My heart is hurting as I type, My 20 year old daughter and I just got into a physical fist fight along with some really hurtful words. I feel sick to my stomach because of this. What happen was recently my mother her grandmother passed. at first I let her and my 19 year old son live in her house , the destroyed it. Didn't pay any ulities. Made a BIG MESS, so i put them out. My daughter went to a hotel. Where she has been for the past 5 months. So I asked if she now wanted to move back in. She said yes but she asked was the house pay for and if so she felt she shouldn't have to pay rent. I said she would only 525 a month for a 3 bd 11/2 bth. she got upset. stated i just wanted her money, not true only trying to teach her responsiblity.Make a long story short she got loud, crused , then swung. what ever the reason. I feel I am HER MOTHER and outside in public, cursing then to swing on me. I have tried to make this bonding work, but it never does, I am tired I feel defeated.
2007-09-26 15:42:31 · 7 answers · asked by wizzdom16 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You were right. She will never learn to be responsible if you support her for the rest of her life. She should get a job and work. $525 a month is not a lot. I know it hurts but she crossed the line. Not only by hitting you but by even cursing at you. She should have more respect for her mother than that. She has to learn the hard way. She has to accept responsibility for her own actions. You raised her, now it's her turn to make her own mistakes and live with the consequences.
2007-09-26 16:04:40 · answer #1 · answered by mamabear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. I have a very similiar situation that I am contending with because my Ex didn't cut the string early.
She is 20 yrs old. $525.00 is very reasonable for the home you are offerings. If she thinks that she can do better then let her.
You shouldn't feel defeated as you have done your best to raise her properly.
What to do? Let things cool down but stand firm on your offer for the house. NOTHING IS Free in life and you shouldn't have to pick up the tab because she wants a free and easy life.
God Bless and Good Luck
2007-09-26 17:19:47 · answer #2 · answered by davethepanther 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously your daughter must live on her own, not in your home or your property. She will only take advantage of you. She needs to learn what life is like in the real world.
Is this the first time she hit you? Did she apologize? Is she drinking too much or doing drugs?Do you think your grandson is safe with her? These are things you must consider. If you think she may hurt or neglect her son, you need to call Child Protection Services or take other measures to protect the child.
2007-09-26 17:32:47 · answer #3 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems you were giving her a good deal for the amount of rent. You may need to let her try and make it on her own. One day she will realize that she needs you. Don't push too hard cause that will only push her away.
2007-09-26 15:59:25 · answer #4 · answered by shaigirl559 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let her move in for free - she is using you. Your children need to learn responsibility - the rent sounds cheap. If she does move in again, make sure she doesn't trash the house again.
good luck
2007-09-26 15:49:53 · answer #5 · answered by L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is an adult. If she won't take care of herself it's not your problem. You said you love your grandson. If she is adult enough to make a baby, she is adult enough to support him.
STAND YOUR GROUND!!!!
Can I rent the house?
2007-09-26 16:02:30 · answer #6 · answered by Asked and Answered 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stand your ground momma you are doing the right thing
2007-09-26 15:58:23 · answer #7 · answered by Jumpin' in 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋