I was on a rant about some things that 20 yrs removed hold little importance now but at the time i was livid, she asked me why i was mad at this boy and i told her my dramatic typical 15 yr old girl drama, she smiled warmly at me and asked if i thought the hate and anger i felt was hurting this boy, and i answered no what does he care, and she said thats the point , i was only hurting myself.That always stuck with me, and to this very day i still remember her words, hate only hurts the person whos angry,not saying you should be a doormat but think about things or people religions etc that you hate, in all reality your only causing yourself pain and mental agony.when those your hating are going on about there live(now im not talking about hating things like wars and the like)mostly resentments.I hope this finds you all well who read this love and light.Oh yes the question,can you let go of your resentments without picking them back uP?
2007-09-26 16:06:06 · 20 answers · asked by anonomous 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Excellent read and well made point.
To your question, nope, but i will try harder.
2007-09-26 16:11:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 64 years old, and I worry mainly about my health. So I searched the Bible and found a good thing to do for my health. And, it relates to your question:
Jesus sent his disciples out to heal people, and very shortly they came back and said they were unable to heal anyone.
So, then Jesus told them that for any healing to take place, and before they could work any such miracles they must first forgive everyone of everything.
Wow! you cannot really forgive someone and still "hate" them.
I guess my answer to you is that if you want to be healthy, you can and eventually will "let go of your resentments". And, if you have a problem "picking them back up", just remind yourself that they are not healthy.
So the next time you get sick, make sure you are not "holding any resentments".
smiles --
2007-09-26 16:30:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When God allows bad people and things in you life it is His commandment that you must forgive those who wrong you. Even more than 7*70 and I know from experience. The memory will never leave you but you will harbor no hate no revenge and when possible you will help those who hurt you. I pray for those who persecute me every day that they may hear God's truth and love this day. They still need to make their on decisions because that is what free will is all about. Since the memory never goes away only with the help of the Holy Spirit will you be able not to pick them up again.
2007-09-26 16:22:36 · answer #3 · answered by Curtis 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have felt as the very wise old lady for most of my life.
When anger takes hold , you are right it hurts nobody but your self. ( I am also referring to the personal hate you were talking about.) Hate harms you in more ways then one. It also can give you high blood pressure, and make you a very depressed person. It can cause heart attacks and strokes because of the high blood pressure. But it can also cause you to move away from God because when you are angry, and have hate in your heart, you have no room for the love. So anger only hurts you. It is very hard sometimes to lay it down, especially when some one has really done something wrong to you, But you have to try because of the reasons that I have already stated.
2007-09-26 16:19:26 · answer #4 · answered by jenx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a wise old woman indeed! In the end, anger only hurts the one who can't let go of it and won't move on. Thankfully the things I thought I'd never get over are no more than dim memories and dull aches and more important things have filled my life. Thanks for a great reminder and I hope everyone understands your point and takes it to heart. Take good care and all the best. Blessings, Gracie
2007-09-26 16:21:56 · answer #5 · answered by night-owl gracie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think the Cold War still matters in world politics. As for the resentment, it's possible. The best way is to forgive your transgressors.
2007-09-26 16:08:50 · answer #6 · answered by Skunk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i ignore and not dwell on someone i resent, someone who wants my attention and who can offer me nothing but pain; then i believe i am protecting myself, which might hurt them in the process but not intentionally. if letting go of my resentment meant not ignoring and avoiding them but responding to them, causing me further emotional pain then i would have no wish to do so, no.
in the situation, more as you describe, that the person is "over" you and you are the only one still contemplating the relationship, then of course you need to let it go, hopefully learning something in the process.
2007-09-26 16:13:03 · answer #7 · answered by Bored Enough To Be Here 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when we let go of our resentments, we learn something about ourselves and grow in a way. When a time comes that askes us if we should pick them back up again, we are just in need of a refreshment of this knowledge that we had gained.
Perhaps just a refreshment for our soul.
2007-09-26 17:45:48 · answer #8 · answered by Mother anne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive
2007-09-26 16:46:36 · answer #9 · answered by robert p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely fantastic bit of advice! glad you got to hear it at that age, it is a very important time in life.
it is hard not to pick them back up sometimes. usually i can easily let it go. but sometimes it is easy to find myself "surprised" into feeling the anger again.
2007-09-26 16:16:12 · answer #10 · answered by deleted 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people don't choose a deep enough lake.
Some people keep a pocket full of rocks with them all day.
I hate rocks.
2007-09-26 16:10:40 · answer #11 · answered by n9wff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋