How do i discipline my 6yr old son?

Question

Do you think spanking are still appropite?

Answer 1

Spankings are always appropriate. Its only if done out of anger then it is bad. you shouldnt do that many though on a small child, but raise the number as he gets older; start with perhaps four or six and add one for each year (if he still is doing the wrong thing)

whenever i found out my dad was going to spank me, i dreaded it. however, i realized that i never actually never hated him for it because i realized that it was MY fault that i was getting the spanking, not because he was angry at me. And plus, by around age eight or nine, i had realized what was right from wrong completely and i was able to avoid spankings.

EDIT: sorry G. My dad never pulled filling from the sofa, hit my brother out of anger, or disobeyed my mom. Its not example because my dad wasn't like that; in fact, to me, my dad was just about perfect.
Proverbs 22: 15 Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; But the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.

Answer 2

Consistently.

You'll get people say spanking is the only answer, spanking should never be used, use timeout, use grounding, take away the toys, no TV...

What you use doesn't matter. What matters is that your son KNOWS what he will be disciplined for, and that it's ALWAYS THE SAME THINGS. You will traumatise your child just as surely with praise or ignoring for a certain behaviour one day and timeout for the same behaviour the next day, as if you spank him.

Answer 3

I'm sure your getting many "mom & dad" answers. As a mother of twins I think I get it. He does not like anyone around you and wants constant attention. He seems very territorial and probably gets his way a lot. My advice is to not let your life revolve around him and his actions. I would still go out and take your other children and leave him at home with a sitter. This will be very hard to do but after a few times of him seeing this and asking why you'll be able to explain to him then that his behavior is not acceptable and until he can behave properly then and only then may he join you. I know it sounds hard but it is good discipline and nothing tramatic is involved. Good Luck!

Answer 4

It all depends on a child. The point that kid is panished. Some kids need spanking, but please start with something much milder. It might be enough for your kid.
My son gets panished only when he is doing something he knows he should not be doing. And only once in a may be 6 months he gets spanks when he realy did something terrible (like stepped on the road to get a ball) that he knows perfectly he can not do.

Answer 5

From what I have seen, spankings have the least likely hood of working. A smack to the rump only lasts for a little bit, having a punishment that actually MEANS something to them, rather then resorting to physicality generally makes a deeper impact. Try the reward system. When they do something bad, taking something away, when they do something good, praise them for it. Have then earn play money like four paper fake dollars equal 50 cents, and at the end of a month, or a week, count them up and see how much they get. They get half for spending and half to save up. Most kinds will WANT to be good when their parents praise them and show them it's the right behaviour.

Answer 6

To the person who said that people who don't spank are the people chasing their kid around the mall, I think that's a bit funny since I don't spank my son, and he's one of the best behaved children I know, and even better behaved out in public.

Positive reinforcement, and time outs are what we do.

When he does something good, we clap and cheer for him and tell him how good he is, and sometimes he even gets a new toy(but not often enough to make it seem like a bribe).

When he does something bad, we tell him that it's not nice or not good to do and put him in a time out for 1 minute(he's only 18mo, it's 1min for every year, your son would be 6mins)

My views on spanking have changed a lot over the past year, first I was against, then I was for, now I'm against again, and never looking back.

The way I see it, police don't pull you out of the car and spank your butt when you speed, or don't use your blinker, you get a ticket(ie negative reinforcement).

Answer 7

I've got a 6 year old and two 3 year olds...
No.. i don't think spankings are inappropriate, when given in moderation...
in other words... don't beat the kid, but 1 or 2 firm swats on the butt(with an open palm, no belts or crazy stuff like that) are gonna remind him that he's the kid and you're the boss because you're his parent.

but from experience, almost on a daily basis, spankings really don't work. when they do work, it's only for a short time.

try other means of discipline.
my kids HATE time-out.
they HATE when you take toys away from them.
they HATE not getting things like candy, ice cream, and other stuff they see at the store.

Answer 8

Spanking is always appropriate and any one who tells you different is crazy. Spankings done out of love and not anger are the best way to go.

Answer 9

We don't spank. We trying talking as much as possible. Also in a temper trantrum is a good rule to remember he hears NOTHING when he's in this state of mind. We try really hard to catch him doing something good and really thanking him for doing well. (at whatever it is). Spanking, in my opinion only leads them to feel that 'hitting' is ok. It's not. Here's a couple of sites I've posted before and use myself.
http://www.latitudes.org/behavioral_charts.html
http://www.ehhs.cmich.edu/~tbushey/tidbits/page1.htm
http://www.chartjungle.com/behavior/behaviorchart7day.html

However with these charts have HIM get involved with what his reward will be at the end of the week. G'luck.

Answer 10

Make a time-out spot and for everytime he's bad, he gets a warning. Then if the disruptive behavior continues, you put him in time out for 6 minutes(one minute for each year of his life) and if he decides to be bad and get up, then just put him back on the spot, explain to him that what he did was wrong. If he continues then just oput him back on the spot without saying anything or giving him hardly any attention at all and he'll eventually give in. (children love attention)