i told her i would never talk to her again..my mother in law knew the pain his affair caused me but she invited the woman to dinner knowing it..
2007-09-26 16:10:43 · 33 answers · asked by glitsyjewels 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Why would she do that? Sounds like your mil has some serious issues!
2007-09-26 16:13:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious that your mother in law does not think you are good enough for her son. How did your husband react to this. If you two have moved past the affair and patched things up he should have been nearly as upset as you.
At this point you have two options: You can accept the ***** mother in law and move on with your marriage. Or you can make a stand on the issue, but then you have to acknowledge that your husband may not give you answers you like. If he's not upset with mom over this kind of thing, then there's a pretty good chance he still had feelings for this other woman and was happy for the blameless opportunity to spend time with her.
I could be wrong, but it's something to consider anyway.
Good luck.
2007-09-26 16:22:32 · answer #2 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like your mother-in-law and the mistress planned this together. You didn't say whether you and your husband are still together, or if your husband was present at this dinner. If he was, and didn't think there was anything wrong with the mistress being there, I would be worried about my marriage to this guy. A married man who has or has had a mistress is not someone you can trust, and certainly not someone you should want to spend the rest of your life with.
2007-09-26 16:30:42 · answer #3 · answered by Virginia B (John 16:33) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Husbands mistress? Sounds like there is more than one issue in your life. But, yes I would be extremely hurt. The fact that your mother-in-law knows your husband had a mistress shows that she is obviously why to involved in your marriage. And the fact that your husband allowed this to happen shows that he doesn't respect you and that he hasn't accepted the pain that he's caused you. In my opinion, the fact that he allowed his mother to do this, and in front of you to boot, is like having an affair all over again. Sounds like you need to analyze your relationship and seek some marriage counseling. I would have never stayed for the meal!!! Good luck!
2007-09-26 16:19:19 · answer #4 · answered by ladybug 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would be angry. I would be very angry with my self that I stayed after my husband had an affair and made a fool of me. Yes I would be very angry!
And the mother in law did it just to get to you and you let her and now you are a bigger fool for not standing up to her (the mother in law) and showing your butt and everyone knows it. Everyone is now talking behind your back and you have to stand up and make some noise honey! you know sometimes "being a ***** is all a woman has to hold on to" so make some noise and show them the meaning of *****!
2007-09-26 16:14:42 · answer #5 · answered by soulmate_n_nc 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
each from time to time we can say issues that would want to offend, even relatives, even if we mean to assist. you are able to problem or ask your self about ideas controlling. it is nice or perhaps nobel, yet till your mom-in-regulation asks for help, no longer your organization - even then, this is a sticky situation. The dinner idea sounds very rude. Dinners are commonly extra formal. attempt something a lot less formal and it might really be better in the adventure that your husband wasn't there - that way you're only desirous to spend some "woman" or "mom" time. Plus, your husband might want to spend the time at the same time with his dad. even as/in case you get to spend a even as on my own with her, do not bounce out and ask if he's controlling. do not get that topic all started no count number how tempted you're. Spend time with her and get to carry close one yet another. If/even as she needs to instruct to you, she will. this situation is between her and her husband - you don't understand what all's in contact. My in-guidelines continuously do issues at the same time, extraordinarily provided that they retired. of their situation, my mom-in-regulation only did no longer have any pastimes or own pastimes that weren't her husbands. (She's provided that gotten into some issues, thank goodness!) sturdy success.
2016-10-20 03:33:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would make me angry. ASounds like the mother-in-law is trying to force you out. Don't get loud and arguementative. Just serve the proper foods under the circumstances. Give your mother-in-law pickled pigs feet.... the mistress... symbolically-- leftovers and the husband.... make sure at the end of the meal he is full of bologna (or boloney). tell them it is a fitting meal for all of them under the circunstance. I would be equally upset with the mistress and husband over accepting the arrangement.
2007-09-26 16:19:31 · answer #7 · answered by the_chief 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The 3 of them sound like a bunch of sick-o's as what kind of man introduces his "mistress" to his mother? I would have love to know your husbands reaction to this.? I would move on and let them enjoy each other and you can not make sense out of crazy..
2007-09-27 02:22:23 · answer #8 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has issues. But she still should have never invited her to dinner and what would be the point of her doing that?
2007-09-26 17:22:22 · answer #9 · answered by mum_2three 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holly smokes! That's absolutely reprehensible behavior. Your mother in law sounds like a crazy manipulative evil woman!
2007-09-26 16:14:54 · answer #10 · answered by scout out 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i would be very angry! but do u think that u will be satisfied or the mistress easily gone..i think u should ask your mother in law why she's doing that..maybe it is not same as u think ..i hope u'll be the brave person..what ever happen take that as a experience..
2007-09-26 16:19:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋