What is one lesson you want to impart to your child to carry with them into adulthood? why?

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what specific way do you, or plan to, model/teach that lesson?

great answers!!! keep 'em coming...will be sooooo hard to pick a fave!

Answer 1

I want to impart good Christian values in my children. I was raised in a Christian home and I truly feel that it has been the main reason I have never been an alcoholic, abused drugs, slept around, or been in trouble with the law. The way I would teach them in through my example. Living my life as God would have me, loving my wife and treating her with respect, spending time at the dinner table as a family, reading the Bible together as a family, and providing a loving environment for my children so that they never have to be afraid to come to me for help or guidance. Thank for the question, really made me think of what kind of father I want to be to my children.

Answer 2

This is hard because there are so many lessons I want to teach my children! But if only one was going to stick with them their whole lives I would hope that it was this:

You are no better and no worse than anyone else on earth.

The richest person in the world and the poorest, the biggest sinner you've ever met and the most pious, the smartest and the dumbest, the nicest and the meanest, the most powerful and the weakest are all equal in the eyes of God.

You [my children] cannot stand in judgement of other people and their actions, nor can you control them, and you shouldn't belittle them or pick on them-you are of exactly equal importance and do not have the RIGHT to look down on anyone.

By the same token, don't allow other people to guilt, manipulate, bully or control you. No one in this world-not even if they were KING of the world-is your better, and no one has a right to control that which is your decision-your heart, your mind, your conscience, and your actions.

You are not "entitled" to anything-you have to work like everyone else-but don't let anyone "entitle" themselves to what is yours.

Treat everyone with an equal amount of human respect and decency, even if you do not respect their actions. You don't have to be a part of their life to respect their right to make their own choices.

We show our son (and will show our future children) this, firstly, by showing human respect to everyone and not judging other people. We also show this by not giving undue deference to people because of their position [with God being the obvious exception]. Our son is not required to call people ma'am, sir, mister, missus, doctor, etc. unless those people request it specifically-because then it becomes a part of respecting people's wishes, rather than an arbitrary title which is there mostly to imply that person is better than you because they are older and/or have spent more time in school. We do not believe that people should be revered just for being old-managing not to die is not an accomplishment-or because they have spent money on higher education. You can buy a title like that-which means it is not necissarily an indicator of qualities that should be revered.

Once our children are older, we plan on teaching him about our beliefs in a more active way, but for now it is mostly by example.

Answer 3

That a positive outlook (and a good sense of humour) can help you overcome a lot of problems.

I'm a very happy person and so is my husband. We model a positive attitude and let our kids know that following dreams is important.

Both of our sons are very confident, positive people. Our oldest is 20 and he's living in the city pursuing his dream as a stand up comedian. (he was just featured on the Canadian equivalent of MTV) Our youngest is 15 and he is a force of nature. His happiness is contageous and his positive nature makes him think anything is possible and for him, it usually is. He works so hard at school and has ADD but he sees that as a good thing since he is a great multitasker.

I think that the fact that I'm always sure there's a pony in every pile of poo and my husband sees a silver lining in every thunder cloud really resonates with our kids. That and the fact that we both are more than willing to add work to that positive attitude we have.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

The main and most important thing is a good example. They do what you like to do!
Saying that, I think the most important thing is to teach them to stand on their own two feet. Let them know that the things they do have a reaction. (Both good and bad)
Let them know that ignorant people have this kind of life and "smart" people have THIS kind of life.
The main thing to remember is that it's not a one time thing. Tiny little hints throughout the week for many years is the key......IE: Poor so and so flunked out of college and now she's living in a hovel with an uneducated, lazy bum...Don't harp on it, just bring it up. Believe it or not they hear you....You won't know it until they're married,
so YOU have to be patient.
Keep casually bringing up the woes of stupid people and remind them that THEY won't let that happen to them.
Don't bug them on it, just keep reinforcing it a little bit at a time... But keep in mind that your actions will speak louder than your words. Kids ain't stupid!

Answer 6

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

It still is the *ideal* way to behave.

When they didn't I pointed out to them - "How would you like it if ...?" and so on (without nagging too much).
Sometimes I also let them know that there were *consequences* for upsetting/harming others - imposed as well as natural ones because that is true in adult life too.
Setting an example is important too but that does *Not* mean that children can be treated as though adults - "because I say so" was an often used phrase in my house too I'm afraid!

Answer 7

to be caring and not value material wealth.....
to care more about people than things :)....why?...why not?
what is material wealth in the spectrum of humanity and life?....nothing, not happiness and not peace....in fact, i believe material things lead to the exact opposite....i teach and model this lesson everyday in the way i approach the natural and unnatural world....we do not have much, but have plenty....we give more than we take....we show love without the necessity of incorporating "things" into it....we do not buy things, we find things....and give other things away when done with them......

Answer 8

WOW! A GOOD one. There are many many lessons Id like my children to take into adulthood with them, but if I had to pick one it would be :Be Honest. Honest with other people, honest with yourself. When you boil life down, it all has to do with honesty. You cant have love without honesty, you cant communicate effectively without honesty, you cant have integrity without honesty, you cant be yourself unless youre honest about who you are.

Answer 9

Manners! You can do without a lot of things and still be a pleasant person. It's hard to be pleasant if you've got no manners.

Answer 10

To learn!! Get an education, otherwise you ain't going nowhere in this life.