My husband, daughter (Ashley - 2 1/2 years) and I have been living with my husband's grandfather for approximately 5 months now. Ever since we have lived here, he is completely obsessed with Ashley. He is forever saying "Ashley, come and sit on my lap". I'm talking 5 times a day!
When Ashley has been sitting around naked in front of her great grandfather, he would have a funny look in his eyes and would smile and stuff at her. On 1 occasion, he was sitting on the lounge & she was laying on her tummy in front of him and he kept smacking her bottom.
He is always commenting about her when she's nude etc and is always having a look. I know that if there's a naked child running around, you don't go out of your way and "look" if you know what I mean? So what's the story about the defamation? Well I told him to his face that he was a perve and is always looking at Ashley. Husband has seen him looking.
Now he says he is going to sue me for defamation cos he says I called him a pedo.
2007-09-26 18:06:15 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
Husband, daughter and I are moving out either tomorrow or Saturday. ASAP!
He has kicked us out of his house because of what I said to him. Husband's mother looks after Ashley and I told her that Ashley is to have nothing to do with this perve.
I do have a freedom of speech and 2 people cannot "see" something happen. My husband and I have BOTH said that he is perving at our daughter.
Why would my husband say bad stuff about his grandfather? My husband was his grandfather's favourite and he even gave us $12K for a deposit on an apartment.
Personally I don't think he stands a chance in hell. I haven't made my thoughts public and his reputation hasn't been diminished.
In fact, when my husband was at school, his grandfather used to go to the school and give ALL the kids chocolates and EVERYONE was calling him a pedo. Go figure.
2007-09-26 18:20:05 · update #1
Btw, daughter has only been naked a couple of times in his presence whilst coming out of the bath or something.
2007-09-26 18:21:21 · update #2
I have never told anyone that he is a pedo. It was only between my husband and I. His grandfather told his daughter (my husband's mother) that I said he was a pedo.
And to all the people that say I don't care about my daughter - I work fulltime and so does my husband. Ashley is NEVER alone with her great grandfather, not even for 1 second. I am watching his every move and I would never let anyone harm her.
And sometimes Ashley does take her clothes off and she won't let us put her clothes back on. Am I supposed to restrain her? No. ALL kids have a period where they go through a naked stage. Ask any mum.
Btw, I'm in Australia so I don't know if the laws are different here?
Also, we haven't had any place to go. There's a tenant in our apartment and we have finally found a house near by. If any of you are Aussies, you will know that there's a HUGE demand for rental properties at the moment and it's impossible to find something.
2007-09-26 18:42:42 · update #3
He wouldn't stand a chance of winning, you are the mother and it is up to you to keep her safe and any court would see you as the correct one. If you really have a gut feeling he is a pervert, get her away from him, please as fast as you can. He is trying to stop you from charging him with anything.
Don't be intimidated - you need to protect her.
2007-09-26 18:14:36 · answer #1 · answered by inzaratha 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
As for defamation, if it is true, it is not defamation. Also if you said perve, pedo or whatever to his face not to anyone else it is not defamation, it is just an arguement between you and him. So the real question is is Gramps old enough to have senior services check up on his health and welfare? Does he have a problem that needs to be addressed to protect other children he may come in contact with? How does your daughter react to being around Gramps, is she nervous, jitterry, extremely shy,etc? Do you have any concrete evidence he has been inappropriate? Do you honestly in your heart think he could molest a child? If you do, you have a moral obligation to the other children he comes in contact with to tell some one proffessional, a pastor, a social worker, someone you respect and trust and won't be taking in this information as gossip but as an opportunity to do preventative intervention so you don't end up with Gramps in jail or worse knowing a child was hurt and you know you could have at least tried to stop it. Leaving is a great idea for you and yours, you probably won't get mentioned in the will but who cares.
Judy
2007-09-26 18:57:21 · answer #2 · answered by Judy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. I don't know why you would stay in a environment where you claim that a child (to whom you have a parental duty to protect) is in danger.
People love to talk about suing others for slander and libel. It's too bad they don't talk to lawyers first. In Canada anyway, a successful lawsuit must have four ingredients. The petitioner (the alleged victim of the defamation) must prove that:
1. The allegations are false.
2. The person writing or saying the untrue things knew them to be false.
3. There was intention to cause harm to the person.
4. The person was in fact harmed by the allegations.
I strongly suggest that you bring your concerns to the attention of the child welfare authorities. However, you obviously aren't too worried about your child if you stayed there and put up with this stuff for as long as you did.
2007-09-26 18:28:55 · answer #3 · answered by Pagan Dan 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree completely with the 1st answer, he IS a perv! You need 2 get hurry up & get out of that house b4 something terrible happens 2 ur daughter ( you'll never 4give yourself). Tell ur husband he needs 2 check his grandfather & stop touching his child. And please stop letting ur child walk around naked in front of him. This situation is too serious to take any chances. Any judge would kick his perverted ass out of their courtroom if he tried 2 sue so disregard his threat.
2007-09-26 18:22:18 · answer #4 · answered by Jewell 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he is a pedo- get your kid and you out of that house and away from that perv right now. tell the old sicko that if he wants to sue then go ahead..which he can not do (in the real world anyways as any lawyer worth their salt will laugh him right out of the office) screw him!! don't be cowed by that old b@ stard. get out now and if he ever looks at her again or touches her again then call the police and have his a ss arrested..let him find out what they do to pedos in prison
edit: hey all of you people that keep making comments about why the kid is naked..I am assuming that you have never had little ones as a lot of them will take their own clothes off anyways.... THAT IS STILL NO EXCUSE OR JUSTIFICATION FOR THE PERV'S ACTIONS
2007-09-26 18:12:54 · answer #5 · answered by dances with cats 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with other answers and ask why you are, A) allowing your daughter to run around naked when you are suspicious of the grandfather and B) still living at this residence? He would not have a successful case if he attempted to sue you for slander. The answer from the user E is correct.
2007-09-26 18:19:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get the heck out of there! This old freak is a pedaphile and may be doing things to Ashley, you must not let her be naked around him, EVER AGAIN. If you cant move out, make sure that he is never around her. Dont let the baby sit on his lap, tell him to his old nasty face to leave her alone, do NOT touch her, and stop asking her to sit on his lap. Dear God, I would be gone so fast. Again, get the heck out of there
2007-09-26 18:21:13 · answer #7 · answered by bud88cynthia 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your daughter in private, just Ashley and mom. Be gentle though, and continue to ask her subtle questions. Like if grandpa has ever touched her in a way that made her feel uncomfortable. Also, talk to your husband, in a gentle way, sense it is his family you're talking about. If anything seems....if you know something is wrong you need to get out of there for your daughters sake immediately. And whether, and hopefully hasn't happened, is then you still need to leave there.
2007-09-26 18:19:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He has no case. This is America and you are allowed to speak your mind and voice your opinion, especially in your own home. What are his damages? Your hurt his poor wittle feelins? Who cares. Let him waste money and sue.
Now onto your real problem, you need to get your kids out of his house, yesterday. No excuses, no bullsh*t. Call the local battered women's hot line and tell them about the inappropriate touching and behavior. Tell them you have no where else to go, then take your kids and get out.
Your boyfriend will have to find a suitable place for you to live before you go back to him. Put your kids first. Please.
2007-09-26 18:19:13 · answer #9 · answered by Gem 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Firstly why do you let Ashley to go around naked Get out of there now, He will sue you if he is really dumb Does he want those things about him to come out in court? I think not
2007-09-26 18:15:43 · answer #10 · answered by devora k 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋