Okay, so my hubby and I were together for 10 years when I left him (look back to my other questions if you need to know why). Not even a month afterward, he calls me and invites me down to the house for sex "or else we're done forever". I told him I wouldn't be his whore and he followed through with his promise - has slept around with 1/2 the city ever since. So I try to move on...I was pregnant with our 2nd child when I left him, so I concentrated on my son and my pregnancy...delivered a beautiful baby girl. Our separation has been really, really messy. Now all of a sudden, he's coming around again. He says he now understands why I left and has proven it with a detailed conversation. He said he doesn't want a divorce. He has even talked reconciliation. I can't believe after all this time he's sincere, but there's still that part of me that wants it to be true. The other night he almost kissed me. Then I find out he's been with some girl I know. Why are some men so stupid?
2007-09-26 18:43:56 · 4 answers · asked by Shannon H 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
By the way, I'm venting. I'm not getting back with him. I know that would be a HUGE mistake.
2007-09-26 18:44:38 · update #1
There is a part of me that would like to see a reconciliation...the part of me that remembers our good times instead of the bad...the part of me that allowed us to have 2 children together. I know that's a mistake. I've been doing really well at concentrating on my kids. SIGH. Men suck sometimes.
2007-09-26 18:45:49 · update #2
Hi Shannon, you poor thing, this is torture. You seem to have a pretty good instinct for his inability to be trusted.
My husband came back to me - for the third time - promising everything was going to be different and he would change, she meant nothing to him, it was over, he only loves me, it was all a mistake, blah, blah, blah.
He promised to get counselling and do anything I asked. He SAID all the right things, including asking me if I'd like to renew our wedding vows.
This haze lasted a week.
Now I'm stuck with a great lump of wasted space who won't move out and it's been like this since first week of August.
he refuses to leave, i can't afford to leave. However, I have my conviction and that keeps me going. A leopard never change his spots, he can't change. I know as soon as I have got the money together, I'm gone.
Hang on to the progress you've made since you left him. You need to see he can sustain this "I'm a changed man" scene. You'd hate to disrupt the kids lives by letting him in, when at this stage he's just talk. Be sure to see some consistent action long term before you give him a chance.
take care
2007-09-26 19:22:46 · answer #1 · answered by sass24 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think he is a dog who is going to say whatever it takes to get back in your pants. Don't let your heart get broken by him again.
2007-09-27 01:54:59 · answer #2 · answered by Aviator1013 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to tried to get back together, it is a must you start couple conselling before
2007-09-27 01:56:45 · answer #3 · answered by annelle 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Men will treat you the way
YOU LET yourself be treated.
For me, when its over, it's over.
2007-09-27 02:05:21 · answer #4 · answered by elliebear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋