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Question

My boyfriend is unworthy to serve a mission. I won't go into details, I'm sure that you can guess why...

He's already gotten his call and he's leaving in four weeks. He doesn't feel guilty at all about what we do.

How can someone go against everything he's been taught and lie so blatantly? How can his converts trust him? What do I do?

Answer 1

What he practices has nothing to do with his faith. Are you LDS too? If you are why don't you admit your sins to the elders of your church. Or do you not practice what you preach also.

Answer 2

He must not go on his mission and he must not go to the Temple. This would be abusing a sacred trust. I'm afraid it falls to you to stop it happening. He is not worthy to be a missionary, and only you know that.

If he isn't feeling guilty, then presumably he hasn't repented either. So it falls to you to go to the Bishop and tell him what has been happening.

Your boyfriend's mission may be put on hold for a while as he goes through the repentance process, but far better that than for him to be sent home early in disgrace. And he would be. Either he would fall into sin on his mission with a girl he met there and get caught (how you you feel about that!) or the guilt would finally catch up with him and he'd confess to his mission president.

Please don't let him go. We need good missionaries who have the spirit, not unworthy ones like this.

Answer 3

Well are you LDS? If you are then you should feel guilty also. I hope he will choose to do the right thing before he leaves. Sometimes the right thing is the hardest thing to do. I was offered a calling as a primary teacher in my ward but i had to turn it down because of my sins which i had up until that point been to scared to confess. I felt great taking that load off of my shoulders. If your boyfriend leaves for the MTC and then feels guilt taking control of him and confesses he will face some really serious consequences. I may be mistaken but missionaries go to the MTC after they have recieved there endowments at the temple and if he does that then he has entered the temple with an impure heart. Im sure the church authority, his bishop, will not be pleased if this is the path that he chooses. His family will also be very upset. This will also stop the holy spirit from helping him serve his mission to his full potential.

Answer 4

If someone goes into missionary service with serious sins that have not been properly repented of, it becomes very very difficult to be an effective missionary. This will probably weigh him down heavily with mental and spiritual anguish, especially in the MTC where the Spirit is so intense... he will probably end up confessing his sins to one of his leaders in the MTC or perhaps his Mission President in the field because he will feel so guilty. Then he would probably get sent home so he can fully repent. The Church has extremely high standards for its missionaries, and there are good reasons for that. In all honesty, your boyfriend would probably be happier in the long run if he confesses to his bishop ASAP and gets this cleared up. If he really loves the Lord and wants to do things the Lord's way, then he will humble himself and do the right thing. If you are also LDS, you should speak with your bishop, too. He will know the most appropriate way to handle this situation.

Answer 5

There is this little thing called REPENTANTANCE AND FORGIVENESS. We are told in the temple on multiple occasions that God will not be mocked. Attending the temple unworthily is mocking God. If he has repented of his sin and gained forgiveness then he is NOT unworthy to go. Remember that it is NOT our place to judge him but his Bishop's and Stake President's when they give him his temple recommend.

Maybe you should think about discussing YOUR own issues with your bishop. From what you say (and you admitted for all the world to see that you have sinned too), you aren't worthy to have an RM when he does get back. But that is just my observation. Think about it.

Answer 6

It's unfortunate that there are so many people in the LDS religion, and any of the religious groups really, who go against the doctrine, who are rude to others, who claim they are better than others, who lie and are hypocritical. If I were you, and if I were involved in the reason that the missionary shouldn't go on a mission, I would talk to your bishop. Immediately. Talk to your boyfriend. Ask him why he is willing to lie. Do the right thing. Even though it is hard, it should be done. Good luck!

Answer 7

ex-mormon here, so you may not want to here what I say, in dealing with some mormons and nonmormons as well, some people have this ability to just refuse to see the truth and go on believing it never happened, so you can either tell someone, or let him go as a sinner and preach the gospel as a sinner, while he denies that he is a sinner and may never admit, he sinned at all. He has placed the burden on you since he refuses to see the truth, so the ball is in your court, do you keep the secret to or do you tell someone, can you keep the secret for the rest of your life, or do you have to tell someone? Or do you want to believe that time will make him confess, tho I really think you are living in a fantasy world if you are waiting on him to confess in the future, the longer you wait for guilt to rack him, the longer he will forget that it ever happen.

Answer 8

Firstly, if there's something you need taken care of yourself, such as getting encouragement or strength, you need to do that right away.

Secondly you need to tell your boyfriend the truth. You need to sit down and talk to him. You love him. You want him to do what's right. You want him to become the man God wants him to be. You're both good people, and now one of you needs help, encouragement and reassurence. And you need to have courage. You seem to understand this work better than he does.

Once you've said all that needs to be said, it will be up to him. Understand that if he does the right thing, it will create a delay, if not cause him to completely loose the mission. But he will become a better person than a mission like this could ever have made him.

Once you've done what you can, if he doesn't do what's right, do not blame yourself. You did what you were suppose to do. The rest will be in the Lord's hands.

It won't be easy. There might be sacrifice and there might be loss.

Answer 9

If I had to bet on this I am going to bet that either in the MTC or while teaching the gospel and realizing what a hyppocrite he was he is going to feel extremely guilty and eventually talk to his mission president about it.

Boys are taught that a mission is a very important commandment that they should be striving to stay worthy and pray to gain a desire to serve. It can be a lot of pressure. He may not want to dissappoint his family or himself. It takes a lot of courage to come forth and admit to a sin big enough to keep you off your mission.

I think that you should try to stop helping him sin and leave it up to him to find his way. Eventually he is going to have to decide for himself if being a faithful member of the church and an honest missionary is what he wants.

God inspires thru missionaries. I think the converts hearts and minds can be touched even if they are being taught by an unfaithful missionary.



sweet blonde, get off your high horse. I am mormon and I bet I know a heck of a lot more mormons than you and they arent like that. In any group of people you will have hyppocrites and those that dont live up to what they claim. So what. It isnt typical mormon behavior at all. I bet you are just the perfect person that never messes up or does anything contrary to what you preach arent you.

sweet blonde you claimed it was typical mormon behavior to be a downright hyppocrite. Being mormon you are basically calling me a hyppocrite then.
I know that Utah mormons can be jerks to nonmormons. It is a reason why I would never live in Utah, but mormons that act like many of them to in Utah, clickish and holier than thou are not truly practicing mormon beliefs.
Your joke wasnt funny. It was meant to degrade mormons. I would have laughed and thought it was funny if the follow up wasnt how all mormons are liars and hyppocrites.
I still bet I know more true mormons then you do. I know that mormons in general are good people that are trying to live their religion in a country where people still think we drink blood and performing sacrifices in our temples. People like you do nothing but perpetuate total lies about mormons as a people and serves no purpose but for you to vent your dislike.

Answer 10

You could talk to his bishop, but usually, it's a matter of karma, or what goes around comes around. Many guys who go on a mission like that usually end up going home early.