatever your age. You are a legal adult, so it is technically your decision what to do, but you must be prepared to accept the consequences of that decision. Though your mom used angry words, remember that she is just looking out for what she believes is best for you. But only you can decide if you're willing to risk defying her in order to stay with your boyfriend. Personally, I would suggest that you respect your mother and heed her wishes since you are still living with her, but it's really up to you.
2007-09-27 02:01:14 · answer #3 · answered by rose_petals0000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an adult and you are allowed to do what you wish. However your mother may have called you such a nasty name, to try and make you wary of staying there with someone that could be considered a stranger. Perhaps letting her know that you'll call her every day while you are there, or something like that can make you both at ease? Introducing him to her would be good too if you aren't already planning that.
2007-09-27 01:47:26 · answer #4 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no! since it's long distance you should relish every moment you spend together, regardless of what your mum says. Stuff it, i'd shack up there anyway, i'm sure you can find a way around it, maybe get him to stay at yours? At least that way your mum would be aware of where you are and what you're doing (as much as that sucks).
2007-09-27 01:51:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your mum is finding it hard to let go
Other wise i dont see anything wrong. Just get to know the person before you move in. As long as you are happy an ful of joy and he treats you right. Just look in your heart and you will know the right ecition.
2007-09-27 01:50:30 · answer #6 · answered by catlover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom basically INCOURAGED you to go to the hotel with your bf by calling you that...it would have been smarter of her to assertively give you good advise and let you make your own decisions about this particular situation.
2007-09-27 01:50:13 · answer #7 · answered by mao ying 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are of age now do as you wish but I would be careful who you are seeing !!
My personal thing is if you have never met hI'm I,wouldn't .Get to know im some more be careful
2007-09-27 02:00:27 · answer #8 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your mom is right; she is just protecting her daughter. You honestly may not know him as much as you think you do. It is okay to get together maybe one night but to stay with him I would get to know him much better. Plus...he lives in another country...be safe and PLEASE use protection and be safe physically to he may NOT be who you think he is. Good luck and be safe girl!
2007-09-27 04:13:05 · answer #9 · answered by Calisofie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you are really only an adult once you are 21. but i understand where you are coming from. my parents irritate the crap out of me aswell. me 21
2007-09-27 01:50:01 · answer #10 · answered by mike 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋